Spinoff to my own threads: michi story/pissed at my friend

MuchInLuvMichi Posted: Nov 08, 2004 12:47 PM

Spinoff to my own threads: michi story/pissed at my friend

to make a very long story short there r 2 guys i talk to from the computer, i like both of them alot--cute, great convo all that kinda stuff..i have plans to meet with both of them in the upcoming week (have never met them at all yet)

i def. think meeting them can help me feel a whole new way for each guy...now they obviously dont know about each other b/c there is really nothing to tell them...so my friend feels that i owe each guy an explanation that they r there NOT the only guy i m talking to?? i think she is so wrong, i dont even kno these guys in person yet-y would i mention that..

does any1 agree with her? its not like me and either of the guys has promised anything to each other once we have met, we r just seeing what happens, for all i kno i could end up hating both guys or they could hate me...she really put me in a bad mood and like made me feel guilty for talking to both of them w/o there knowledge--mind u i never met either 1 in person yet

Karacg Posted: Nov 08, 2004 12:52 PM

Re: Spinoff to my own threads: michi story/pissed at my friend

Dating is dating --- you have no committment to anyone. And they are probably talking to more than just one girl too. When I met DH, I had a date the night before with another guy - and it went really well. SO I dated them both for about a month. No questions were asked so I never had to lie. Turns out they were both seeing other people too....ha the joke was on ME! Well the first guy got married 2 weeks ago to the 'other' girl he was dating. And DH well...you know...!!

SO -- NO you do NOT have to tell either one of them anything unless YOU feel you should, when and wehre are up to you.

tracyg Posted: Nov 08, 2004 12:53 PM

Re: Spinoff to my own threads: michi story/pissed at my friend

I wouldn't tell either one, for the reasons you gave. there is just no need to at this point.... IMO.

kpny622 Posted: Nov 08, 2004 12:56 PM

Re: Spinoff to my own threads: michi story/pissed at my friend

Definitely no need to tell either of them about the other at this point - or even if you see both of them non-seriously a few times. I actually think it would be strange if you did...if I were the guy I'd wonder why you were telling me so soon and fear that you thought we were in some kind of serious relationship!

brideinapril Posted: Nov 08, 2004 01:04 PM

Re: Spinoff to my own threads: michi story/pissed at my friend

Absolutely not! - You don't have to tell either of them - your did not commit to them - Thats what Dating means!!!!!

btrflygrl Posted: Nov 08, 2004 01:07 PM

Re: Spinoff to my own threads: michi story/pissed at my friend

I agree with Karacg...casual dating is just dating....and honestly, I would not outright tell them, but somehow let them know that you are not exclusive.

When DH and I were on our break and I was dating other guys, I told him I was hanging out with other guys. Nothing he could do, he didn't like it, but I felt compelled to be honest with him