Someone please tell me it gets better!!!

I guess when it rains, it pours.....

My cousin (MOH) emailed me and told me that she won't be able to afford to get her hair and makeup done by my girls, even though I offered to pay for half. Originally she said she would be able to, but she's having financial difficulties (from what I understand will also affect the outcome of my shower) so she now won't be able to.

This now means I will have to find another hair and makeup artist 2 months before my wedding and who DOES NOT have a minimum. Right now I only have 2 people for hair and makeup, and the minimum is 3.

Then, my brother called to see what dates I'm not available because they're planning the baby's christening. And he tells me 'you really picked a phucked up time to get married, it's not convenient for anyone with all that's going on.' Gee thanks, way to make me feel better with all the crap I've had to put up with!! I had to remind him that I was shooting for October, but because of HIM telling me they had a wedding in September, I changed it out of courtesy. Meantime that wedding got cancelled!! I have brought up to FH about postponing our wedding, but he keeps saying no, that too bad it's inconvenient, that anytime we pick will probably be inconvenient anyway.

Ugh someone please tell me it gets better!!

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Wow, you have a lot of selfish people in your life. I'm sorry!

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Posted by SomethingBlu

Wow, you have a lot of selfish people in your life. I'm sorry!

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My cousin, I wouldn't say is selfish, she's just doing what she can. They just bought a house and have a toddler. So the money issue doesn't bother me as much as the fact that I now have to find someone new to do the hair and makeup.

As for my brother, I wish he didn't say that comment, but that's why I had to remind him why we pushed it to April in the first place!!

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Posted by BKtoLI

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Posted by SomethingBlu

Wow, you have a lot of selfish people in your life. I'm sorry!

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My cousin, I wouldn't say is selfish, she's just doing what she can. They just bought a house and have a toddler. So the money issue doesn't bother me as much as the fact that I now have to find someone new to do the hair and makeup.

As for my brother, I wish he didn't say that comment, but that's why I had to remind him why we pushed it to April in the first place!!

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You shouldn't have to explain to ANYONE why you chose your date. That's between you and your FH. The fact that you changed it from October because of your brother shows that you have a lot more consideration for him than he has for you. You need to think about the wedding, the marriage and your future with your FH. Not other people. Honestly. You shouldn't feel like you have to explain yourself or consider them. It sounds like you're bending over backwards to please everyone...but what about you? What about your FH? Who thinks about you two?

As for the hair dilemma, maybe pay for your mom or go halfsies with her so that she'll be #3?

Good luck with everything. But honestly, stop giving an eff about others...you're too close to your wedding and that's how things get messed up.

These are for you...

This is added stress you do not need.
I'm sorry you are going through this.

I think that was very hurtful what your brother said.

I agree with Sasha, don't worry about others, you are too close to your wedding. Enjoy the time you have left!!!!!!!

MANY for you Janna!!!! You have every right to be ticked. You don't need someone telling you that you picked a bad day. It isn't like you are springing it on them at the last minute! People are just

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Posted by SomethingBlu

As for the hair dilemma, maybe pay for your mom or go halfsies with her so that she'll be #3?

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I WISH this was an option.

Both mothers don't feel comfortable with someone else doing their hair or makeup. I've already discussed it with them. One of my bridesmaids needs to be under a dryer for hours to do her hair, so she's doing it the day before. I have BMs from all over, so most of them are opting to do it close to home.

Janna, I am sorry you seem to be going through some tough times right now.

some of them you cannot control or have any say over, and those things can really weigh you down, so other things that would normally be easy to deal with and overcome can feel crushing.

I know money is tight for you right now, but I think it would be less stressful to up the other half of your cousins m/u (how much more can half be?) rather than waste more money on new trials just to find another artist....that doesn't make any sense and is far more stressful.

as for your brother....people say stupid stuff all the time that would normally roll off your back...let it do just that...laugh it off....it's an assinine statement...getting upset about just gives it validity, which it does not deserve.

chin up young person....it's a sunny day and your geting married soon.

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Posted by BKtoLI

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Posted by SomethingBlu

As for the hair dilemma, maybe pay for your mom or go halfsies with her so that she'll be #3?

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I WISH this was an option.

Both mothers don't feel comfortable with someone else doing their hair or makeup. I've already discussed it with them. One of my bridesmaids needs to be under a dryer for hours to do her hair, so she's doing it the day before. I have BMs from all over, so most of them are opting to do it close to home.

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I completely agree with Jess on this...why look for a new person?

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Posted by JessicaM.
I know money is tight for you right now, but I think it would be less stressful to up the other half of your cousins m/u (how much more can half be?) rather than waste more money on new trials just to find another artist....that doesn't make any sense and is far more stressful.

chin up young person....it's a sunny day and your geting married soon.

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WOW...that is all so wrong!

I say you stick with the hair and mu people you have..can't your cousin find someone else??

And your brother?? That is really rude!

It would be another $80 to cover her, or $160 in total to cover her hair and makeup.

I don't know yet if I can pull that off, and won't know until April, which bites. I am already paying for the hotel suite, which she will be staying in with me, which will be $325.

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Posted by BKtoLI

It would be another $80 to cover her, or $160 in total to cover her hair and makeup.

I don't know yet if I can pull that off, and won't know until April, which bites. I am already paying for the hotel suite, which she will be staying in with me, which will be $325.

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DOWNGRADE the hotel! you don't need a suite Janna. I am getting a regular room. b/c the suite is not that much bigger, but $125 dollars more...if you downgrade, you'll probably make up a good portion of the extra money you'd have to come up with for her full hair and makeup

I was thinking of downgrading it....supposedly the JR. Suite is nicer....but I'm hoping anything is still available now since there are a lot of weddings the same weekend!

Guess I got some calls to make today....

I'm right there with you. I almost through in the towel on this thing last night. I hope things get better for you!

Aww!! Janna, I am so sorry this is happening to you!! I understand $$$ issues (with your MOH), but I feel like, they kinda should know your wedding will be an expence when they say yes, and if they can't afford it, then they shouldn't say yes.

As far as your brother goes..... I don't even know what to say, I am so sorry he is being so selfish!!

I hope this all works out for you!!

awh, i'm sorry hun. big hugs.

Sending hugs your way... No matter what happens, these are all just details. The important thing is that in a few months, you are marrying your best friend. It S U C K S when family isn't supportive and I know that feeling...but don't let it ruin your happiness. Wedding planning should be an enjoyable experience.

As for your MOH, can you pay for her hair and have her do her own makeup? Would that allow you to keep your hair and makeup person?