Spinoff to bridal shower upset

I've come to realize that some family members really:
A. Don't give a sh!t about anyone other than themself
B. Must be jealous or something.

In regards to MissK's post she was talking about her cousin not wanting to go to her shower because she hates showers. I know I posted about this when my cousin almost ruined my shower surprise but am stating it again.

I have a cousin who hasn't shown me any type of 'respect' since I got engaged. We had our engagement party...she didn't come....I know she's not coming to my shower because she called my house instead of rsvping to my sil(moh) like she indicated on the invitation. She gave the lamest excuse that she will be returning from vacation the day before and will be too tired the next day to come. What a slap in the face....like I'm not worth it or something. When she was getting married I made every effort to attend her bridal shower, bachelorette party, wedding, son's 1st birthday party. It's like she's better than me or something. I had to go out of my way and take off from my part-time job to make sure I could go to all her events but she can't do the same for me.

Sorry this post is sooo long. Has anyone else had the same problem with any of their family members?

Awww I'm sorry Anna.
Unfortunately some people are so unhappy that they want to bring other people down with them. I have a few jealous people too, on both sides of the fam. It just happens. Don't let it ruin this great time for you.
Remember it's about you and your fh

Sorry she is being that way I really think some people have jealousy issues, and that sometimes makes them hard to handle. I hope it gets better for you soon

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Posted by sassygirl9

Awww I'm sorry Anna.
Unfortunately some people are so unhappy that they want to bring other people down with them. I have a few jealous people too, on both sides of the fam. It just happens. Don't let it ruin this great time for you.
Remember it's about you and your fh

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I know...I'm not going to let her ruin it for me...I just think it's sooo f-ed up. Ya know....she has made no effort what-so-ever. It's all about her. I remember when I got enaged she called me while we were in Vegas...seconds after my mom made the phone calls to the family asking me if I set a date....I was like ***...I've been enaged for 15 minutes! Then when we finally set the date she made everything revolve around her....she was like perfect....'If I get pregnant and have the baby within a year then I'll have a year from your wedding to lose the weight'. Are you f-ing kidding me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

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Posted by sassygirl9

Awww I'm sorry Anna.
Unfortunately some people are so unhappy that they want to bring other people down with them. I have a few jealous people too, on both sides of the fam. It just happens. Don't let it ruin this great time for you.
Remember it's about you and your fh

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I know...I'm not going to let her ruin it for me...I just think it's sooo f-ed up. Ya know....she has made no effort what-so-ever. It's all about her. I remember when I got enaged she called me while we were in Vegas...seconds after my mom made the phone calls to the family asking me if I set a date....I was like ***...I've been enaged for 15 minutes! Then when we finally set the date she made everything revolve around her....she was like perfect....'If I get pregnant and have the baby within a year then I'll have a year from your wedding to lose the weight'. Are you f-ing kidding me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Wow yea, sounds like she needs to get over herself...her moment has passed, you're the bride...
sorry I know she's your cousin, but she needs to get over it

how about this one! My cousin who is getting married next month in a very small wedding I'm talking immediate family small, married at a courthouse, reception at a restaurant.

SHE has the BALLS to tell me my mom (who is her aunt) is invited b/c she thinks of her as her own mother but not me!! I'm like alright, so what does that make me?! We're close too!

THEN!!! she has a bigger set to ask me to help plan her efffffin affair!!!! I'm seeing her on Sunday and I'm sure my tongue will be bleeding from bitting it so hard.

She's such a huge flake too! Any family occasion she either has a headache or explosive dirreah so she can't come. She always has some negative thing to say about everybody. I've come to the conclusion she hates herself, and hates anybody that has it better than her!

oh and she buys the same exact wedding band I wanted, so now I have to go back to the drawing board b/c this woman (42 yrs old) can't have an original idea of her own.


SORRY FOR THE VENT!

YES!!!! Im in a similar boat. I gave MOH a list of my best friends and family etc to invite. Well she didnt want to tell me but I made her . . .almost none of them are coming to my shower or bachelorette party, which was planned on the same day to make it more convenient for OOTers. Well not only that, but FH's cousin just got engaged during Christmas and booked her wedding the weekend after mine . . .which was bad enough . . .but NOW her shower is the day after mine!!! The whole shower was a surprise for me, but I ended up finding out the day, and I cant believe his cousin booked her shower the next day in NYC at a fancy hotel for tea. She knew all about hers, and took part in planning it!

So, back to my friends who cant make it to my shower . . .I have gone out of my way, since I move a lot, to drive to the state or city where my friends have showers and bachelorette parties and weddings, and I cant believe they aren't doing it for me! It just hurts my feelings! Sorry to go on and on, but you touched on a sore subject with me.

