Still bothering me

My husband lost count of how many lap dances he had!!!! I am not the jealous type, I don't mind, hey he marrid me not the strippers!
XOXOXO
Kitty

I don't see a problem with it. I'm sure his friends bought them for him. Its cool! Don't worry about it! Its the last time he'll ever have one from someone other than you!

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Posted by Mikeysgirl

I know he's not really a pervert. The thing that bothers me the most is that it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him. I feel like if my boobs were as big as those girls and if I were as skinny as those girls then he wouldn't need 5 lap dances and he wouldn't want to go to a strip club. THat's whats really bothering me.

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Oh don't feel that way. I highly doubt he felt the 'need' to have 5 lap dances. I'm sure it was his friends that felt the need to buy them. No matter what you look like, if his friends wanted to take him to the strip club, they were going. My feeling is that boys will be boys, he was just a guy at his bachelor party, he didn't do anything wrong. I know it's annoying, but don't let it bother you.

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Posted by GabrielleandJohn

I think that boys are boys and they are the ones who buy them. I don't think it is crazy to have a 'over the top' night with your guy friends. The important thing is that he had fun, didn't do anything wrong and loves you.

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i agree! try not to worry about it sweeite.

Agree that 5 is not a lot considering his friends probably all wanted to get him a dance. Important to remember that the dancees were paid for and mean nothing to him.
Strip club are ways for guys to be rebellious w/o worrying about actually cheating because they are PAYING for it. Trust me, he can see you naked for free and is marry you.

That means that you shouldn't worry.

honestly, i dont think it's a big deal... its only a lap dance and he came home to you... don't worry!

my FH on the other hand doesnt want to do the strip club thing and i'm pressuring him to do it.. .i don't want to hear him complain a year from now that he didnt get to do the typical bachelor party things...

i don't know why i feel this way.. but I'm hoping FH has some raunchy fun and crazy lap dances. Who cares? It's just a fun, crazy night out. I don't know what my beliefs are regarding bach parties in general. But I guess I trust my FH so much that boobs in his face is NEVER going to change his mind about me... even when my own boobs seem to be getting smaller.
I think you need to trust him more...and worry less. And just go crazy at your party!!

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Posted by Mikeysgirl

I know he's not really a pervert. The thing that bothers me the most is that it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him. I feel like if my boobs were as big as those girls and if I were as skinny as those girls then he wouldn't need 5 lap dances and he wouldn't want to go to a strip club. THat's whats really bothering me.

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I think it is about right. Usually the guys buy them one lap dance each. A lot of times guys (and girls) get a little crazy when it comes to paying for a bachelor or bachelorette’s lap dance. Try not to think about the visuals. If it bothers you so much go to a Chippendales with your girlfriends and live it up. Getting a lap dance from a guy wouldn’t change the way he feels about you.

If it’s the strippers your worried about. Don’t even bother. I have been to all the strip clubs. Scores, Flash Dances, Gentleman’s club, Lace. The ladies may look pretty but their boobs are fake and don’t feel as good as real ones. Skinny is not that great. Men like some meat on them and all honesty it is personality that is better than anything. If you have confidence in yourself that looks better than anything out there. Trust me.

I say go to a nice lingerie place in the city. Victoria’s Secret or something like that and buy some sexy lingerie so you can wear for your man, something that flatters you. And put them damn strippers to shame!

my DH NEVER gets lap dances at the strip club....if he ever goes, he just hangs with his friend (who likes to go) , drinks beer, and ocasionally gives a tip.

the nite of his bachelor party...i know he had a few dances. it didn't make me happy.....but i know that guys will be guys. he didn't really want them, but he didn't want to say 'no' cause the guys were insistent and such. so he went with it, but i know he's not some perv or anything....he was just having a good time as his bach party.

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Posted by Mikeysgirl

I know he's not really a pervert. The thing that bothers me the most is that it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him. I feel like if my boobs were as big as those girls and if I were as skinny as those girls then he wouldn't need 5 lap dances and he wouldn't want to go to a strip club. THat's whats really bothering me.

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I know exactly how you are feeling. You have to not think about this. What would you do if your girlfriends bought lapdances for you? You would probably sit there and laugh. Strippers aren't sexy - it's actually kind of funny. You aren't crazy - this is why I have absolutely forbidden FH to go to a strip club for his BP. I know I wouldn't be able to handle it. Hang in there. Put yourself in his shoes and realize it means NOTHING