Sometime FH makes me want to....(LONG)

Last night I was talking with him about how I had three things I wanted to get done over the summer: flowers, invites, HM.

Well invites are just about done, I got my quote, I'm just waiting for my proof in the mail.

Flowers though, as many of you know I'm using a friend to do my flowers. Well can I just say he s*cks at keeping in touch. When I met with him in the beginning of July, we said we'd meet again in the second week of August so he could make some samples. So I emailed him in the last week of July to see what day/time would work for him. No answer. Another email the first week of August. No answer. Another email on August 8. No answer. So the second week of August came and went with no response. Another email August 24.....no answer. My mom happened to run into his uncle the other night, and he's on vacation the past two weeks. So I'm like, ok that's fine, but what happened the two weeks before that???? So I still have yet to see any samples, and he's a teacher, so he goes back to work in a week.

I tell FH this and his response: 'Who cares???' I'm like what???? He says they're just flowers, no one pays attention to them, and we can figure them out closer to the wedding Then he says that if my friend doesn't come through, we'll just go to a different florist. I'm like 'they're all going to be a lot more expensive and will probably be booked by then!!!!' He tells me no one will even care if we just put a candle on each table......and he meant ONE candle.......


Then last night we're discussing HM. Looks like we're going on a European cruise instead of Australia. It just makes more sense and is a whole lot more feasible financially. Great! I tell him we need to speak with his parents (they're footing the bill for it). He's all 'don't worry about it,....we have time.' And I tell him that I wanted to have it booked by the end of the summer. What if prices go up? So he says then we'll figure something else out. He looks at me and says 'well it's just a vacation.......who cares where we go?' And of course I'm all 'just a vacation??? It's our HM!!!!'


Then he says to me....'what are you so worried about....we've got plenty of time and everything's done' WHAT??? Everything's done???

I swear, sometimes he just makes me want to

Awww.. The comment about the flowers is a typical guy comment. I bet the male guest really wouldn't notice if you put one candle on each table.. haha

I totally agree with you about the honeymoon!

I'm sorry Laura

But this why I don't tell FH anything wedding related, he has no clue what is booked or what was being booked, because he simply didn't care and I got that . I just kept on doing everything and it will all be a big surprise on the wedding day

Oh, Laura! Hang in there. They just don't get it - I love the 'everything's done' comment, that annoys me so much when Mike says that. I want to be like - yeah, no thanks to you!! So frustrating. GL with everything, I'm sure the flowers will work out. And if the communication doesn't get better once he goes back to work, maybe shop around - just to be on the safe side. There are so many florists. As for honeymoon, my girlfriend is doing a Euro cruise after her wedding in three weeks and they didn't book too far in advance - but you do want to get your airfare. Let me know if you need anything!!

PS - how funny is it that every male in this situation is named - what else - Mike.

Ugh!!! Sometimes they are soooooo difficult...sorry...

I think you can use a big FAT

Men, they just don't understand!!!

I'm sorry to hear that. I agree...I think that is such a guy to say that about the flowers. I think my FH would think the same way. I think when it comes to flowers guys could care less. Which is fine with me, I don't plan on getting any imput from my FH on flowers.
As for the HM, I would be the same way as you. Men seem to like to wait til the last minute for so many things and I think it is natural for us to plan things out.
Good luck to you!

Men can be so clueless sometimes... My FH says things JUST like this.

I hate the 'we have time' comment!
as if just b/c we have time means that everything suppose to be done last min, its as if they enjoy running around like mad trying to get things done 2 days before. thats why I give a timeline to FH and its not even a question its just what suppose to be
my advice is not to 'consult' but to give 'orders'

I've been dealing with the same stuff throughout the process- sometimes he's really good, and other times he's exactly like what you described with your FH.


P.S. Mine's a Mike too!

men dont understand hang in there ps i love the kicking him out the door

And this is exactly why FH knows nothing! Yeah, at first, I got all excited telling him about the appointments, quotes, etc, until I realized that while I'm talking wedding stuff, he's probably got little birds circling around his head in a huge question mark shape! He just doesn't get it so I don't bother. I talk to FSIL and other women in his family, but not him...sorry. The only thing he wants to know about is the HM, his vacation. Fine with me.

Save yourself some aggravation, keep FH on a need to know!

Thanks girls....it really was just a vent. I'm fine and I know what needs to get done will get done, with very little help from FH. And I never expected him to really understand, but just needed him to listen....which he did, and then proceeded to call me crazy. But yes, sometimes I want to strangle him

I agree that it is just a boy things, still stinks but at least ur not alone

Sometimes even though we know they don't care you just need a nice response back like yes hunnie I understand, it will all work out NOT the we have so much time you're crazy which we ALL seem to get way too often haha.....hang in there buddy we're all here to help and listen!