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Posted by Ayne11

how about this one! My cousin who is getting married next month in a very small wedding I'm talking immediate family small, married at a courthouse, reception at a restaurant.

SHE has the BALLS to tell me my mom (who is her aunt) is invited b/c she thinks of her as her own mother but not me!! I'm like alright, so what does that make me?! We're close too!

THEN!!! she has a bigger set to ask me to help plan her efffffin affair!!!! I'm seeing her on Sunday and I'm sure my tongue will be bleeding from bitting it so hard.

She's such a huge flake too! Any family occasion she either has a headache or explosive dirreah so she can't come. She always has some negative thing to say about everybody. I've come to the conclusion she hates herself, and hates anybody that has it better than her!

oh and she buys the same exact wedding band I wanted, so now I have to go back to the drawing board b/c this woman (42 yrs old) can't have an original idea of her own.


SORRY FOR THE VENT!

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VENT AWAY!!!!!!!! That is why I started this post! It's sooo f-ed up how some people are. you go out of the way for them but when it comes to you it's like who are you? that's messed up that she isn't inviting you to her wedding. Small or not...you are good enough for her to steal your ideas but not good enough to be invited to your wedding?!?!?!

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

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Posted by Ayne11

how about this one! My cousin who is getting married next month in a very small wedding I'm talking immediate family small, married at a courthouse, reception at a restaurant.

SHE has the BALLS to tell me my mom (who is her aunt) is invited b/c she thinks of her as her own mother but not me!! I'm like alright, so what does that make me?! We're close too!

THEN!!! she has a bigger set to ask me to help plan her efffffin affair!!!! I'm seeing her on Sunday and I'm sure my tongue will be bleeding from bitting it so hard.

She's such a huge flake too! Any family occasion she either has a headache or explosive dirreah so she can't come. She always has some negative thing to say about everybody. I've come to the conclusion she hates herself, and hates anybody that has it better than her!

oh and she buys the same exact wedding band I wanted, so now I have to go back to the drawing board b/c this woman (42 yrs old) can't have an original idea of her own.


SORRY FOR THE VENT!

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VENT AWAY!!!!!!!! That is why I started this post! It's sooo f-ed up how some people are. you go out of the way for them but when it comes to you it's like who are you? that's messed up that she isn't inviting you to her wedding. Small or not...you are good enough for her to steal your ideas but not good enough to be invited to your wedding?!?!?!

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EXACTLY! she's a total succubus and she's so EFFIN selfish that it probably never crossed her small mind that she's acted like a total disgusting human being!

It's all about her and never has any regard for anyone or their feelings for that matter! I wish i didn't have to invite her to mine. BUT I'll be the more mature one 13 yrs younger than her and take the high road.

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Posted by LeslieMike

YES!!!! Im in a similar boat. I gave MOH a list of my best friends and family etc to invite. Well she didnt want to tell me but I made her . . .almost none of them are coming to my shower or bachelorette party, which was planned on the same day to make it more convenient for OOTers. Well not only that, but FH's cousin just got engaged during Christmas and booked her wedding the weekend after mine . . .which was bad enough . . .but NOW her shower is the day after mine!!! The whole shower was a surprise for me, but I ended up finding out the day, and I cant believe his cousin booked her shower the next day in NYC at a fancy hotel for tea. She knew all about hers, and took part in planning it!

So, back to my friends who cant make it to my shower . . .I have gone out of my way, since I move a lot, to drive to the state or city where my friends have showers and bachelorette parties and weddings, and I cant believe they aren't doing it for me! It just hurts my feelings! Sorry to go on and on, but you touched on a sore subject with me.

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I'm sorry your friends are being like that....but this is exactly what I'm talking about. We go out of our way to be there for our friends/family and then when it's something for us they don't do the same. It's very upseting! I'm sorry I brought up bad feelings

The good/decent people are usually the ones who get sh!tted on all the time!

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Posted by Ayne11

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

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Posted by Ayne11

how about this one! My cousin who is getting married next month in a very small wedding I'm talking immediate family small, married at a courthouse, reception at a restaurant.

SHE has the BALLS to tell me my mom (who is her aunt) is invited b/c she thinks of her as her own mother but not me!! I'm like alright, so what does that make me?! We're close too!

THEN!!! she has a bigger set to ask me to help plan her efffffin affair!!!! I'm seeing her on Sunday and I'm sure my tongue will be bleeding from bitting it so hard.

