Soooo upset

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Posted by jteach711

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Posted by Snowflake08

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Posted by KSquared

Hmm, I'm guess I'm in the minority here. I really would not be that upset. To me, the e-party is just something extra, and not really part of the wedding festivities. If it were the shower or bachelorette party I would be upset, but my best friend not coming to the e-party wouldn't be enough to get me so upset.

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i totally agree, it is not like she's not coming to your wedding
i really wouldnt be that upset , like you said, an e-party is extra and you cant expect everyone to be there, not everyone will even come to the wedding

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I was prepared for people not to come, but not my best friend

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true but like everyone else said, its not the wedding
i wouldnt be upset because i feel she has a very valid reason, its not like she's just blowing it off

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Posted by jteach711

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Posted by KickinDandelions

I'm just wondering...did his mom buy the tickets 8 months ago and not tell anyone until now? Did your friend know about the tickets before she found out about the e-party? If she didn't know about the tickets, then it's really not her fault if she can't make it to the cruise since she wasn't aware of his family's plans until after she 'commited' herself to your party..

It definitely s*cks that she might not be there (I'm still hoping she'll be able to come!). Maybe the cruise will end with enough time for her to come to your party??

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Well I think what happened was, she was told about the cruise a while ago and then months later when I told her about the e-party she didn't put 2 and 2 together and when she got the invite her boyfriend reminded her that that was the date of the cruise. And I believe you actually sleep on the boat till the next day, so she won't be able to come late

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awwww...well if it makes you feel any better she probably feels really really bad about this and will make an extra effort to be especially helpful as a member of your BP

i agree with the other girls..it could be worse...even though this still stinks

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Posted by KickinDandelions

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Posted by jteach711

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Posted by KickinDandelions

I'm just wondering...did his mom buy the tickets 8 months ago and not tell anyone until now? Did your friend know about the tickets before she found out about the e-party? If she didn't know about the tickets, then it's really not her fault if she can't make it to the cruise since she wasn't aware of his family's plans until after she 'commited' herself to your party..

It definitely s*cks that she might not be there (I'm still hoping she'll be able to come!). Maybe the cruise will end with enough time for her to come to your party??

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Well I think what happened was, she was told about the cruise a while ago and then months later when I told her about the e-party she didn't put 2 and 2 together and when she got the invite her boyfriend reminded her that that was the date of the cruise. And I believe you actually sleep on the boat till the next day, so she won't be able to come late

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awwww...well if it makes you feel any better she probably feels really really bad about this and will make an extra effort to be especially helpful as a member of your BP

i agree with the other girls..it could be worse...even though this still stinks

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I know she does feel bad also, she was crying on the phone with me. Theres just nothing that can be done, so I guess I will jsut suck it up and look forward to the things she can be at. Thanks for your nice words

oh no! thats sooo sad!!! i would be SOOO upset also!!

but the girls above me are right - at least its not the wedding she's missing... THAT would be even worse!!! you should video tape the e-party and then have a night with just the two of you and you can watch the video and bond hehee

hugs!!!

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Posted by TM2008

oh no! thats sooo sad!!! i would be SOOO upset also!!

but the girls above me are right - at least its not the wedding she's missing... THAT would be even worse!!! you should video tape the e-party and then have a night with just the two of you and you can watch the video and bond hehee

hugs!!!

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That is such a cute idea, I think I may actually do that. Thank you

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

wow thats awful! i don't blame you..i would be upset also, especially if she is a good friend of yours...what if she sold the tickets to someone else?

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I agree, maybe she could sell it to someone instead and go to the shower

Let me tell you from experience (my best friend in the whole world...my MOH, wasnt able to come to my e-party) its NOT a big deal. Although your e-party is the most important thing in your life right now, its #1 on everyone else's list. They have things going on and even a best friend might not be able to make it. In the end, its a really not a big thing in the grand scheme of things. If she couldnt come to your wedding....then i could understand you being very upset -- i would be too but the e-party? IMO its not something to cry over.

I can understand why you are upset but ya can't really blame her- she feels just as bad !!

I am sure she will enjoy her cruise but you will also enjoy your e party - its really about fh and you ANYWAY!!!

I like the tape idea mentioned above.

also, when is your e- party? if its not set in stone (invites, reservations ecT) maybe you can change it but i know ya prolly thought about that already!!

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Posted by KSquared

Hmm, I'm guess I'm in the minority here. I really would not be that upset. To me, the e-party is just something extra, and not really part of the wedding festivities. If it were the shower or bachelorette party I would be upset, but my best friend not coming to the e-party wouldn't be enough to get me so upset.

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I feel the same way.

I would be sad because obviously she is a good friend and you's want her there. It might be hard for her to get out of the ticket. Her FH might not go then, maybe it was a special gift, and she might feel obligated to go or feel bad for wasting their money by not going. She is in a sticky spot.

She'll be there at your wedding and that is what REALLY matters!

try not to get yourself all upset (although i understand why you would)

Im sorry your upset..Is she your maid of honor?

Honestly, I wouldnt be too upset. I checked with my bridal party before settling on a date for the e-party. But if something came up like that, it is a cruise with his family, at least its not like a bar crawl in manhattan..

You are going to have a wonderful day regardless and it will be a little sad but think of all your family and friends that will be around you. You will be so busy anyways, wont have time to think about it.

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Posted by jteach711
You would think that my e-party would be a little more important.

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I think that you are overreacting. I can understand that you are disappointed but I do not think that your e-party is more important than a trip that has been planned for months.

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Posted by KSquared

Hmm, I'm guess I'm in the minority here. I really would not be that upset. To me, the e-party is just something extra, and not really part of the wedding festivities. If it were the shower or bachelorette party I would be upset, but my best friend not coming to the e-party wouldn't be enough to get me so upset.

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I agree.

WHile I dont want to discount the original poster;s feelings, I just dont see the point of an e-party.
There will be a shower and then a wedding, what's the point of an e-party?

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Posted by carolinep24

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Posted by KSquared

Hmm, I'm guess I'm in the minority here. I really would not be that upset. To me, the e-party is just something extra, and not really part of the wedding festivities. If it were the shower or bachelorette party I would be upset, but my best friend not coming to the e-party wouldn't be enough to get me so upset.

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I agree.

WHile I dont want to discount the original poster;s feelings, I just dont see the point of an e-party.
There will be a shower and then a wedding, what's the point of an e-party?

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I am sorry you are upset as I would be also. But I am sure she is upset too, so try not to make her feel worse about something she can not change. I think the video tape thing is a great idea. I have been on one of those cruise things and they are usually non-refundable or transferable like ur friend said. It is basically a way to try out Royal Caribbean (that is the one we did) and costs between 200-350 depending on the type of cabin u book.