Sort of Wedding Related... I'm devastated *Long Updated*
I just want to thank all of you ladies who took the time to offer your advice and support. I'd love to answer each of you indivdiually, and i probobly will after calming down a bit. BUT i figured before i can do that i should at least let you know what's going on right now.
We are not calling off the wedding.
This man is my world, I love him more than anything. I know he feels the same way about me.
His mother is crazy. I've known this for years. BUT this time it's gone too far.
Talking to her and leaving the lines of communication open is not really an option at this point. She is not that kind of person. She has stated that she wants nothing to do with us. If we want our stuff we have to call before going over b/c she doesnt want us in the house unannounced.
I have an anxiety disorder... so on top of the stress from the wedding, and my mother having cancer, i really don't know how much more i can take.
We will be moving foward with our plans. His family already sees him and his immediate family as the 'black sheep' so i'm not sure there is much to be salvaged.
I can handle them all hating me, i don't care what they think of me. I just can't stand to see FH in soo much pain over this.
Thanks again for your support through this. If it werent for this board, i honestly dont know what i'd do right now.
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my FMIL is making our lives a living hell.
she has been back and fourth about not even coming to the wedding just so she can be the center of attention by NOT being there.
we just moved out on our own ... my fh is 23 years old. she stood on her front lawn the other day SCREAMING that we abandoned her and that we should F*** Off and rot in HelloOperator.
That was the last straw for me, I just stopped trying. I hadnt written her off or anything but i have anxiety and i just can't handle stress like that.
She sent fh an email calling him a sissy and other things that he wont repeat. i'm sure she spoke of me as well since he wont tell me anything about it. she said we have untill the 14th to get all of our stuff out of her house (which FH is a co owner of) or else she's tossing it all out the windows. and she will.
this is not the first situation where she's made us crazy. trust me when i say the woman is certifiable. i dont mean in that in an angry or mean way. i'm genuinly worried about her... but there's nothing i can do.
and now she's making it so that FH's whole family hates him so that no one will come to the wedding.
she refuses to come, says she wants NOTHING to do with it, doesnt want to hear about it, nothing.
My fiance is sooo upset, he's a momma's boy at heart. He won't let it show though.
I don't know what to do. This wedding has become such a hassle b/c of her. She's ruining everything. She never even congratulated us on the engagement or gave me a hug or anything ... and we were both living with her!
I'm starting to wonder if i should just call the whole thing off. I never meant to cause problems for my FH with his family.![]()
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We are not calling off the wedding.
This man is my world, I love him more than anything. I know he feels the same way about me.
His mother is crazy. I've known this for years. BUT this time it's gone too far.
Talking to her and leaving the lines of communication open is not really an option at this point. She is not that kind of person. She has stated that she wants nothing to do with us. If we want our stuff we have to call before going over b/c she doesnt want us in the house unannounced.
I have an anxiety disorder... so on top of the stress from the wedding, and my mother having cancer, i really don't know how much more i can take.
We will be moving foward with our plans. His family already sees him and his immediate family as the 'black sheep' so i'm not sure there is much to be salvaged.
I can handle them all hating me, i don't care what they think of me. I just can't stand to see FH in soo much pain over this.
Thanks again for your support through this. If it werent for this board, i honestly dont know what i'd do right now.
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my FMIL is making our lives a living hell.
she has been back and fourth about not even coming to the wedding just so she can be the center of attention by NOT being there.
we just moved out on our own ... my fh is 23 years old. she stood on her front lawn the other day SCREAMING that we abandoned her and that we should F*** Off and rot in HelloOperator.
That was the last straw for me, I just stopped trying. I hadnt written her off or anything but i have anxiety and i just can't handle stress like that.
She sent fh an email calling him a sissy and other things that he wont repeat. i'm sure she spoke of me as well since he wont tell me anything about it. she said we have untill the 14th to get all of our stuff out of her house (which FH is a co owner of) or else she's tossing it all out the windows. and she will.
this is not the first situation where she's made us crazy. trust me when i say the woman is certifiable. i dont mean in that in an angry or mean way. i'm genuinly worried about her... but there's nothing i can do.
and now she's making it so that FH's whole family hates him so that no one will come to the wedding.
she refuses to come, says she wants NOTHING to do with it, doesnt want to hear about it, nothing.
My fiance is sooo upset, he's a momma's boy at heart. He won't let it show though.
I don't know what to do. This wedding has become such a hassle b/c of her. She's ruining everything. She never even congratulated us on the engagement or gave me a hug or anything ... and we were both living with her!
I'm starting to wonder if i should just call the whole thing off. I never meant to cause problems for my FH with his family.
