Spin-Off to Shauna's Baby Names Post

How many of you are getting pressure from your family to name your children a certain name? Are there any family names that you HAVE to take?

For me, basically when we have children our whole family is going to disown us haha.

FH is the 3rd Frank in his family. I told him so early on in our relationship that I REFUSE to name our son Frank. I think the whole father-son name thing is sexist and I am SO not into it. Thankfully he agrees with me and promises to stand up to his family when the time comes.
Then on my side of the family my parents expect the kids to be named after them. I refuse to do this as well. I feel bad, but to me my child's name means a lot and I don't want to just assign them names like that.

I actually thought of a compromise though. Because BOTH families want a say in OUR children names and that is not going to happen. We plan on making our parents' names our children's middle names. I think that is appropriate and respectful.

I just know this is all going to be a headache

My mom really wants a baby girl in the family (my sister had boys) but she realizes she has to wait.

FIL's however probably want us to have kids soon b/c they don't have any grandkids yet. But I've already told them that if we have boys we're NOT naming any of them Michael. FH is Michael, and his dad is Michael. I told them I have no problem with the name, but I don't want to call the kid's name and have 3 people answer me!

my family really don't care. my mom only doesn't want me to name the baby after my gramma (her mom) who died young and was very sick her entire life.
they will make fun of whatever we chose no matter what. thats what my side does, they make fun

No, i havent gotten any pressure... i dont think anyone else has gotten pressure either... but im not sure...

I'm sure i'll get opinions... cause everyones got em for the wedding... but in the end its our decision...

No pressure really.

FH says that we have to give our son the middle name Edward since that's his and his father's middle name.

So I then said that we have to give our daughter the middle name Lee since that's my and my mothers middle name and my grandmothers nickname.

that's it.

We are going to raise our children jewish and part of jewish culture is that you name the children after someone who has already passed away.

FH wants to name our children after him


My parents are not pressuring us at all for grandchildren. That will come from FILs.

my parents tell everyone that they know to wait a long time to have kids.

FMIL would probably like to have grand kids soon since FH is an only child. however, she has never pushed the subject with us.

as far as naming the kids go, that will be 100% up to us. we will be like our friends who have a 1 year old & not tell anyone any of the names we are even thinking about until after the baby is born.

its our kid we will name it what we want.

i will insist that a boy be named after FHs dad who passed away.

no pressure FROM our families....

but i did have one name that i really really wanted -- my grandmothers name.

when my sis got preggo 5 years ago she was deciding on names and mentioned a few...NONE of which were the name I wanted to name my own daughter, so all was good

we got to talking more..and i said which ones i liked best, and then i said, whatever you do promise me you wont name her ---, cuz i want that.

she said yeah yeah...

a few days later -- announcement: her and the dad decided they wanted that name. and that was it. it was final.


as you can probably tell, i am still pretty bitter about this. so i havent really thought of any names since then.

thankfully no....at least not yet....we'll see if it changes when the time comes

however...i dont care and i will name the baby what fh and i want...not what our families want us to name them

the way i look at it is.. its my son/daughter and ill be saying there name more than anyone lol on top of me carrying them in my tummy for 9 mnths i am the only one who is having say in the name picking!! lol fh can have his input but my choice is final...

Since FH and I don't even know if we want kids, if we do pop out any, our families will probably be so thrilled about the act of reproduction that they won't bother us with names.

That being said, FH and I have already discussed names we like (+ names we don't like) with each other...if someone else wants to carry a child for me for 9 months and give up alcohol and caffiene - my two vices- then they can name the kid. Til then, all bets are off and we'll name 'em, thankyouverymuch.

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Posted by italianp7

the way i look at it is.. its my son/daughter and ill be saying there name more than anyone lol on top of me carrying them in my tummy for 9 mnths i am the only one who is having say in the name picking!! lol fh can have his input but my choice is final...

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thats awesome! lol

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Posted by little j

no pressure FROM our families....

but i did have one name that i really really wanted -- my grandmothers name.

when my sis got preggo 5 years ago she was deciding on names and mentioned a few...NONE of which were the name I wanted to name my own daughter, so all was good

we got to talking more..and i said which ones i liked best, and then i said, whatever you do promise me you wont name her ---, cuz i want that.

she said yeah yeah...

a few days later -- announcement: her and the dad decided they wanted that name. and that was it. it was final.


as you can probably tell, i am still pretty bitter about this. so i havent really thought of any names since then.

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Similar situation in my fam with my sister and SIL...

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Posted by little j

no pressure FROM our families....

but i did have one name that i really really wanted -- my grandmothers name.

when my sis got preggo 5 years ago she was deciding on names and mentioned a few...NONE of which were the name I wanted to name my own daughter, so all was good

we got to talking more..and i said which ones i liked best, and then i said, whatever you do promise me you wont name her ---, cuz i want that.

she said yeah yeah...

a few days later -- announcement: her and the dad decided they wanted that name. and that was it. it was final.


as you can probably tell, i am still pretty bitter about this. so i havent really thought of any names since then.

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wow that is soooo mean and rude

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Posted by AdriandSteve

No pressure really.

FH says that we have to give our son the middle name Edward since that's his and his father's middle name.

So I then said that we have to give our daughter the middle name Lee since that's my and my mothers middle name and my grandmothers nickname.

that's it.

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edward is my FH and his fathers middle name too!!:) lol

Well...every man on my side (father, grandfather, brother & nephew) are Joseph....my FH & FFIL is Joseph.

So my first born son (**Knockwood**) will also be Joseph. FH is against this but I want to name him in honor of my brother. Aside from that there really isnt any name pressure from anyone......yet

Nope... FH would like to use either his mom's first name or middle name for something. She passed away when he was 13. I would consider using her middle name, as a middle name. But if we don't he wouldn't be mad about it.

So if we had a girl she might be....

Mackenzie Ann Cruz

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Posted by little j

no pressure FROM our families....

but i did have one name that i really really wanted -- my grandmothers name.

when my sis got preggo 5 years ago she was deciding on names and mentioned a few...NONE of which were the name I wanted to name my own daughter, so all was good

we got to talking more..and i said which ones i liked best, and then i said, whatever you do promise me you wont name her ---, cuz i want that.

she said yeah yeah...

a few days later -- announcement: her and the dad decided they wanted that name. and that was it. it was final.


as you can probably tell, i am still pretty bitter about this. so i havent really thought of any names since then.

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OMG!!!!
I would kill my sister if she ever did that to me!
That is horrible!!!!