She's such a huge flake too! Any family occasion she either has a headache or explosive dirreah so she can't come. She always has some negative thing to say about everybody. I've come to the conclusion she hates herself, and hates anybody that has it better than her!

oh and she buys the same exact wedding band I wanted, so now I have to go back to the drawing board b/c this woman (42 yrs old) can't have an original idea of her own.


SORRY FOR THE VENT!

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VENT AWAY!!!!!!!! That is why I started this post! It's sooo f-ed up how some people are. you go out of the way for them but when it comes to you it's like who are you? that's messed up that she isn't inviting you to her wedding. Small or not...you are good enough for her to steal your ideas but not good enough to be invited to your wedding?!?!?!

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EXACTLY! she's a total succubus and she's so EFFIN selfish that it probably never crossed her small mind that she's acted like a total disgusting human being!

It's all about her and never has any regard for anyone or their feelings for that matter! I wish i didn't have to invite her to mine. BUT I'll be the more mature one 13 yrs younger than her and take the high road.

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That's right! You are the bigger person! I'm sure others will notice.

Oh, and I have to add that two of my bridesmaids are not coming to my bachelorette party because one of them doesnt have the money and has to watch her fiance's child the next day while he's at work. When she totally has family to watch her, and I would pay for her just so she could come out. Also, the other girl said she might have something the next day, which Im sure is FH's cousin's shower! ARGH! She is my future sister in law. Oh, and another bridesmaid won't come because she is moving from Germany to Florida and just had a baby (FSIL) but also didnt contribute any time or money to anything! Really nice! Especially when all of them jumped up and down when I asked them to be bridesmaids!

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Posted by Ayne11

The good/decent people are usually the ones who get sh!tted on all the time!

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Couldn't have said it better myself!

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Posted by Ayne11

The good/decent people are usually the ones who get sh!tted on all the time!

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Im totally with you on that!

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Posted by LeslieMike

Oh, and I have to add that two of my bridesmaids are not coming to my bachelorette party because one of them doesnt have the money and has to watch her fiance's child the next day while he's at work. When she totally has family to watch her, and I would pay for her just so she could come out. Also, the other girl said she might have something the next day, which Im sure is FH's cousin's shower! ARGH! She is my future sister in law. Oh, and another bridesmaid won't come because she is moving from Germany to Florida and just had a baby (FSIL) but also didnt contribute any time or money to anything! Really nice! Especially when all of them jumped up and down when I asked them to be bridesmaids!

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W.T.F. is wrong with people???????????????????

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Posted by LeslieMike

Oh, and I have to add that two of my bridesmaids are not coming to my bachelorette party because one of them doesnt have the money and has to watch her fiance's child the next day while he's at work. When she totally has family to watch her, and I would pay for her just so she could come out. Also, the other girl said she might have something the next day, which Im sure is FH's cousin's shower! ARGH! She is my future sister in law. Oh, and another bridesmaid won't come because she is moving from Germany to Florida and just had a baby (FSIL) but also didnt contribute any time or money to anything! Really nice! Especially when all of them jumped up and down when I asked them to be bridesmaids!

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they suuuck!

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

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Posted by LeslieMike

Oh, and I have to add that two of my bridesmaids are not coming to my bachelorette party because one of them doesnt have the money and has to watch her fiance's child the next day while he's at work. When she totally has family to watch her, and I would pay for her just so she could come out. Also, the other girl said she might have something the next day, which Im sure is FH's cousin's shower! ARGH! She is my future sister in law. Oh, and another bridesmaid won't come because she is moving from Germany to Florida and just had a baby (FSIL) but also didnt contribute any time or money to anything! Really nice! Especially when all of them jumped up and down when I asked them to be bridesmaids!

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they suuuck!

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The funniest part is . . .they don't see anything wrong with this behavior at all! I wish they could put themselves in my shoes. Both of them are getting married soon too . . .wonder how they would like it! hmmmm

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Posted by LeslieMike

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

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Posted by LeslieMike

Oh, and I have to add that two of my bridesmaids are not coming to my bachelorette party because one of them doesnt have the money and has to watch her fiance's child the next day while he's at work. When she totally has family to watch her, and I would pay for her just so she could come out. Also, the other girl said she might have something the next day, which Im sure is FH's cousin's shower! ARGH! She is my future sister in law. Oh, and another bridesmaid won't come because she is moving from Germany to Florida and just had a baby (FSIL) but also didnt contribute any time or money to anything! Really nice! Especially when all of them jumped up and down when I asked them to be bridesmaids!

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they suuuck!

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The funniest part is . . .they don't see anything wrong with this behavior at all! I wish they could put themselves in my shoes. Both of them are getting married soon too . . .wonder how they would like it! hmmmm

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Karma is a biotch!