Spin off to: WERE YOU THE TYPE?

prettyprincess07 Posted: Sep 18, 2006 04:49 PM

Spin off to: WERE YOU THE TYPE?

IS it true that when you get married you tend to hang out with your friends who are married more than your single friends?

Same question for the parents on here too? Do you hang out more with friends who have children because they understand more and can relate better than those who dont?

prettyprincess07 Posted: Sep 18, 2006 05:25 PM

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tonimike Posted: Sep 18, 2006 05:27 PM

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i think so , I mean i still hang with single friends, but its hard to relate sometimes, with having a bride brain,, LOL

bettybcafe Posted: Sep 18, 2006 05:30 PM

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Posted by tonimike

i think so , I mean i still hang with single friends, but its hard to relate sometimes, with having a bride brain,, LOL

Yep.

suzzi7404 Posted: Sep 18, 2006 06:55 PM

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I think I stopped hanging out with my single friends all the time when I knew my fh was the one I wanted to marry because I just wasn't into going out all hours of the night to clubs anymore. I still hang out with them though, just not at the clubs! I love my couple friends too though, It's a whole nother type of connection

vmystique33 Posted: Sep 18, 2006 07:15 PM

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Yes i would agree w/that i only hang out w/ other people who have kids

prettyprincess07 Posted: Sep 18, 2006 08:33 PM

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Posted by suzzi7404

I think I stopped hanging out with my single friends all the time when I knew my fh was the one I wanted to marry because I just wasn't into going out all hours of the night to clubs anymore. I still hang out with them though, just not at the clubs! I love my couple friends too though, It's a whole nother type of connection

Agreed

futrmrsblt Posted: Sep 18, 2006 08:52 PM

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I hang out more with FH's married/engaged friends more then my single ones.. its partly b/c they are 1 hour further away but partly b/c my girls & guys (and bless their full of energy hearts) are alwyas going out on the town... i can't afford it now saving for the wedding, and with work stresses and just plain old regular stress im alwyas tired ...

I can see that once they settle down things will even out more.... i miss them oodles though! i do talk to them every few days jsut dont see them as much

JazzyT Posted: Sep 18, 2006 09:53 PM

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Well if thats the case i would not hang out much we only know one married couple we will hang out with the same people

prettyprincess07 Posted: Sep 18, 2006 10:03 PM

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Posted by JazzyT

Well if thats the case i would not hang out much we only know one married couple we will hang out with the same people

Does that mean that after you and your FH are married they'll understand that maybe you cant hang out the same way you used to when you were engaged?

prettyprincess07 Posted: Sep 18, 2006 10:50 PM

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Soon2bMrsI Posted: Sep 18, 2006 10:53 PM

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Most of my friends are married or getting married and that's who I hang out with most!!!

Mandyin2007 Posted: Sep 18, 2006 11:53 PM

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none of my friends are married yet, so I don't have any married ones to hang out with

afrodyt2000 Posted: Sep 19, 2006 12:06 AM

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Posted by Mandyin2007

none of my friends are married yet, so I don't have any married ones to hang out with

Me too. I still hang out with the people I'm close to, most aren't in serious relationships. We are friends because we like each other as people. As long as our friendships are not harmful to either of us then I will continue to be friends with the same people.

We don't have any kids and none of my close friends have kids either. I can see why people want to hang out with people who have kids close to their age but I doubt that will be an issue as FH is the uncle to 3 kids under age 4 (soon to be 4 kids) so we'll ne straight with the playmates when that time comes.

rojerono Posted: Sep 19, 2006 06:25 AM

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I think this depends on your friends and what the idea of 'fun' is in your group.

I am one of the last to get married. My friends were all the type to enjoy going out. We would do happy hour at a restaurant and then continue on and hang out at a bar. Sometimes we would take mini-trips upstate or skiing or wherever. Marriage did NOT change the love my friends had for this type of behaviour... so hanging out with them was never a problem.

When I was pregnant and subsequently had my eldest son - I felt VERY isolated from my friends. I couldn't drink, I didn't have the luxury of taking off for the weekend at a moment's notice. I no longer found great enjoyment in hanging out and getting drunk. I felt too old for that.

I would invite people over and we'd chill out with some music and some steaks and a few bottles of good wine. And then slowly but surely others got pregnant. And now - the majority of my friends are as old as I am! Nobody really loves the 'bar' scene anymore, so even my few single friends are more apt to hang out and barbecue or hit the beach for the day then to sleep all day and drink all night.

causeimb Posted: Sep 19, 2006 10:37 AM

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Most of my friends either have kids or are close to being married if they aren't married already. But the ones who are single, want to go run the streets till all hrs of the night. I just cant do that. So we tend to hang out less, we can do lunch but that's usually as far as it goes.

tiffandmatt Posted: Sep 19, 2006 10:40 AM

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My group of friends is such a mix of single and married that we all are always together. So I would have to say no, maybe when we are married, but as for now no.

MnM52607 Posted: Sep 19, 2006 10:50 AM

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I am not sure. I think you'd tend to hang out more with couples, not necessarily married couples.

jenn122397 Posted: Sep 19, 2006 11:50 AM

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well it just so happened that after i got engaged all my friends jumped on the wagon too - Out of my six closest friends four are getting married around the same time and if for those who aren't enaged yet - it looks like its on the way soon for them.