Is there anything that can be done to have your marriage recognized by the Catholic Church after you’re already married?
smara
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Means is DAMN expensive..and I was wondering if there is anymore money that the Church would like us to shell out to have it be recognized by them.
God recognizes it no matter where it is...why does the church have to be so rediculous?
that's what I thought too! it sounded to us like they were just looking for $$ and not really all that concerned about anything else.
IMO, for them to ask for $2,500 to recognize our marriage takes the meaning of God out of it, you know?
What church is asking for 2500? I never heard of that?
SomethingBlu
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I wonder if there is a loophole here. I don't mean to sound disrespectful…. But if my DH promises to raise our kids Catholic, that’s not really a lie b/c we plan on raising them with both religions.
Do you think that would be ok?
I think it's a personal choice. Will you prevent him from doing so or is that the plan anyway? Do you have a priest that you feel comfortable talking to?
carlsbride
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I don't understand what all the above means. You should go talk to your priest.
The man was married previously. I was not. He divorced. After 2 years the annulment is still in the works. hence We would like it to be recognized by the church...
What is our next step?
Yes..we're both Catholic.
Means is DAMN expensive..and I was wondering if there is anymore money that the Church would like us to shell out to have it be recognized by them.
God recognizes it no matter where it is...why does the church have to be so rediculous?
I guess you just have to wait on the tribunal to come to it's conclusion. If they grant the annulment you can have the marriage convalidated. Yes, lawyers are expensive. Considering Canon lawyers spend even more time in law school, I guess they deserve to be paid for their work also. If you are Catholic and want to receive the Sacrament of Matrimony-there are certain steps that have to be followed. For people who believe in this faith-the rules aren't so ridiculous. Good luck I hope it works out.
carlsbride
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Posted by dleeny
Posted by SomethingBlu
I wonder if there is a loophole here. I don't mean to sound disrespectful…. But if my DH promises to raise our kids Catholic, that’s not really a lie b/c we plan on raising them with both religions.
Do you think that would be ok?
It is not a loophole - my sister is raising my nephew and niece Catholic. My BIL celebrates all of the Jewish holidays and teaches them about his faith-along with his parents. I wouldn't consider that doing anything wrong or lying. It works out well for them.
Mrs. dleeny
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Posted by smara
Posted by dleeny
Posted by 103005FallBride
Means is DAMN expensive..and I was wondering if there is anymore money that the Church would like us to shell out to have it be recognized by them.
God recognizes it no matter where it is...why does the church have to be so rediculous?
that's what I thought too! it sounded to us like they were just looking for $$ and not really all that concerned about anything else.
IMO, for them to ask for $2,500 to recognize our marriage takes the meaning of God out of it, you know?
What church is asking for 2500? I never heard of that?
It wasn’t a specific church. While we researched the option, that number came up as a suggested donation.
Mrs. dleeny
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Posted by SomethingBlu
Posted by dleeny
I wonder if there is a loophole here. I don't mean to sound disrespectful…. But if my DH promises to raise our kids Catholic, that’s not really a lie b/c we plan on raising them with both religions.
Do you think that would be ok?
I think it's a personal choice. Will you prevent him from doing so or is that the plan anyway? Do you have a priest that you feel comfortable talking to? no, we don't. he's only been a NYer for 2 years.
the thing is, I feel strongly about not having our children baptized. so I guess this is all moot point.
