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Has anyone ever 'dodged a bullet.' Did you ever make a choice and you feel that if you HADN'T made that choice, it would be on that regrets list over on the other QOTD?
yes. My ex before FH. We were together for 5 years and he got 'scared' so he cheated... he siad he needed time to just be single, but he still wanted to 'date' me, but other people too... I *almost* stayed around, then i woke up and bounced. If I would have stayed, I would have never known what a real relationship is and what real love feels like...
Posted by ant n tilde
The other is NOT moving in with DH. After I graduated he wanted to move in together and get an apartment. You girls know how traditional I am and I said no, and I stuck with my decision even though it caused MANY problems in our relationship. In the end I am glad because I don't think he would have proposed as soon as he did ( about 6 months after that conversation ) AND also I read a lot of girls on here saying that after the wedding there was no difference because they had already lived together. I know that is what some people want, but after ten years together I wanted an entirely new andd different experience and that is what we are going through right now and its wonderful!
Posted by yelley77
Posted by ant n tilde
The other is NOT moving in with DH. After I graduated he wanted to move in together and get an apartment. You girls know how traditional I am and I said no, and I stuck with my decision even though it caused MANY problems in our relationship. In the end I am glad because I don't think he would have proposed as soon as he did ( about 6 months after that conversation ) AND also I read a lot of girls on here saying that after the wedding there was no difference because they had already lived together. I know that is what some people want, but after ten years together I wanted an entirely new andd different experience and that is what we are going through right now and its wonderful!
Good for you!!
Was it all you expected? anticipated?
I almost married an ex. I was with him for 6+ years. It was fine... it was mediocre... it was comfortable. Getting married was the next logical step, and I knew that for my next bday I would likely get a ring... Then I met FH, and I though, 'oh THIS is how its supposed to be...' but I almost didn't break up w/my ex b/c, well after being with someone for that long you're afraid for your security and youre afraid to hurt them. It was SO tough, but it was the best decision I ever made. FH and I were engaged less than a year after.
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by yelley77
Posted by ant n tilde
The other is NOT moving in with DH. After I graduated he wanted to move in together and get an apartment. You girls know how traditional I am and I said no, and I stuck with my decision even though it caused MANY problems in our relationship. In the end I am glad because I don't think he would have proposed as soon as he did ( about 6 months after that conversation ) AND also I read a lot of girls on here saying that after the wedding there was no difference because they had already lived together. I know that is what some people want, but after ten years together I wanted an entirely new andd different experience and that is what we are going through right now and its wonderful!
Good for you!!
Was it all you expected? anticipated?
i expected it to be harder, and i think thats where i went RIGHT bc i thought it would be such a hard adjustment and it WASN'T the easiest but we got used to each other very quickly.
People told us that we would have a really hard time at first but after ten years together, I pretty much knew that he was never going to put his clothes in the hamper or his dishes in the sink![]()
and its amazing, its been three months and every single morning and every single night i think about how lucky i am to be married to him - i love cooking and cleaning and just being WITH him
ok i am corny, thats enough
Posted by Mimacat
I almost married an ex. I was with him for 6+ years. It was fine... it was mediocre... it was comfortable. Getting married was the next logical step, and I knew that for my next bday I would likely get a ring... Then I met FH, and I though, 'oh THIS is how its supposed to be...' but I almost didn't break up w/my ex b/c, well after being with someone for that long you're afraid for your security and youre afraid to hurt them. It was SO tough, but it was the best decision I ever made. FH and I were engaged less than a year after.
Posted by yelley77
Posted by Mimacat
I almost married an ex. I was with him for 6+ years. It was fine... it was mediocre... it was comfortable. Getting married was the next logical step, and I knew that for my next bday I would likely get a ring... Then I met FH, and I though, 'oh THIS is how its supposed to be...' but I almost didn't break up w/my ex b/c, well after being with someone for that long you're afraid for your security and youre afraid to hurt them. It was SO tough, but it was the best decision I ever made. FH and I were engaged less than a year after.
I didn't know that!! very interesting!
Posted by Mimacat
Posted by yelley77
Posted by Mimacat
I almost married an ex. I was with him for 6+ years. It was fine... it was mediocre... it was comfortable. Getting married was the next logical step, and I knew that for my next bday I would likely get a ring... Then I met FH, and I though, 'oh THIS is how its supposed to be...' but I almost didn't break up w/my ex b/c, well after being with someone for that long you're afraid for your security and youre afraid to hurt them. It was SO tough, but it was the best decision I ever made. FH and I were engaged less than a year after.
I didn't know that!! very interesting!
There's much more to the story, but you never know who reads these forums!
