Sometimes FH does things that make me wanna scream. Like tonight ... we don't live together (both still with our parents) and the weekdays we don't see each other till around 6, plus he a dj we rarely see each other on the weekend. So tonight he comes over for my mom birthday everything fine then he gets annoyed because I want to stay in the living room to watch a show with my family. He didn't want to watch (I could tell) so he puts on this attitude and as soon as the shows over he says he going home. It's really not a big deal but it just got me so frustrated. I am not going to see him Fri, Sat, or Sun cause of work and tomorrow were going to fire island for my mom birthday dinner. I guess I just thought we could have an hour of alone time tonight. Sorry this is such a long rant!.
b2b2013
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Sorry you're frustrated! FH works 2 jobs right now and my full time schedule is nuts, so we don't have a lot of time together either (and we don't have any days off together). Sometimes he will come home and go directly to bed, which makes me frustrated at times because I never see him. I try to be understanding because I know he's tired, but sometimes I feel like saying 'Hey! What about me?!'
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Im sorry hun...i hear you ...that sounds like my FH and i in alot of ways ...we dont see each other as much but when we do we fight ...stupid stuff but its hard when u dont live together .... and his jobs hours are all over the place he can work 6-2, 4-8, 7-3, or 12-8 and he never knows what time he is working ..he finds out at 2pm when he is working for the next day..it sucks and i can never really makes plans ..and i get upset b/c i never know ....
Kris10nGerard
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Thanks girls. Its good to know your not the only one. I am really hoping we can move in together next summer and some of these little issues will not be such a big deal.
Irishbride16
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No problem ....yea its just hard b/c u guys dont live together ...i know the feeling
MommaMia
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Fh and I do live together but he works midnights and I work days, as well as being a student and having a third grader (my daughter from a previous relationship). He rotate a 5 day on 2 off, 5 on 3 off schedule so it reAlly blows sometimes, not to mention the wedding stree on top of it! I try to remember to breathe. Lil fights r good for the soul and make us stronger! Lol so I hope!!
KristyANDMatt224
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i totally get it! FH is FDNY so his schedule can change at anytime. In addition, he plays softball religiously (no joke, on the roster for over 50 teams, so can pretty much catch a game whenever he's free) He plays year round, but esp from April to Oct, he plays in tournaments EVERY weekend. Some are day tourneys, or, he goes to detroit, maryland, vegas, florida, etc for like 5 days. Aside from 'Our time' he misses alot- weddings, family functions, parties--he has only made 1 out of 5 of my bdays so far. It sucks, but there's worse things he can be doing so i try to pick my battles. I have 'psuedo boyfriends' who are my wedding dates, and that I can drag to couple events Since we moved in together, I see him less. i'm focused on house things and weddings, so I haven't gone to his games, and he's been working alot of night tours to free up his weekends for tournaments.
we try to set aside date nights for something simple, like a dinner out, movie rentals-no phones!, or lowes/bed, bath and beyond visits for ideas!
everyone has alot on their plates with wedding planning and saving for homes, etc. Dont lose sight of what brought you to where you are now though. enjoy your 'you time', but make 'us time' too!
