Spinoff Breakingup with someone 'Michi's full story'

..long story short.. i talked to this guy every single day for 2 weeks.. we went out only once, b/c our second date got canceled when it rained really bad..hes awesome.. sweet, nice, VERY into me, and he calls when he says he will, he took me out and paid..the whole nine-yards..but its just not 'there' for me, and hes moving quick..like everday he calls me, and he called me his gf two times! at first i thought it was a slip of the tongue but now i kno it wasnt, cause his bday is may 15th and hes already planning what we r going to do ::: and im just like hold up i havent even decided if i like you yet!!!!!! and its weird, we have great convo but little things he says irk me, and he has no clue im not into it as much as he is...THEN he already mentioned sleeping over!!! and i do not want to have a sexual relationship right now.. i feel extremely confused, i just wanna go slow and see what happens.. i still miss my ex, im still trying to figure ME out, and i feel like he already moved sooo super fast that we cant reverse what was said and done already.. i dunno, i wish i was more into him b/c hes VERY nice, and the fact that he IS so nice, and IS so into me, makes me feel like finalyl iam getting the attention i am missing, but i do not have the same feelings for him!!! i mean its been 2 weeks and i feel like its been 5 months!!! i just wanna send him an email, or something... i feel like extremely overhwelemd, but i dont wanna do the f*cked up thing and never call him, or blow him off cause he is nice and thats sooo super mean, i dont wanna be mean to him, yet i dont wanna give him the idea that if we take it slower im still going to wanna see him, b/c i dont... help..lol

just print out a pic of the guy in your avatar, and tell him 'this is the only man michi needs'
buh bye!
j/k...sorry, I couldn't resist.

my advice: honesty is always the best policy.




edited for typo

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Posted by MrsERod

just print out a pic of the guy in your avatar, and tell him 'this is the only man michi needs'
buh bye!
j/k...sorry, I couldn't resist.

my advice: honestly is always the best policy.

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Don't feel bad, you are doing the right thing. He is not it for you and that's okay, things happen in life where we move on and keep looking. like I said, be honest to him and just tell him that you are both in two different places in your lives and it's better if you cut it now, before feelings really start developing.
I know you will find your right man.

Yes. Coming from a guy, Please do not just stop calling him and not return his phone calls when he calls you...That is so rude and so mean. I hated when women played those type of games with me.

If I was you, I would call him and I would be honest with him. You dont need to see him. You havent been going out that long. I think if you talk to him on the phone and you tell him that you and him have been taking things too fast, and that you are not sure if you are ready for a relationship, because you just recently got out of something serious. You can either tell him to slow it down, or maybe just tell him that you think maybe you shouldnt see him anymore....Tell him your confused and you dont know what you want...and you wouldnt want to drag him along and waste his time.....If you dont want to tell him this, Just tell him the truth....

Scott

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Posted by Danielle&Scott

Yes. Coming from a guy, Please do not just stop calling him and not return his phone calls when he calls you...That is so rude and so mean. I hated when women played those type of games with me.

If I was you, I would call him and I would be honest with him. You dont need to see him. You havent been going out that long. I think if you talk to him on the phone and you tell him that you and him have been taking things too fast, and that you are not sure if you are ready for a relationship, because you just recently got out of something serious. You can either tell him to slow it down, or maybe just tell him that you think maybe you shouldnt see him anymore....Tell him your confused and you dont know what you want...and you wouldnt want to drag him along and waste his time.....If you dont want to tell him this, Just tell him the truth....

Scott

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hey scott, thanks for taking the time to write that reply. i really agree with everything u said and i def. needed a man to tell me that. hes way too nice and i think stringing him along sux and is just as shi**y to just not call him and leave him hanging ya kno.. i hate hate hate when men do that to me. i just feel sad being the 'bad guy' but yet if i dontfeel it i wouldnt wanna make him think i do when down the road it will just get worse ya know.. thanks again for the advice!!!
Mich

Anytime. I hope it works out for you...
Scott

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Posted by Danielle&Scott

Anytime. I hope it works out for you...
Scott

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thanks!

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Posted by TracyInQueens

It's hard when the guy is nice- you want to like him but if 'it' is not there, it's not there. Give yourself credit for just being out there because it's no picnic!

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so true..the dating game is HARD! and ur right if 'its' just not there, i cant do anything despite how sweet he is... awesome advice thank you!

Yeah, you have to be honest and tell him that you feel things moved too fast and you aren't ready for this with him. Tell him you don't want to hurt him and that's what you see happening because you aren't in the same place he is.

Definitely don't just blow him off. You are doing the right thing!