Spinoff: If YOU kiss another GIRL

ok for all you ladies out there.... if YOU kiss another GIRL... do you consider it cheating???
guys.. im interested on your take on this as well!

Oh yeah .. to me, the gender doesn't matter at all. When you are in a committed relationship, and you kiss someone who is not your SO - its cheating nonetheless

But as Michi said, *some* men would not mind ... that is, at least if they were 'part' of the action

---

Posted by lolita4life

i wouldnt kiss anyone i didnt know... but i kiss my best friend... or at least have.... i dont consider it cheating... im not thinking how i want to be with her or even have feelings for her. im just drunk and whatever... i love my FH.. only him... so why not? he's the one i'l be with forever.. so why not have some fun right

---

If that's your philosophy, then isn't it rqually ok to kiss a guy> if there are no feelings and you're drunk, and you love your FH, why not just have fun, right?

I'm just playing devil's advocate

---

Posted by Janice

IMO gender does not count at all, kissing girl/guy even though you don't know them is cheating.

---

i agree

FH once told me it wasn't cheating if he got to watch

they can be purple, bi, whatever...
its a cheat

My SIL ran into a situation like this.. She was out with a female friend and they were drinking... and her friend just moves in and kisses her on the lips. MY SIL has NO reaction. She doesn't kiss back.

Analysis -- Not guilty of cheating.

It's where the heart or feelinga are that constitute the 'cheating.'

In my opinion, when one is in a relationship, you can only give yourself to one person.

And once you do, it's forever.

---

Posted by OctGroom

My SIL ran into a situation like this.. She was out with a female friend and they were drinking... and her friend just moves in and kisses her on the lips. MY SIL has NO reaction. She doesn't kiss back.

Analysis -- Not guilty of cheating.

It's where the heart or feelinga are that constitute the 'cheating.'

In my opinion, when one is in a relationship, you can only give yourself to one person.

And once you do, it's forever.

---

exactly..it takes two ppl... my fw says if somone starts kissing me, your kissing them back..i say no..

I think it is totally cheating - like someone else said - gender doesn't matter - I could kiss a guy and have no feelings -
If your trying to rationalize it that way - thats just making an excuse,

---

Posted by marymoon

---

Posted by lolita4life

i wouldnt kiss anyone i didnt know... but i kiss my best friend... or at least have.... i dont consider it cheating... im not thinking how i want to be with her or even have feelings for her. im just drunk and whatever... i love my FH.. only him... so why not? he's the one i'l be with forever.. so why not have some fun right

---

If that's your philosophy, then isn't it rqually ok to kiss a guy> if there are no feelings and you're drunk, and you love your FH, why not just have fun, right?

I'm just playing devil's advocate

---

true.. but, not really to me... i would NEVER kiss another guy... feelings or not... its just different. ... unless he was gay!
at least with my BFF i know she doesnt have feelings for me either... we both just get REALLY affectionate when we're drunk ya know..... i dont consider myself to be a cheater, or that i have acheated. its just like 'yeah, whatever'... perhaps it would be differeent if were with a girl BESIDES my BFF.... i guess that could be different...

but then what constitutes as cheating with another girl? kissing? holding hands? seeing her naked?

Ok maybe I am just confused here....but why would you kiss your BF on the lips and then say you are not attracted to her...that makes no sense No offense to you but I don't get that.

And I think kissing anyone else regardless is cheating - if you are committed to your SO, you shouldn't be doing ANYTHING physical with anyone else.

At the age of 19 or 20, I honestly did not consider it cheating because the girls were 'friends'. My boyfriend was traveling alot at the time and I was doing some hard partying.

now that I have FH I would NEVER do it (unless he was involved too) and would absolutely consider it cheating.

Perception is everything. I probably did not consider it cheating becasue my subconcious did not want to consider it cheating. Looking back, I think I was getting revenge on him for being out of town and neglectful - it was a way for me to secretly hurt him without feeling guilty about it.