I had lots of rules when I was dating. I tried really hard to not do to them what I would not want done to me. Funny thing is I was dating someone at the time I met FH. Normally, I would never do that but I just knew he was the one. So of course I ended it with the guy I was dating. I was totally honest and explained everything. I don't think he was really that hurt.
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Broke up with first serious one.
Most serious one before FH- mutual and most difficult.
After that, it was a matter of just 'not calling back', either he or I lost interest......nothing that caused either party to be hurt.
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I broke up with one. The second one (the most serious one) I broke up with him and then we got back and then he broke up with me. It took a looooong time to get over.
werock0709
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Broke up with him! Best thing I could have done.
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For me it's been a little bit of this and a little bit of that! Up until I was 26 I did ALL the breaking up...but I was still a virgin. THEN I lost my virginity and unfortunately he was the one to break up with me!!!! I went full on psycho - crying, writing notes, pretty much stalking him. But then I recovered after he tried to get me back while he was engaged to the girl he left me for. I realized what a LOSER he was. There were 3 boyfriends after that. I broke up with Mike, Chris and I mutually dumped each other and then ROB! There has been and will be no breaking up with this one!
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First serious one (4 years of my life!).....broke up the 1st time b/c he cheated when he was away with the Navy (I found out from a picture his friend decided to show me on my HS graduation party in front of my friends & family!!) & yes ladies I was an IDIOT and took him back BUT he came up to my college all the way from Florida for Valentines Day about a year later and I broke up with him again.
Second serious one...I broke up with him b/c he hated that I had friends...ummmmm SORRY!
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I broke up with most... one was mutual actually. The others... eh, nothing really serious believe it or not. My first really serious serious relationship is with my fiance. He had one semi-serious relationship right before me though.
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i never really had any other serious BFs I dated my FH since i was 15
one broke up with me who i dated off and on through like freshman year (so does that even count? lol)
and another one i broke up with but we were never really 'dating' more like seeing each other (that was when FH and I took a break)
Unapearla
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Been in two serious relationships before FI. I broke up w/ them both.
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Posted by Unapearla
Been in two serious relationships before FI. I broke up w/ them both.
Interesting everyone. Similiar to unaperla, Ive been in two relationships before FH and I did the breaking up
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broke up with one and had two break up with me. i think i really hurt the one i dumped, but there really wasn't a way not to. he was a little obsessive in addition to just not being the right person for me - one month into the relationship and he was talking about marriage and moving in together and i was only a senior in hs. =0\ after i dumped him he obsessed over me for a while (very weird and kinda scary) then started dating someone (yay) and 5 months later got married weird kid... needless to say.
as for the other two, it really didn't bother me that we'd broken up, just the way they did it. one did it through an im and was really nasty baout it claiming i KNEW why we were breaking up. i later found out he was dumping me who we went to school with. after SHE dumped him, we turned out to be best friends and still are to this day. he's not too big a fan of that. the other broke up with me by voice mail. and though he never said it, i'm pretty sure the reason was b/c i wouldn't have sex with him (we had been dating less than a month!). oh well, their loss and as i said, i didn't really care. =0P
MichLiz213
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I broke up with my ex.
SeptBride70
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the first serious bf-- he moved to florida so it was like ehhh there is no way this is going to work haha but we remain friends to this day.
the second serious one: our relationship was falling apart-- he relied on me too much and had a lot of hang ups from bad family problems-- so it was very tuff... i ended up liking someone else, then he said he liked someone else, then i broke up with him b/c i was like forget this, it's just going to end anyway-- i loved him very much, it was really hard to accept the fact that HE is a good person if you just take away the family problems and the bad crowd of people he chose to hang out w/ as a result of those family issues-- it's hard when something is 'out of your hands'
then along came FH-- no issues
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I only had 1 long term relationship other than FH. I was with my ex for almost 5 years from 18 to 22. After the first year and a half it was horrible. I kept trying to break up with him and everytime he would threaten to kill himself. Finally I got the courage to call him on it. I couldnt take it anymore. so he ended up in an out patient program and I ended up free. It took me a year to start dating seriously again and thats when I met my FH.
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Posted by werock0709
Broke up with him! Best thing I could have done.
me too!
kewlpuff
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i broke up with all of them except for my first ex who broke up w/ me in high school. he was going back to japan for college too
suzzi7404
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Broke up, back together, broke up, back together, broke up... I usually end it for good though!
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I've had 4 long term relationships prior to my FI. Two were 2 years, one was 4 years and the last one was 2.5 years. The last one I was engaged to. I broke ALL of them off.