Posted by Mimacat
Posted by yelley77
Posted by Mimacat
I almost married an ex. I was with him for 6+ years. It was fine... it was mediocre... it was comfortable. Getting married was the next logical step, and I knew that for my next bday I would likely get a ring... Then I met FH, and I though, 'oh THIS is how its supposed to be...' but I almost didn't break up w/my ex b/c, well after being with someone for that long you're afraid for your security and youre afraid to hurt them. It was SO tough, but it was the best decision I ever made. FH and I were engaged less than a year after.
I didn't know that!! very interesting!
There's much more to the story, but you never know who reads these forums!
Posted by yelley77
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by yelley77
Posted by ant n tilde
The other is NOT moving in with DH. After I graduated he wanted to move in together and get an apartment. You girls know how traditional I am and I said no, and I stuck with my decision even though it caused MANY problems in our relationship. In the end I am glad because I don't think he would have proposed as soon as he did ( about 6 months after that conversation ) AND also I read a lot of girls on here saying that after the wedding there was no difference because they had already lived together. I know that is what some people want, but after ten years together I wanted an entirely new andd different experience and that is what we are going through right now and its wonderful!
Good for you!!
Was it all you expected? anticipated?
i expected it to be harder, and i think thats where i went RIGHT bc i thought it would be such a hard adjustment and it WASN'T the easiest but we got used to each other very quickly.
People told us that we would have a really hard time at first but after ten years together, I pretty much knew that he was never going to put his clothes in the hamper or his dishes in the sink![]()
and its amazing, its been three months and every single morning and every single night i think about how lucky i am to be married to him - i love cooking and cleaning and just being WITH him
ok i am corny, thats enough
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Joey and I moved in after a year and 3 months. I was weary because I'd never lived with anyone (except my family, obviously) and I didn't know what to expect. It was amazing and I felt like how you feel... I can't believe I'm lucky enough to go to bed with him every night and wake up to him every morning. I also cleaned and cooked CONSTANTLY... now, not so much, lol. I clean once a week and cook like 3-4 times a week.
Aside from little things here and there, it was a smooth transition... I just don't know that I'll ever get over the fact that he clips his nails over the bathroom sink EVERY SINGLE DAY. other than that, it's cool.
Posted by yelley77
Posted by Mimacat
Posted by yelley77
Posted by Mimacat
I almost married an ex. I was with him for 6+ years. It was fine... it was mediocre... it was comfortable. Getting married was the next logical step, and I knew that for my next bday I would likely get a ring... Then I met FH, and I though, 'oh THIS is how its supposed to be...' but I almost didn't break up w/my ex b/c, well after being with someone for that long you're afraid for your security and youre afraid to hurt them. It was SO tough, but it was the best decision I ever made. FH and I were engaged less than a year after.
I didn't know that!! very interesting!
There's much more to the story, but you never know who reads these forums!
wine night, i suppose?
yes! my ex!! we dated 4.5 years when i accidentally found out he was looking at engagement rings. once i heard that, it clicked that i didnt want to be with him and we broke up. 3 months later FH and I started to date
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by Mimacat
Posted by yelley77
Posted by Mimacat
I almost married an ex. I was with him for 6+ years. It was fine... it was mediocre... it was comfortable. Getting married was the next logical step, and I knew that for my next bday I would likely get a ring... Then I met FH, and I though, 'oh THIS is how its supposed to be...' but I almost didn't break up w/my ex b/c, well after being with someone for that long you're afraid for your security and youre afraid to hurt them. It was SO tough, but it was the best decision I ever made. FH and I were engaged less than a year after.
I didn't know that!! very interesting!
There's much more to the story, but you never know who reads these forums!
WOW that is a great story!! a true love story
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by yelley77
Posted by ant n tilde
The other is NOT moving in with DH. After I graduated he wanted to move in together and get an apartment. You girls know how traditional I am and I said no, and I stuck with my decision even though it caused MANY problems in our relationship. In the end I am glad because I don't think he would have proposed as soon as he did ( about 6 months after that conversation ) AND also I read a lot of girls on here saying that after the wedding there was no difference because they had already lived together. I know that is what some people want, but after ten years together I wanted an entirely new andd different experience and that is what we are going through right now and its wonderful!
Good for you!!
Was it all you expected? anticipated?
i expected it to be harder, and i think thats where i went RIGHT bc i thought it would be such a hard adjustment and it WASN'T the easiest but we got used to each other very quickly.
People told us that we would have a really hard time at first but after ten years together, I pretty much knew that he was never going to put his clothes in the hamper or his dishes in the sink![]()
and its amazing, its been three months and every single morning and every single night i think about how lucky i am to be married to him - i love cooking and cleaning and just being WITH him
ok i am corny, thats enough
