Stiffed.....now what?

Jamnike Posted: Jul 15, 2008 11:05 PM

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i would give it a bit and maybe try to find out or have someone find out for you, if unfortunately something happened tho their cards at the RH? I know it is horrible to think of but it is a possibility since some people that work at RH cant be trusted :( :(

jessnstu08 Posted: Jul 15, 2008 11:36 PM

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I would wait a little while(a couple months) , but I would say something along the lines of a few cards went missing and you want to make sure that their check didn't get stolen.

The OOT's I wouldn't because many don't give gifts ( I would NEVER go to any wedding without giving a gift, but they get a pass )

If they say they never gave a check , who cares if it embarrassed them , they should be ashamed of themselves for not at least giving a card. Its not about the amount of money but what ROCK to people live under that you don't give a gift when you come to a wedding cash or otherwise? i would seriously have an issue with those people, i am sorry to say and i might get ripped apart for it , but i have no use for people who don't know ( or care ) about right and wrong .

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Jul 15, 2008 11:37 PM

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wow I'm shocked! I could never do something like that..and I agree with you..i would definately feel hurt..thats just not right

drpepper318 Posted: Jul 15, 2008 11:44 PM

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I totally know how you feel.
We had tons of people stiff us and it really does hurt (and 'making money' has nothing to do with it, it hurts that someone close to you didn't feel it was important enough to give you so much as a card)
Yeah it sux but what can you do

040508Bride Posted: Jul 15, 2008 11:46 PM

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my wedding was 3 months ago and DH's darling aunt still hasn't given anything....along with several others from his side. Nice, huh??

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Jul 15, 2008 11:48 PM

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This happened to me as well, its about over 5 weeks and we have slowly gotten some of the gifts, one family sent us 1000 dollars which was really nice.
And we got some gifts from our registry, and some cards with checks, and some cards with checks from people that RSVP'd no.

The worst part about getting stiffed is if you recently went to their wedding and gave a gift and they gave you nothing.

We went to one of DH's friends weddings not even a year ago, and gave 400 and they did not come to ours, and havnt sent anything yet.

I would wait a bit longer, things may show up in the mail, but we arent counting on it.

I know you dont have a wedding to get gifts, BUT...can you imagine yourself going to a wedding/sweet sixteen/Bar Mitvah without a gift??

I know DH made Alot of money for his Bar Mitvah it was like a wedding, so its odd that some of his family didnt give anything

We got a Regift from someone in his family, it was wrapped in newspaper from 2007 and it was covered in dog hair...real nice

missK Posted: Jul 16, 2008 07:05 AM

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Dont stress yet. I had several people including my brother forget to bring the card the wedding day. They just gave it to me later. I was getting cards in the mail too with apology letters.

nifheim Posted: Jul 16, 2008 08:01 AM

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There were a few who either forgot to give the card or sent a gift but it was about 2 weeks later when I got those, the people who truly stiffed me were the ones who said yes didn't show and didn't send a gift (six of them).

Jenn04 Posted: Jul 16, 2008 08:22 AM

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Wow...its good to know I am not alone here and thanks for all your input!

Future Mrs M - that regift is such BS!

mRm2008 Posted: Jul 16, 2008 08:27 AM

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Feeling hurt is well within your rights on this one.
I am so sorry that happened to you

toniscott Posted: Jul 16, 2008 08:29 AM

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Posted by yswedding

wow, I don't know what the ettiquette says to do, but thats the rudest thing I've ever heard of. At the very least they should give you a note with well wishes. Really? Nothing at all?

I'm in total shock at the thought even, what the heck do you do?

Totally agree! I can't believe in this day and age people would dare to show up empty handed..No card, nothing...Inexcusable (sp?)

Shelly9697 Posted: Jul 16, 2008 08:34 AM

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I agree it is crazy and I would never do that either BUT nothing is surprising me anymore!! I have had so many surprises along the way with this wedding of things that I would never do but some people just dont care!! it is totally crazy!!

NapaValleyGirl Posted: Jul 16, 2008 09:16 AM

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Jenna!!! That stinks.

One of FH's friends who got married just told us that their mutual close friend didn't get them a gift for their wedding till MONTHS after they got married.

She got them a charitable contribution for $100...
A charity that neither the bride or the groom had heard of.

I understand the intentions might be there but this is a girl who spends $100 on getting a spa manicure and pedicure....

PS she was a bridesmaid in the wedding as well!!!

SparkyandAng Posted: Jul 16, 2008 09:30 AM

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My issue wouldn't be not receiving a gift, b/c I really am inviting everyone b/c I want them to share the day with me, however, my fear is that they did give a gift and it was lost or stollen and I won't be thanking them b/c I never got it. That's what is tricky for me.

At my eparty I had a person that I swore handed me a card and yet I couldn't find it. I didn't want to not thank him so I asked and he said 'he was embarassed to give us an empty card and he didn't have the money'. I felt horrible and told him not to worry about the gift, I just wanted to make sure it wasn't stollen.

futuremrsfab Posted: Jul 16, 2008 09:32 AM

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sorry that that happened to you. and I think you are completely right, the least that they could have done was given a card.

GMar9508 Posted: Jul 16, 2008 09:46 AM

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When my sister got married one of her bridesmaid claimed she 'left the check at home' fast forward 2 years later she still hasn't given it to her, and when she came to my e-party she pulled the same card and now a year later nothing, I know my bridal shower has to be coming up lets see if she gives me a gift, some people are just like that, I SO sorry this happened to you just remember for the nest time it something for them you have to give a gift for

by the way you were such a gorgeous bride CONGRATS

Bride908 Posted: Jul 16, 2008 10:10 AM

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That is a tough one. How can you ask if someone gave a gift with out insulting them?? If people cant give a gift they should at least give a card, I mean really.