Sooo torn as to what time to have my ceremony - HELP!!

Melissa1012 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:46 PM

Sooo torn as to what time to have my ceremony - HELP!!

A little background .. My church is in Farmingdale, and my RH is in Westbury - CH starting at 7pm

The church, and my family suggets starting the ceremony (Full Mass) at 4pm.My DOC and my gut tells me to start it at 3pm.

I really want to get into my CH, so I feel like if I start it at 4pm then the ceremony is until 5, recieving line, and pics .. I wont get out of there until 5:30-5:45 .. then probably wont get to my RH until about 6:15-6:30 .. leaving 1/2 hr -45 min for pictures. Or I could skip my CH and take more pics which I totally do not want to do.

Is it terrible to have a 3pm ceremony (guests will get out close to 4:30) and not have CH until 7pm on a Friday?

I dont feel like it is too big of a gap but people are giving me such a hard time about it. I hate to think that if I start it at 4pm I will be so stressed and crunched for time, and probably not even get all the pictures that I want.

Helppppp

leighlo1226 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:50 PM

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who cares it's your day and people have to wait in between no matter what so it's not making you a bad host in any way plus you will be upset if you never make it to your CH and don't get all of the pictures you want too.

i vote 3pm!

SoonToBeMrsFox Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:51 PM

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Posted by leighlo1226

who cares it's your day and people have to wait in between no matter what so it's not making you a bad host in any way plus you will be upset if you never make it to your CH and don't get all of the pictures you want too.

i vote 3pm!

agreed -- 3 pm!

ColliMac23 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:52 PM

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I would say who cares but I personally wouldn't do that maybe add hospitality hour?

DreamyD Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:52 PM

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3 ALWAYS FOLLOW THE GUT.

InLuvWithMyBF Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:52 PM

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I think 3 p.m is a good time! gives you time to take pictures and enjoy you CH :)

chris1082 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:54 PM

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DO it at 3! You'll be so happy you did!

I am another Friday girl with a 3:00 PM ceremony and 7:00 CH...It's not nice, but I am not thinking about my guests here I want plenty of time to take pics, get to my RH, maybe hang in the bridal suite, and be at my CH!!

It's your wedding so you can do whatever you want

chilly313 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:57 PM

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Any possibility of taking pics before the ceremony?

Melissa1012 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:58 PM

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Thanks ladies!
I feel like 2.5 hours between end of mass and start of CH isnt that big of a deal, but apparently my family thinks it is.. They keep telling me no one will come to the church .. I didnt realize an hour would make so much of a difference

I think me, my DOC , and you ladies know better than any of them anyway

Maybe I will look into adding some sort of hospitality before my CH at Westbury Manor, or possibly arranging something at the hotel if its really that big of a deal...

Melissa1012 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:59 PM

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Posted by chilly313

Any possibility of taking pics before the ceremony?

No, we are going to be in two totally seperate locations and I prefer to see him for the first time as I walk down the aisle.

MsRtoMrsK Posted: Jul 21, 2011 02:59 PM

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My ceremony is at 3 and my CH starts at 7....GO FOR IT!!!

FDNYwife1029 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 03:01 PM

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3pm!

Melissa1012 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 03:01 PM

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Posted by chris1082

DO it at 3! You'll be so happy you did!

I am another Friday girl with a 3:00 PM ceremony and 7:00 CH...It's not nice, but I am not thinking about my guests here I want plenty of time to take pics, get to my RH, maybe hang in the bridal suite, and be at my CH!!

It's your wedding so you can do whatever you want

Soooo happy there is someone else!!!! That is EXACTLY how I feel ... Its my friggen day
I guess I will just have to have the attitude of whoever comes to the church comes, and whoever doesnt, oh well!

foundmylove Posted: Jul 21, 2011 03:01 PM

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yea 3pm!!!
im doing it at 3pm on a friday and cocktail is not till 7!

its your day and you want pictures

Melissa1012 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 03:02 PM

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Posted by foundmylove

yea 3pm!!!
im doing it at 3pm on a friday and cocktail is not till 7!

its your day and you want pictures

You are all making me feel sooo much better!

VCanizalez Posted: Jul 21, 2011 03:04 PM

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Listen take it from ME who was thinking of 'People' the whole time...

DO WHAT EVER YOU WANT!
DONT WORRY ABOUT WHAT WILL PPL DO.. ARE THE GUEST GONNA B OK...

IM SORRY BUT FK TAHT! I GOT SO SCREW FOR DOING THING ACCORDING TO MY GUEST....
NOW I AM SCREW...
SO DO WHAT U WANTTTTTTTTTT

Lindseyenglish4 Posted: Jul 22, 2011 06:13 AM

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I have pretty much the same time line as you.....ceremony at 3pm in Baldwin and cocktail our starts at 6:30 in wood bury at the fox hollow. I would definitely choose 3pm. Fh only request for the entire wedding was not to miss any of the cocktail hour due to formal pictures...which I'm In aggreeance with. I would hate for you to be running late and have to miss out on anything because you had to get pictures done....I think 3pm is perfect for your timeline

BrideAS Posted: Jul 22, 2011 08:55 AM

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My ceremony is at 1:30 and CH is at 6:30. This was our only option and people are just going to have to deal with it. I'm OK with some people not coming to the church. You have to do what you have to do. While you don't want to be disrespectful, it IS your day and thats the bottom line.

Rule #1 in wedding planning: you can't please everyone.

JLWSJC Posted: Jul 22, 2011 08:58 AM

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I would do it at 3. My ceremony and reception are closer together and I'm regretting it becaue I'm afraid I won't have time to get the pcitures I want since we're going off site in between church and ceremony. So I would do it earlier. People will deal with the gap, it's not an uncommon thing.

Melissa1012 Posted: Jul 22, 2011 09:01 AM

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I feel a lot better about doing it at 3pm now ... I didnt think that it was a crazy big gap, but my family was making it out to be this horrible thing.

After all the money that we are spending on the wedding I want to at least be able to enjoy it and get all the pictures that I want!