We are looking to buy a home soon, and it just seems impossible to even have the choice anymore to stay home and raise your own kids.
just curious what my peers are thinking
angelbear217
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God I would love to. I don't think that financially we will be able to unless we move out of LI. My mom was one and I have always dreamed of staying home with my kids. Unfortunately we need both salaries to even stay afloat.
DebsNY
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i plan to, but then again, we're not going to be living on LI. I'd like to stay home for at least the first year if I can.
MrsA814
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i really want to stay home with my kids i hope i'm able to. at least they are in school.
Mrs. dleeny
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only 1 of my friends is a stay at home mom and the only reason they're able to do that is b/c her hubby has 2 jobs.... and they're house has 3 bedrooms, 1 bathroom and no basement - with 3 KIDS!
dm24angel
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Would LOVE too, no way in HE LL I could! Looking into starting a business if need be in the next 5-7 years.
LadyPrincess
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on LI....not possible in this lifetime
February05
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i wish!!! right now i couldnt even imagine having kids even with TWO incomes... nevermind one
i would love to be a SAHM, and we're pretty sure that we're leaving NY w/in the next year or so,,, but even then, i feel like we would still need 2 incomes.
i hate money... and lack there-of
Azrael27
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FH wants me to and we'll be living in GA then, so I prob will. I would love the opp to stay with my kids but I don't know if I will be able to handle it though - I think I'll go crazy! Maybe I'll work part time.
CubanBride
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I will probably stay home for the first 6 months and then work part time for the next 6 months. But I could never stop working permanently. I feel like having a career outside of the home is very important.
FTRBRIDE
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I'll stay at home for my maternity leave, then back to work for me. I didn't spend 4 years in college and 3 years in law school to not use my degrees.
boobobunny
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I wish that I could be a stay at home mom. We found out 2 days after we booked the Watermill that we were going to have a baby....so we used the money that we orginally saved for the wedding for a down payment on a house. My fiance is now working a load of overtime so that we can resave the money for the wedding. We both have really good jobs...but our base salaries just pays the bills. I would love to be at home with my son....but we are really lucky because my mom watches him while I am at work. If she wasn't able to do this for us I don't think that I would be able to work....and if I didn't work we wouldn't be able to afford the house...and still have money to spoil our little guy.
Darcy
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Maybe the first year if possible, or working part time. I know someone who worked only the mornings at her job.
KimberlyBride
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We just bought a house and definitely cannot afford to live there on one salary. We are considering moving to PA in 5 or so years when we want to have kids.
buckles
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I am really hoping to do it. It may be possible for at least 1 year. It all depends on FH's next job and how some investments turn out. You can definitly say I am putting away for the future.
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When my son was born, I stood home with home for a year-financially it was difficult, but I felt it was important that I do it. I worked part time up until my daughter was born five years later. I stood home with her until she was a little over 2. Fortunately, I had my mom (who was always a stay at home mom). She watched both of my children when they were babies and now she's watching my 3-year old nephew while my sister works. If I didn't have my mom, I probably wouldn't have worked at all while my kids were small.
nylibride
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I'm so glad to see this up for discussion. I don't know what I want to do. Even though it is an option to stay home, and I'm excited at the prospect of starting a family in a couple of years, I think my ideal situation would be to work half-time until they go to school. I think I'll be a happier mom and spouse if I'm able to continue to attempt to continue having a professional life and a family. I say this now.... I went to school for a long freaking time and I like what I do. But, as my fh repeatedly tells me, you'll never know until you're in the situation (he's prefer I'd stay home...)....
Tough stuff.... NY/LI is so expensive, it makes this even tougher...
I voted yes, but actually it was a little of the 3rd answer as well. I plan on working with the accounting firm that has office space here by working on bookkeeping from home.
eogara
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I'm hoping to have my own practice set up by then so I'll ideally be working out of the home. We'd still need someone to come in and watch the baby while I'm with clients but it's a little different from working away from home.
jeanla4c
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I would like to for part of the time (when kids are babies) but I would go crazy not working at least part time, esp. with all the work I have put into my field. Ideally love to consult and work from home on my own schedule.
