Spinoff... do you really want to know?

I think I'd like to really know.
What I think people are thinking is probably worse anyway.

No, I dont need to READ or HEAR if people think negatively of me whatsoever

... besides, I KNOW what my flaws are... my CLOSE friends and family tell me - but if an acquaintence or practical stranger has something bad to say about me, I just don't really care because I don't value their opinions enough to

you are a very sweet person lori i dont know anyone who can say anything bad about you. you have a good heart.

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

I think that only hearing the good things only gives you half th picture... I think it has to be all or nothing.

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Well then, MONKEYS smell and the Slider ROCKS!!!!

How's that dose of honesty, chickie??????

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Posted by BMD'sPeanut

I think the more important question is, 'do we really care what other posters on LIW think of us..'

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YES!! I depend my whole life on it..jk..

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Posted by wc0143

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

I think that only hearing the good things only gives you half th picture... I think it has to be all or nothing.

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Well then, MONKEYS smell and the Slider ROCKS!!!!

How's that dose of honesty, chickie??????

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wow - BRUTAL honesty today from the birthday girl!!!!!

seriously, monkeys do smell though

I figured that's why I could get away with it ...

This is a general question for everyone...

If someone you know fairly well said to you very calmly 'You know, I don't like you because I think you whine a lot/ are negative / are full of yourself.'

How would you react?

I think I'd be pissed, but then I'd obsess over the trait and try to overcompensate.

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Posted by BMD'sPeanut

I think the more important question is, 'do we really care what other posters on LIW think of us..'

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Only the one's that matter. In any community, especially one made up of predominantly women (sorry guys - I know you're out there and we love you all ) things are always going to get 'sticky' at one point or another. We're not all going to be crazy about each other. It's just the nature of the beast. Things have a way of being miscommunicated over the net too. So you're really basing an impression on what the person 'types', not what they have done on a personal level or how good of a person they are. If all the computers in the world crashed forever, how many of these posters would you ever see again? How many would you think of after awhile? How many would think of you? I think the drama post from this morning on BHB was purpetuated by the fact that the original poster kept adding comments about 'thanks for the F/M's ladies', blah, blah blah, as if she was giving the indication that comments were being thrown around about the responders to that post. IMO childish, you want to have your private comments, keep them private. Why try to intentionally put peopole on the defensive or be weary of who 'likes' them and who doesn't? I'm so 'out there' with my emotions, you KNOW if I don't like you or not. I don't need to hide behind F/M's to let you know that one.

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

This is a general question for everyone...

If someone you know fairly well said to you very calmly 'You know, I don't like you because I think you whine a lot/ are negative / are full of yourself.'

How would you react?

I think I'd be pissed, but then I'd obsess over the trait and try to overcompensate.

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Agreed.

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

This is a general question for everyone...

If someone you know fairly well said to you very calmly 'You know, I don't like you because I think you whine a lot/ are negative / are full of yourself.'

How would you react?

I think I'd be pissed, but then I'd obsess over the trait and try to overcompensate.

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i would be hurt but would want some examples of this...since i think i wouldn't be aware of it

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

This is a general question for everyone...

If someone you know fairly well said to you very calmly 'You know, I don't like you because I think you whine a lot/ are negative / are full of yourself.'

How would you react?

I think I'd be pissed, but then I'd obsess over the trait and try to overcompensate.

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I'd probably think they were right.

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

This is a general question for everyone...

If someone you know fairly well said to you very calmly 'You know, I don't like you because I think you whine a lot/ are negative / are full of yourself.'

How would you react?

I think I'd be pissed, but then I'd obsess over the trait and try to overcompensate.

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I agree 100%, because its has happened to me ... (from pissed to obsessive to trying to fix it )

The other side of this question (the initial question) and what always bothers me most becasue it's such a slippery slope is...

Do I just want people to tell me what I want to hear? If someone says I'm mean, will people jump to my defense?

These questions always make me wonder if I'm just fishing for compliments.

How many of you would actually submit to a thread in which YOU are the topic? Could you do it without getting defensive or dismissing people as 'strangers who don't know you'?

How many of you would actually take what we say and examine it to see if it might be true?

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

How many of you would actually submit to a thread in which YOU are the topic? Could you do it without getting defensive or dismissing people as 'strangers who don't know you'?

How many of you would actually take what we say and examine it to see if it might be true?

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I wouldn't do it ... as I said I'm too sensitive and too self-concious to truly want to know things like that !

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

How many of you would actually submit to a thread in which YOU are the topic? Could you do it without getting defensive or dismissing people as 'strangers who don't know you'?

How many of you would actually take what we say and examine it to see if it might be true?

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I would, I think I could take it. If someone was attacking below the belt though...THAT I could not take. But I don't think I could ever start it about myself.

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

How many of you would actually submit to a thread in which YOU are the topic? Could you do it without getting defensive or dismissing people as 'strangers who don't know you'?

How many of you would actually take what we say and examine it to see if it might be true?

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i don't hink i have the courage to do that

i could take the comments not the anonymous poll