Spin off from Liz's post: What does hubby say to you if the case was that you were infertile?

Spin off from Liz's post: What does hubby say to you if the case was that you were infertile?

God Forbid that I was but hubby and I talk about it all the time. He says that he really doesn't care because he will love me either way. He always talks about adopting even if we have our own kids so to him he says its no different. His mother was adopted.

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My hubby says the same thing. He says we will adopt. It scares me more than anything in this world that I may not be able to but my dh is very supportive of me and says no matter what..he would still stand by me because thats how he feels and those are the vows he took.

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same thing Latina

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What I wouldn't give for Chris to have the same attitude - do I believe in my heart that he would stand by me, yes. I wouldn't have married him otherwise. But I know he would be extremely disappointed and would have a very difficult time with it...it would definitely put a strain on the marriage, I hate to say. Just being honest here...

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Marni-

Hey, I don't expect my hubby not to be disappointed but who's won't be. Something like this will be a huge disappointment for the both of us.

Sometimes it scares me that he is saying that now because we actually are not going through it but if it does happen it would put a big strain in our marriage. The only thing that calms me is that he is really big into the adopting kids and believes that many kids are out there without parents just like his mother.

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Kathy-
The fact that such a close member of his family has experienced it I believe helps a lot......and although it would perhaps put some strain, I think he would get over it really quick (in your case)...

I love Chris, but I think sometimes I can't tell whether he's being sarcastic or serious (and I've been with him for 7 years!)...like we play the 'if I was in an accident' game, and his answers are way off from what I want them to be...

But I (we) can't live our lives through hypotheticals...we can only pray that we are going to be GREAT!!!!!!!

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Marni ~
Let's hope no one ever has to cross that bridge.

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Marni,
I think the only way one could really know is to go thru it. I have a feeling you and Chris would be fine. But like I said, only the experience would be a testament to that.

THere I think will always be a disappointment period on both parts.
Like the day you find out you're infertile is not necessarily the best time to say, OK honey Let's Adopt

I think there would need to be an acceptance period, and supporting each other, giving lots of love, then once you get used to the idea, then beginning to explore other options.

Len and I have also had this discussion, and both agree we will be happy to adopt, but I know for sure, I would be absolutely CRUSHED. I want so much to give him HIS child and for a child to grow inside of me.
He already has a son. If I couldn't give him another child, I think I would feel like I couldn't give him what another woman did.
Not sure if he would feel this way, but I would.

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I hear ya Liz!!!!!

And I guess you want to see life through rose colored glasses and hope that it wouldn't put a strain, but it would for anybody, so I guess that makes him normal.

I guess I fear the unknown - so maybe I'm just normal!!!!!!

Hey, if we all pray for each other, maybe we'll all be fine!!!! That's a lot of prayers!!!!!!!!

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I like the prayer idea. I will pray for anyone here looking to conceive and hoping for fertility or just for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy child
Alot of prayers will keep God busy indeed

We're all normal, trying to keep sane.
Marni, I will try not to stress about this, and hope and pray for the best, and that when the time is right, we will all have our own lovable bundle of joy

In the meantime, we can keep supporting each other, and keeping informed.

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Absolutely sweetie!!!!!!!!

And trying is one of the best parts anyway!

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Yes, I LOVE trying

I can't wait to have you as my TTC buddy
If we are preggo at the same time, we will make sure our babies meet and become friends