SPINOFF TO CONFIDING: Would you keep secrets regarding your kids?
gertyrae
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SPINOFF TO CONFIDING: Would you keep secrets regarding your kids?
I only ask this cuz someone I work with has older children and one of her girls got engaged and then married without her father knowing at all. The mother knew she got engaged and never told her husband. This is not the first time she has kept secrets re: the kids from him. I find it kind of shocking, I would think you would want to be a united force when it comes to your children. Just curious.
Kriss2c
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Maybe something little, like Little Tommy broke the vase that was on the coffee table... but not something as big as an engagement and marriage. Sheesh... they got issues.
BMD'sPeanut
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Their child got married and they are still married and the wife didn't tell her husband? I don't get it...I'm shocked.
gertyrae
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The father knows now...the daughter told them both after she got married. He just never knew she was engaged to begin with. He still doesn't know his wife knew before him. And yes, I agree, serious issues.
WinterBride2005
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Posted by Kriss2c
Maybe something little, like Little Tommy broke the vase that was on the coffee table... but not something as big as an engagement and marriage. Sheesh... they got issues.
Same here
Donna
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The father knows now...the daughter told them both after she got married. He just never knew she was engaged to begin with. He still doesn't know his wife knew before him. And yes, I agree, serious issues.
It is serious but you don't know the woman's relationship with her husband. They could be one of those couples that don't talk or get along just stay together for the kids. It's sad but I see/hear a lot of older couples like that.
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Posted by gertyrae
I only ask this cuz someone I work with has older children and one of her girls got engaged and then married without her father knowing at all. The mother knew she got engaged and never told her husband. This is not the first time she has kept secrets re: the kids from him. I find it kind of shocking, I would think you would want to be a united force when it comes to your children. Just curious.
Are these people divorced? My mother and father don't speak to eachother. They just went through a nasty divorce for the past 5 years. You could really be talking about my mother right now. My sister got married without him knowing and so am I. He knew we were engaged only because I told him. We are grown children. After a certain age it is not the mothers responsibility to inform the father on everything. If we wanted him there we would have told him oursleves. And if a fther doesn't even know their child got engaged or got maried what kind of father is that? He must not have a good relationship with his kids. I would say it is either his fault or the kid's fault, but not the mothers.
btrflygrl
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I WOULD NEVER keep a secret about our kids (when we have them).....it's OUR child, so why should I keep things. Now...if it's a teenage girly thing and she doesn't want daddy to know....that's something to think about, but I'd probably tell him and ask him to keep it hush hush. A childs confidence in their parents should be strong.
nov04LIbride
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Little secrets I guess...My mom kept secrets from my father about us though, because my father is very controlling and had very high expectations of us, even when we were little. If we got a B in a class, I am sure she wouldn't tell him to save us from a lecture. I'll see what kind of parent my FH is before I decide for sure.
Maribelle7777
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I would tell my DH if our kid ever got pregnant, engaged, married, was gay, wanted a sex change....etc. But little things that they may feel better confiding in me about....it depends on the circumstances and how the spouse may react.
palebride
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my mother and i had little secrets with each other - she would buy me a little gift and not tell my father becase he's crazy about spending money..... but everything else, once i told one parents, i knew the other would know....that made it easier on me becasue i knew that i didn't have to tell two people if it was something bad, but i knew i would have the support of both of them. but i have an amazing relationship with both of my parents...which has gotten a lot stronger since I moved out of the house
If the parents are still together, i think it's important for them to be one unit for their children. divorced, as julz said, is a whole different story!
gertyrae
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They are still together 'happily' she says...and speaking of gay children...my friend is gay and his boyfriend's father doesn't know (his dad's an old marine) but everyone else including his mom know.
RedHead
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Yes i absolutely would...I have told my mom a lot of private things that doesn't need my fathers knowing...Maybe it is because this is a mother-daughter relationship, i dunno. I told my mom the first time i had sex...and would have been devestated if she told my dad that. Of course i would tell my husband important things but he doesn't have to know EVERYTHING!
