Spinoff to Bridal Shower post, MOB minivent-sorry longer than I thought it'd be
So, this happened last night and I was really upset and decided not to post in the heat of the moment but then this post appeared and reminded me of what happened and made me sad so I need to take a break at work and vent.
Last night at dinner me my mom and sister are talking about the wedding a little. My mother is so annoying sometimes and is insisting on staying in Staten Island the morning of the wedding (I will be staying at a hotel in LI not to risk being in traffic) in order to get her hair done by her girl. I told her fine I don't care just make sure you get it done really early so you're at the hotel early enough to be with me while I'm getting ready and in the pics and video. She for a second considers just getting her hair done there and then is like no no way I need a good night's sleep and to be rested for the wedding but in a really selfish way she says this. My sister is like oh jeez and I'm like helloooo who's wedding is this what do you have to worry about, nothing. We're stressing about the money and planning and doing everything ourselves. Whatever we now move on and the shower comes up. She's like you're gonna want to know right so you can help plan it so it's done you're way? And just recently I've been looking at the 09 board at all the shower posts and how cute everything is and how nice it is to be surprised. So, I said ya know I'd really like to be surprised actually. I can still be semi-involved I just don't have to know where or when it is. I'm like ya know John (fh) will bring me there and I'll pick out an outfit ahead of time so you can have it there for me to change into, and I'm like really excited as I'm talking about all of this. My mother proceeds to roll her eyes and act like I'm asking so much and she says ugh this is too much work. I'm like all you have to do is plan little fun games well that was it she was like GAMES I hate games I'm like mom who's shower is this it's not for you you're supposed to plan it based on what the guest of honor likes, not you! Meanwhile I am the sappiest baby/wedding loving person ever I am so that girl that gets so excited over the gifts/games at showers and all that stuff and my mother knows that. Why should I have to plan another aspect of this wedding, when her and my sister are fully capable of doing this. Am I that horrible of a person that she cant bare to do this. She made me feel so bad like she really just won't be bothered with this. I know I have plenty of time and she will probably come around, it just makes me sad. I almost feel like my fmil would be more than happy to plan me one and my own mother cant be bothered. It disappointed me so much I'm like holding back tears right now. Maybe I'm just overreacting but I really didnt expect her to be this way and was just really surprised and hurt. Just needed to vent so sorry for it being so long!!
Last night at dinner me my mom and sister are talking about the wedding a little. My mother is so annoying sometimes and is insisting on staying in Staten Island the morning of the wedding (I will be staying at a hotel in LI not to risk being in traffic) in order to get her hair done by her girl. I told her fine I don't care just make sure you get it done really early so you're at the hotel early enough to be with me while I'm getting ready and in the pics and video. She for a second considers just getting her hair done there and then is like no no way I need a good night's sleep and to be rested for the wedding but in a really selfish way she says this. My sister is like oh jeez and I'm like helloooo who's wedding is this what do you have to worry about, nothing. We're stressing about the money and planning and doing everything ourselves. Whatever we now move on and the shower comes up. She's like you're gonna want to know right so you can help plan it so it's done you're way? And just recently I've been looking at the 09 board at all the shower posts and how cute everything is and how nice it is to be surprised. So, I said ya know I'd really like to be surprised actually. I can still be semi-involved I just don't have to know where or when it is. I'm like ya know John (fh) will bring me there and I'll pick out an outfit ahead of time so you can have it there for me to change into, and I'm like really excited as I'm talking about all of this. My mother proceeds to roll her eyes and act like I'm asking so much and she says ugh this is too much work. I'm like all you have to do is plan little fun games well that was it she was like GAMES I hate games I'm like mom who's shower is this it's not for you you're supposed to plan it based on what the guest of honor likes, not you! Meanwhile I am the sappiest baby/wedding loving person ever I am so that girl that gets so excited over the gifts/games at showers and all that stuff and my mother knows that. Why should I have to plan another aspect of this wedding, when her and my sister are fully capable of doing this. Am I that horrible of a person that she cant bare to do this. She made me feel so bad like she really just won't be bothered with this. I know I have plenty of time and she will probably come around, it just makes me sad. I almost feel like my fmil would be more than happy to plan me one and my own mother cant be bothered. It disappointed me so much I'm like holding back tears right now. Maybe I'm just overreacting but I really didnt expect her to be this way and was just really surprised and hurt. Just needed to vent so sorry for it being so long!!
