Soooo upset

I just found out that my best friend in the entire world can't come to my e-party. When she got the invitation her boyfriend told her that they, along with his family are going on the 1 day cruise around New York. His mom bought the tickets like 8 months ago and they are non refundable or transferable. He told her that she will still have my shower and bachelorette party. I was just on the phone with her and started crying. I mean its a 1 day cruise, how much could that be, $200? I am her best friend and she feels so bad but doesn't know what to do and I don't want to make her feel bad, but I am alittle pissed. You would think that my e-party would be a little more important. I just can't believe this is happening. What do you all think about the situation, what would you do?

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

wow thats awful! i don't blame you..i would be upset also, especially if she is a good friend of yours...what if she sold the tickets to someone else?

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Supposedly it is nontransferable, the ticket has her name on it already

wow that is a really tough situation. honestly, i would really be upset and i don't know what i would do. sorry i'm not much help, but i just wanted to let you know i would feel the same way and would really want her not to go on the cruise.

is her boyfriend going on the cruise too? if he is, then you have to consider that he would probably not go too, which would be two tickets going unused. and her family would probably be really upset if she didn't go.

but all in all, i think i would really want her to drop the trip and come to my party.

i'm sorry you're going through that, it's really upsetting.

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Posted by jteach711

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

wow thats awful! i don't blame you..i would be upset also, especially if she is a good friend of yours...what if she sold the tickets to someone else?

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Supposedly it is nontransferable, the ticket has her name on it already

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oh that stinks...and she can't return it either huh?!?

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Posted by KSquared

Hmm, I'm guess I'm in the minority here. I really would not be that upset. To me, the e-party is just something extra, and not really part of the wedding festivities. If it were the shower or bachelorette party I would be upset, but my best friend not coming to the e-party wouldn't be enough to get me so upset.

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thats kind of true though..at least its the e-party and not the wedding..

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Posted by jteach711

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

wow thats awful! i don't blame you..i would be upset also, especially if she is a good friend of yours...what if she sold the tickets to someone else?

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Supposedly it is nontransferable, the ticket has her name on it already

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Jess....I'm so sorry about your situation!!! It really stinks!!!
One of my FIL's coworkers got us a gift certificate for the NYC Cruise as an engagement gift. She ordered them with the date picked out for us not knowing if we were free or not. So we couldn't go for the date she picked so we called to see if we could change the date or just get the value of the certificate so we could pick another cruise. They gave us such a hard time...they wanted to charge us $65 extra per person to change the date. So we just gave the tickets to my parents.

Can't your friend give the tickets to someone?? This stinks!!! I totally understand how you are feeling!!!! FH's friend upset him for our engagement party.
I hope it works out.

My best friend and MOH wasn't able to come to my e-party, and honestly while it sort of stung at the moment, it wasn't the biggest deal in the whole world ...

As the others have said, at least its not the shower or bachelorette party.

But here are some since I know you must be sad!

I'm just wondering...did his mom buy the tickets 8 months ago and not tell anyone until now? Did your friend know about the tickets before she found out about the e-party? If she didn't know about the tickets, then it's really not her fault if she can't make it to the cruise since she wasn't aware of his family's plans until after she 'commited' herself to your party..

It definitely s*cks that she might not be there (I'm still hoping she'll be able to come!). Maybe the cruise will end with enough time for her to come to your party??

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Posted by KickinDandelions

I'm just wondering...did his mom buy the tickets 8 months ago and not tell anyone until now? Did your friend know about the tickets before she found out about the e-party? If she didn't know about the tickets, then it's really not her fault if she can't make it to the cruise since she wasn't aware of his family's plans until after she 'commited' herself to your party..

It definitely s*cks that she might not be there (I'm still hoping she'll be able to come!). Maybe the cruise will end with enough time for her to come to your party??

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Well I think what happened was, she was told about the cruise a while ago and then months later when I told her about the e-party she didn't put 2 and 2 together and when she got the invite her boyfriend reminded her that that was the date of the cruise. And I believe you actually sleep on the boat till the next day, so she won't be able to come late

Wow Id be really upset also :(

is she in your wedding party?

Also I really want to say how happy I am that I have this site and you girls, you all make me feel so much better and most people don't want to hear about these issues. THANKS

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Posted by Jesaroo2

Wow Id be really upset also :(

is she in your wedding party?

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Yes she is and if I didn't have a 24 year old sister she would have been my MOH

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Posted by KSquared

Hmm, I'm guess I'm in the minority here. I really would not be that upset. To me, the e-party is just something extra, and not really part of the wedding festivities. If it were the shower or bachelorette party I would be upset, but my best friend not coming to the e-party wouldn't be enough to get me so upset.

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i totally agree, it is not like she's not coming to your wedding
i really wouldnt be that upset , like you said, an e-party is extra and you cant expect everyone to be there, not everyone will even come to the wedding

I'd be sad too, but also know the feeling of having to choose and sometimes its really hard... I'm sure she's upset too.

But she will be there for your shower and wedding for sure!! Focus on FH at engagement party it's all about you guys anyway

That is bad :(
Dont be surprised if its on the norewegian dawn cruise ship it can be much more then $200. I feel terrible for you :(

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Posted by Snowflake08

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Posted by KSquared

Hmm, I'm guess I'm in the minority here. I really would not be that upset. To me, the e-party is just something extra, and not really part of the wedding festivities. If it were the shower or bachelorette party I would be upset, but my best friend not coming to the e-party wouldn't be enough to get me so upset.

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i totally agree, it is not like she's not coming to your wedding
i really wouldnt be that upset , like you said, an e-party is extra and you cant expect everyone to be there, not everyone will even come to the wedding

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I was prepared for people not to come, but not my best friend