Step parents

jgl Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:18 PM

Step parents

FH has step parents.

his mother is remarried (love her husband!!)
His father is remarred (we ARE NOT close with either at all.. they live in FL)

so my quesiton is.. how are you handleing step parents...

1. introductions: i guess we introduce them both as couples one after the other?

2. What should i do for tuxes - i was thinking of having FH's step dad and my dad wear the same tux and shirt etc as the BP. should i include FH's bio dad in that? but hes in FL?

3. CHURCH - walking down the aisle. all 3 sets of parents would walk down right?

AmandaLynn04 Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:20 PM

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I certainly hope there are no Dr's in there!!!

jgl Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:20 PM

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

I certainly hope there are no Dr's in there!!!

haha .. not just friends who are!

wo0shply Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:21 PM

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Adding a question,

For invitations do you put your step parents name on it? My mom passed away and my dad remarried. I dont know how to word my invitations.

ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:21 PM

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i think fh's dad should wear the same..and all the couples should just walk down one after the other like u said

jgl Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:23 PM

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Posted by wo0shply

Adding a question,

For invitations do you put your step parents name on it? My mom passed away and my dad remarried. I dont know how to word my invitations.

this all gets so confusing.. why do they have to get divorced haha

anyway.. for our eparty invites we didnt put parent names.. we did the parents of GIna and James invite you. so i think that is what we are going to HAVE to do for our wedding invites

jgl Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:23 PM

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Posted by ILOVEBRIAN2008

i think fh's dad should wear the same..and all the couples should just walk down one after the other like u said

thats what i figured.. but it hink it might be a prob since he lives in FL and we dont really talk to him.. but he insists hes coming to the wedding.

wo0shply Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:29 PM

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Posted by jgl

Posted by wo0shply

Adding a question,

For invitations do you put your step parents name on it? My mom passed away and my dad remarried. I dont know how to word my invitations.

this all gets so confusing.. why do they have to get divorced haha

anyway.. for our eparty invites we didnt put parent names.. we did the parents of GIna and James invite you. so i think that is what we are going to HAVE to do for our wedding invites

Ohh nice! I'm going to FH, I have a feeling FH's mom will be sad that her name isnt on the invite but she should understand.

jgl Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:31 PM

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Posted by wo0shply

Posted by jgl

Posted by wo0shply

Adding a question,

For invitations do you put your step parents name on it? My mom passed away and my dad remarried. I dont know how to word my invitations.

this all gets so confusing.. why do they have to get divorced haha

anyway.. for our eparty invites we didnt put parent names.. we did the parents of GIna and James invite you. so i think that is what we are going to HAVE to do for our wedding invites

Ohh nice! I'm going to FH, I have a feeling FH's mom will be sad that her name isnt on the invite but she should understand.

it would look funny listing all those names..

missliss Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:36 PM

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I'm in the same boat more or less. FHs parents are both remarried. Both 2nd husbands & wives are great and he gets along with both wonderfully. But I still haven't figured out the logistics of everything either. I will be having both couple introduced one after another at the reception I know that. FH's mom and step-dad first, then dad and step-mom. Don't know about walking down the aisle....maybe the same thing....?
And invites, I want to honor everyone (& their financial contribution-tacky but true) but I just feel like that's waaaaay too many names on one invites.
so, I feel your confusion.

missliss Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:39 PM

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Oh, and the tuxes, all the 'dads' will be in tuxes. But in that case my situation is a little different than yours because there's no strain in any of the relationships.....I would say include biological dad in w/the tuxes, but I don't know the finer details of the strain.....so I don't know....

mrspalomino148 Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:39 PM

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I thought I had it bad with him just having a step-mom lol, his mom just got divorced for a 2nd time now so I don't need to include his step dad ... But I think his dad should be included, maybe ask him to get measured down in florida and then you can order the tux for him ?

jgl Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:51 PM

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Posted by missliss

I'm in the same boat more or less. FHs parents are both remarried. Both 2nd husbands & wives are great and he gets along with both wonderfully. But I still haven't figured out the logistics of everything either. I will be having both couple introduced one after another at the reception I know that. FH's mom and step-dad first, then dad and step-mom. Don't know about walking down the aisle....maybe the same thing....?
And invites, I want to honor everyone (& their financial contribution-tacky but true) but I just feel like that's waaaaay too many names on one invites.
so, I feel your confusion.

thanks so much for all that info!!!!! i think the introductions and church will jsut be like it would have been with just 2 sets - you are right!!

jgl Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:52 PM

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Posted by Future_Mr_andMrs_Palomino

I thought I had it bad with him just having a step-mom lol, his mom just got divorced for a 2nd time now so I don't need to include his step dad ... But I think his dad should be included, maybe ask him to get measured down in florida and then you can order the tux for him ?

good point, even though FH doesnt talk to him really he is the type that he doesnt get it and would just be like OKAY!

good suggestion!

missliss Posted: Aug 02, 2007 03:57 PM

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Posted by jgl

Posted by missliss

I'm in the same boat more or less. FHs parents are both remarried. Both 2nd husbands & wives are great and he gets along with both wonderfully. But I still haven't figured out the logistics of everything either. I will be having both couple introduced one after another at the reception I know that. FH's mom and step-dad first, then dad and step-mom. Don't know about walking down the aisle....maybe the same thing....?
And invites, I want to honor everyone (& their financial contribution-tacky but true) but I just feel like that's waaaaay too many names on one invites.
so, I feel your confusion.

thanks so much for all that info!!!!! i think the introductions and church will jsut be like it would have been with just 2 sets - you are right!!

Anytime!

Isn't it fun w/two sets of in-laws???

jgl Posted: Aug 02, 2007 04:03 PM

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Posted by missliss

Posted by jgl

Posted by missliss

I'm in the same boat more or less. FHs parents are both remarried. Both 2nd husbands & wives are great and he gets along with both wonderfully. But I still haven't figured out the logistics of everything either. I will be having both couple introduced one after another at the reception I know that. FH's mom and step-dad first, then dad and step-mom. Don't know about walking down the aisle....maybe the same thing....?
And invites, I want to honor everyone (& their financial contribution-tacky but true) but I just feel like that's waaaaay too many names on one invites.
so, I feel your confusion.

thanks so much for all that info!!!!! i think the introductions and church will jsut be like it would have been with just 2 sets - you are right!!

Anytime!

Isn't it fun w/two sets of in-laws???

Oh gessh .. no... his step mom i swear is a lesbo.. at least Bi then! (NO ONE COME YELLING AT ME BECAUSE I SAID THAT _ i have nothing against homosexuals - i just think that she is! )

CNC10408 Posted: Aug 02, 2007 10:15 PM

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Posted by wo0shply

Adding a question,

For invitations do you put your step parents name on it? My mom passed away and my dad remarried. I dont know how to word my invitations.

I would do along with their parents, Jack and Jill request the honor (honour) or your......that way everyone is covered....

ttweety7 Posted: Aug 02, 2007 10:48 PM

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Just send an evite-- It would be less confusing!! :)

Mici n KC Posted: Aug 03, 2007 01:10 AM

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It's really up to you and FH. If you don't want all of them walking down the aisle you don't have to have it. I'm going to have both of my parents walk me down the aisle. I don' t know about FH's mom and step father. I'm sure they will want to. Doesn't matter to me. His mom and dad divorced when he was really young and she remarried. He has since passed. If you only want your parents going down the aisle it's up to you. Don't go by what the standard is or what other people say. Do what you want. If you don't care either way, ask them what their preference is.