Spinoff on getting stiffed at your wedding - TO SEND A THANK YOU, OR TO NOT SEND A THANK YOU...THAT IS THE QUESTION
Original post by MrsERod
My husband and I got stiffed at our wedding by a co-worker of mine - NOT EVEN A CARD!!! - she said she couldn't afford to give us anything - but a simple card would've been fine...Anyway, the question is this: Do I send her a thank you or do I not send a thank you - I don't know what I should do?? I'm thinking - send her one and thank her for sharing our special day - or don't send her one because inside the thank you, is printed 'thank you for your thoughtful gift' ??? What to do, what to do??
ETS: I reworded a few things so as not to sound like I was expecting money ! There were guests at my wedding who didn't give us a dime, but did give us a beautiful card and had written a nice poem in it - and another guest gave us toasting flutes with our names engraved and the date...
It's the thought that counts right? So what thought did she put into the card she bought? Uh, NONE!!
MrsERod
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Re: Spinoff on getting stiffed at your wedding - TO SEND A THANK YOU, OR TO NOT SEND A THANK YOU...THAT IS THE QUESTION
I can always say it got lost in the mail!! She claims to have never gotten the first invitation I sent...so I hand delivered one to her at work!! Her street name is so new and weird, she says she doesnt get alot of her mail!!???
'That darn post office - I dont know what happened?? (acting dumb) I sent it!!
jenny2penny
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you definetly should send a thank you, 'for sharing in your day.'
Of course we want a gift, but is supposidly about them sharing in your day, right?
I think it;s increadibly rude of a hosts to not acknowledge everyone. You should not value the quality of a thank you on the quality of a gift.
My FH sister had a christening,,months later she said, 'I did not send you a TY card, since you gave no gift...WHAT? We handed you a card (with gift card) whe we got there. she felt like an ass for losing it. Afterwards I ever said to my FH we still should have gotten a TY for being there.
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Posted by jenny2penny
you definetly should send a thank you, 'for sharing in your day.'
Of course we want a gift, but is supposidly about them sharing in your day, right?
I think it;s increadibly rude of a hosts to not acknowledge everyone. You should not value the quality of a thank you on the quality of a gift.
My FH sister had a christening,,months later she said, 'I did not send you a TY card, since you gave no gift...WHAT? We handed you a card (with gift card) whe we got there. she felt like an ass for losing it. Afterwards I ever said to my FH we still should have gotten a TY for being there.
I agree!
Xelindrya
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Posted by janet
she must have been a good enough co- worker for you to have invited her. so imo yes you should send her one. is the wedding about the money we get or is it in the day we celebrate te joining of 2 people... it's not about the money.. inside just write a quick note saying thanks for you sharing in our special day with us... you gift of you being there was enough of a gift. i have a few people i know that are not probly going to give a gift but i still want them there to share in my special day!
I agree.
I would feel that if she showed up and celebrated my day with me that was gift enough. JMHO.
