SPINOFF to STRIPPERS.... it's long, sorry.
Okay I've been hesitant to post this because I really don't care to start ![]()
so please take this for what it's worth. Just sharing my experience.
I spoke with my FH about the strippers post, and how many girls seemed to be OK with the idea of a strip club but not a private location stripper, and said how I felt the same way. This started a bit of a discussion.
He said he'd actually prefer (and feel more comfortable with) a private stripper situation. My FH is very, very shy. I was a bit taken aback, so I asked him to explain. Here's how it went.
FH: I really just hate strip clubs, they're expensive, drinks are expensive, blah blah blah
Me: Okay, well, what makes me uncomfortable about a private stripper is that the girl may be more willing to do things that aren't permitted in strip clubs.
FH: I hate to break it to you, but that stuff happens in clubs too, that's what back rooms are for. And I've seen it at places I've been to. (this surprised me, but i guess i'm naive??)
Me: Okay, but at a club you don't have as much interaction as you would with a private stripper. You told me exactly what went on at (a GM's) bachelor party in the hotel in vegas, and I've never seen strippers doing that in a club.
FH: That's true, but it also depends on how comfortable the guy is. At (GM's) bachelor party (private stripper at hotel in vegas) both me and (the other BM) got 'special' dances because we were the BM. I was obviously extremely uncomfortable, the girl knew this, it made her uncomfortable, and my 'special' dance was MUCH shorter and less interactive than (the other BM) was. Plus, you still have to pay extra for anything 'more' anyway. I'd never allow that.
Me: Okay but what about when you're the groom and everyone is egging it on?
FH: If i'm uncomfortable, I'm uncomfortable, and no amount of egging it on is going to change that. You should have no say in what goes on at my bachelor party. All you need to know is that I'm not going to cheat on you, end of story.
Me: I wasn't trying to have a say, I simply shared something with you. I thought you'd be less comfortable with a private stripper than a strip club, and it caught me off guard that I was incorrect.
FH: Okay, fine.
Me: Let me just ask you one thing... if for my bachelorette party there was a private male stripper and he laid me down on the floor, straddled me, and grinded his g-string covered junk between my hot legs, would you be ok with that?
FH: Um, no. Point taken.
Bottom line ladies... I think it all comes down to your FH, not so much where the action is taking place (a club, or a private place).
I spoke with my FH about the strippers post, and how many girls seemed to be OK with the idea of a strip club but not a private location stripper, and said how I felt the same way. This started a bit of a discussion.
He said he'd actually prefer (and feel more comfortable with) a private stripper situation. My FH is very, very shy. I was a bit taken aback, so I asked him to explain. Here's how it went.
FH: I really just hate strip clubs, they're expensive, drinks are expensive, blah blah blah
Me: Okay, well, what makes me uncomfortable about a private stripper is that the girl may be more willing to do things that aren't permitted in strip clubs.
FH: I hate to break it to you, but that stuff happens in clubs too, that's what back rooms are for. And I've seen it at places I've been to. (this surprised me, but i guess i'm naive??)
Me: Okay, but at a club you don't have as much interaction as you would with a private stripper. You told me exactly what went on at (a GM's) bachelor party in the hotel in vegas, and I've never seen strippers doing that in a club.
FH: That's true, but it also depends on how comfortable the guy is. At (GM's) bachelor party (private stripper at hotel in vegas) both me and (the other BM) got 'special' dances because we were the BM. I was obviously extremely uncomfortable, the girl knew this, it made her uncomfortable, and my 'special' dance was MUCH shorter and less interactive than (the other BM) was. Plus, you still have to pay extra for anything 'more' anyway. I'd never allow that.
Me: Okay but what about when you're the groom and everyone is egging it on?
FH: If i'm uncomfortable, I'm uncomfortable, and no amount of egging it on is going to change that. You should have no say in what goes on at my bachelor party. All you need to know is that I'm not going to cheat on you, end of story.
Me: I wasn't trying to have a say, I simply shared something with you. I thought you'd be less comfortable with a private stripper than a strip club, and it caught me off guard that I was incorrect.
FH: Okay, fine.
Me: Let me just ask you one thing... if for my bachelorette party there was a private male stripper and he laid me down on the floor, straddled me, and grinded his g-string covered junk between my hot legs, would you be ok with that?
FH: Um, no. Point taken.
Bottom line ladies... I think it all comes down to your FH, not so much where the action is taking place (a club, or a private place).
