Spinoff to bridal shower upset

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Posted by LeslieMike

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

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Posted by LeslieMike

Oh, and I have to add that two of my bridesmaids are not coming to my bachelorette party because one of them doesnt have the money and has to watch her fiance's child the next day while he's at work. When she totally has family to watch her, and I would pay for her just so she could come out. Also, the other girl said she might have something the next day, which Im sure is FH's cousin's shower! ARGH! She is my future sister in law. Oh, and another bridesmaid won't come because she is moving from Germany to Florida and just had a baby (FSIL) but also didnt contribute any time or money to anything! Really nice! Especially when all of them jumped up and down when I asked them to be bridesmaids!

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they suuuck!

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The funniest part is . . .they don't see anything wrong with this behavior at all! I wish they could put themselves in my shoes. Both of them are getting married soon too . . .wonder how they would like it! hmmmm

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That's the most ironic part, is that they NEVER ever see the wrong in it! but god for Effin bid someone did that to them, it would be the end of the world and they know it! (insert R.E.M. humming here)

It's not worth it to look back and say 'I did this, this, and this for her.' Because at the time you did it because you wanted to - not expecting anything in return. Don't let it get you upset.

What goes around comes around Anna. She'll get hers.

I'm sorry...

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

It's not worth it to look back and say 'I did this, this, and this for her.' Because at the time you did it because you wanted to - not expecting anything in return. Don't let it get you upset.

What goes around comes around Anna. She'll get hers.

I'm sorry...

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I know what you mean....but since she is 'family' I went out of my way to make sure I was there for her not only because I wanted to be there for her but because it was the right thing to do. I don't understand why she wouldn't do the same for me.


but it's okay...like my mom says don't get made get even!

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

It's not worth it to look back and say 'I did this, this, and this for her.' Because at the time you did it because you wanted to - not expecting anything in return. Don't let it get you upset.

What goes around comes around Anna. She'll get hers.

I'm sorry...

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I know what you mean....but since she is 'family' I went out of my way to make sure I was there for her not only because I wanted to be there for her but because it was the right thing to do. I don't understand why she wouldn't do the same for me.


but it's okay...like my mom says don't get made get even!

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LOL just remember about karma

i am so very sorry some people are just too self-centered and only think about themselves

we are dealing with some of that too. WE have two people complaining, uhmmm can i just say that the 2 people complaining both had two HUGE weddings, so happens that both were married twice and both times they had HUGE elaborate weddings. FH's parents went to all the weddings, gave alot of money and didnt complain. But when its time to give back people complain.


I agree, i make it to these events. I cant stand people complaining about showers, GET OVER YOUR D*MN self, its not about whether or not YOU like it. WE all deal with things S*CK it up, this is a big moment for somebody else in your life and how about being there for them. I am sure when it was their showers the world revolved around them and they didnt think about the fact that they dont like showers. Maybe not all showers are the fun most thing to do , but i love being part of such a special time in this persons life and feel honored that they want me to be a part of it. We've traveled far for events, went when we didnt have the luxury to spend money but still found a way to do so, went to work the next day exhausted, even took off from work to attend weddings, traveled to another state for a wedding. I dont get some people, and i am just sick and tired of this BS to even worry about them. If its a problem then DONT COME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and STFU

I can truely say I can understand. Im sorry your cuz is such a downer. Its that negative energy that we brides and people dont need in their lives. It hurts that they try to take the positiveness and happiness in things.

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Posted by Espo22

i am so very sorry some people are just too self-centered and only think about themselves

we are dealing with some of that too. WE have two people complaining, uhmmm can i just say that the 2 people complaining both had two HUGE weddings, so happens that both were married twice and both times they had HUGE elaborate weddings. FH's parents went to all the weddings, gave alot of money and didnt complain. But when its time to give back people complain.


I agree, i make it to these events. I cant stand people complaining about showers, GET OVER YOUR D*MN self, its not about whether or not YOU like it. WE all deal with things S*CK it up, this is a big moment for somebody else in your life and how about being there for them. I am sure when it was their showers the world revolved around them and they didnt think about the fact that they dont like showers. Maybe not all showers are the fun most thing to do , but i love being part of such a special time in this persons life and feel honored that they want me to be a part of it. We've traveled far for events, went when we didnt have the luxury to spend money but still found a way to do so, went to work the next day exhausted, even took off from work to attend weddings, traveled to another state for a wedding. I dont get some people, and i am just sick and tired of this BS to even worry about them. If its a problem then DONT COME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and STFU

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AMEN! I hear ya! Oh, and my FSIL (bridesmaid) did everything in her power for me NOT to have my shower at this nice place I think in the city. My MOH finally told me that FSIL has been one of the main problems, saying it wasnt convenient for her to get too, when ALL of my family and friends would have to come from all over the country and she lives in Long Island! I mean come on! What is not convenient for her!!!! Her wedding is next Jan. and I know she gets jealous of stuff sometimes, so Im guessing she didnt want me to have it at a nice place, probably because she knows she wont have one like that! ARGH! Though I would go out of my way for her, not bring her whole bridal party down!

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Posted by LeslieMike

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Posted by Espo22

i am so very sorry some people are just too self-centered and only think about themselves

we are dealing with some of that too. WE have two people complaining, uhmmm can i just say that the 2 people complaining both had two HUGE weddings, so happens that both were married twice and both times they had HUGE elaborate weddings. FH's parents went to all the weddings, gave alot of money and didnt complain. But when its time to give back people complain.


I agree, i make it to these events. I cant stand people complaining about showers, GET OVER YOUR D*MN self, its not about whether or not YOU like it. WE all deal with things S*CK it up, this is a big moment for somebody else in your life and how about being there for them. I am sure when it was their showers the world revolved around them and they didnt think about the fact that they dont like showers. Maybe not all showers are the fun most thing to do , but i love being part of such a special time in this persons life and feel honored that they want me to be a part of it. We've traveled far for events, went when we didnt have the luxury to spend money but still found a way to do so, went to work the next day exhausted, even took off from work to attend weddings, traveled to another state for a wedding. I dont get some people, and i am just sick and tired of this BS to even worry about them. If its a problem then DONT COME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and STFU

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AMEN! I hear ya! Oh, and my FSIL (bridesmaid) did everything in her power for me NOT to have my shower at this nice place I think in the city. My MOH finally told me that FSIL has been one of the main problems, saying it wasnt convenient for her to get too, when ALL of my family and friends would have to come from all over the country and she lives in Long Island! I mean come on! What is not convenient for her!!!! Her wedding is next Jan. and I know she gets jealous of stuff sometimes, so Im guessing she didnt want me to have it at a nice place, probably because she knows she wont have one like that! ARGH! Though I would go out of my way for her, not bring her whole bridal party down!

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I hope they disregarded what she said and still have YOU in mind. I hope your shower is one of the best days of your life wherever it may be despite the childish people!

my sister and *****-in-law (he's just horrible) are coaxed my mom into paying for her bridesmaid's dress b/c 'they didn't have the money' YET they spend THOUSANDS on trip to howard stern events. she's already said she cant afford a shower and wedding gift b/c they are so strapped for cash, but in the same sentence they are talking about buying a new car.

Anna, your post is not too long. And, I'm sorry, your cousin is acting that way!! Deb hasn't had her shower yet, so I guess we'll find out who cares and who doesn't! But you're such a sweet girl, I can't imagine people treating you like that!! Mary MOB