When we first got engaged I told my father (who basically had nothing to do with my life) that I wanted my stepfather to walk me half way then hand me off to him to walk me down the aisle. That was 2 years ago that I told him this.
So on Sunday, along with all the other crap that I was dealing with, he tells me AGAIN he is not happy about it and starts crap with me. It wasn't like I wasn't already crying when he called. He felt the need to add more fuel to the fire.
So I called him the next day and told him that, fine after all the DISRESPECTFUL things that he has done to me and my brother that NO ONE was walking me down the aisle.
So anyway he has the NERVE to call FI this morning and try to get him to take his side. FI (he is such a good man) tells him that he supports me in OUR decision that no one will walk me down the aisle. So he tell FI not to send out his invitations! We are supposed to mail them tomorrow!
The Original 2nd-time-around
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Wow...what a guy! How did he ever manage to make his mortgage pmt. after all the dough he was laying out for you?!!!
swags1016
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Funny thing-- NOPE! Made my mother sell the house half way through my senior year so that I had to move during my senior year!
Olgaki
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That is horrible!! Why can't he just be understanding and realize how important this is for you! I hope it works out for all you girls with daddys who act like little boys!
The Original 2nd-time-around
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You just have to do what feels right for YOU. If it feels right to you to have him walk you down the aisle, then go for it. But don't let this man threaten you or bully you into doing something that should be such a privelege. JMO
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My dad's new wife is slick. After discussing the car issue with him( she wasn't there) she came up to me and asked who is going in what cars. I felt so on the spot like she was trying to start something. I just told her I didn't know yet. Witch.
I have had problems with her in the past so I am sure she brew something up. She will put something in my dads head.
Boop2704
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Swags, I heard and actually still hear the child suppot and paying for college thing. Pathetic. He stopped paying that over 8 years ago. He thinks he did me a favor. I still have loans to pay back for school.
His reason for not giving much moneyfor my wedding is that when I was 18, he helped me pay off credit cards that I got in trouble with. He is my father, aren't parents supposed to help you when you are in trouble?
I just don't get it. The man wouldn't give me five dollars for gas when I needed it. He claims he doesn't have it, yet his wife has a huge rock on her finger, they are having a house built in Florida, he has a brand new car, he travles every month, he eats out all the time. Wow, that is poor.
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LOL-- Nope can't even say that once! No help! One time my car, when I was in college needed a new engine, he agreed to pay half. Bounced the check on my mom and to this day 8 years later, never paid her back
So I hear yah! Maybe it is because we are both Jamie's (Well you are Jaime)
Boop2704
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Your dad doesn't deserve to walk you down the isle, go with who you feel has been your true father.
Come to think of it after venting all my problems, I don't think I want my dad to walk me down the isle.
Boop2704
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Wow, Jaime's and Jamie's get such a bum wrap.
HearzBellz
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I feel for you swags.... I hope everything works out. It may be a *little bird* b/c they can feel threatened by how close the *original* family is on a day like this. I wish you luck
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you poor thing - to me, a father is not anything to do with sperm, it is the person who is there for you and cares abotu you...if you want your stepfather to wal you down the aisle, then have him do it....if oyu don't want your dad to, then stick to your guns....if he doesn't come then he looks stupid and he has to live with it (you can tell him that too!) - my cousin had the same situation and she stuck to her guns - he wound up not coming and some of his family didn't come (not all though!) but she didn't regret it for a second and still hasn't...she had her mom and brother walk her down the aisle...he has to realize this is your day and you want him to be there to be a part of it obviously and that should be enough for him...i know it will hurt if he doesn't come but it might also be better - no extra drama on that day.....good luck hon....if you need me, email or fm me!
