FH already had his bachelor party and he went to a strip club with his friends. I am bothered by the fact that he had 5 lap dances. At first I was ok with it until I told my friend he had 5 and she freaked out and said that was too much and that guys normally just get 1. So now I think I'm marrying a pervert and I can't get over the fact that he had to have 5 lap dances. DO you think 5 is excessive or is that a normal amount?
I really dont know anything about them, but if he had 5 friends with him and they each bought him one then that seems about right.
For a BP it may be normal since all the guys he's with wanted to buy him one - that's what I'm thnking. Your not marrying a pervert, just try to stop thinking about the 'images'.
I think that boys are boys and they are the ones who buy them. I don't think it is crazy to have a 'over the top' night with your guy friends. The important thing is that he had fun, didn't do anything wrong and loves you.
He did go with 5 friends and he says everyone was buying each other lap dances. You're right I need to get the 'images' out of my head! I wish I never told him it was ok for him to go!
Posted by Mikeysgirl
He did go with 5 friends and he says everyone was buying each other lap dances. You're right I need to get the 'images' out of my head! I wish I never told him it was ok for him to go!
I wouldnt worry about it - his friends probably bought him the lap dances.
Posted by GabrielleandJohn
I think that boys are boys and they are the ones who buy them. I don't think it is crazy to have a 'over the top' night with your guy friends. The important thing is that he had fun, didn't do anything wrong and loves you.
Posted by chellynyc
For a BP it may be normal since all the guys he's with wanted to buy him one - that's what I'm thnking. Your not marrying a pervert, just try to stop thinking about the 'images'.
I think this is going to bother me forever!
I don't know what is normal or not but you should go by your first reaction. It seems that your friends have her own beliefs and value system and that is fine. To each its own. Its not up to anyone else to judge rather or not FH is a pervert or not. Its what your heart tells you. Your friend is a friend but you are marrying this man for a reason and initially the dances did not bother you until your friend instigated.JMI
I know he's not really a pervert. The thing that bothers me the most is that it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him. I feel like if my boobs were as big as those girls and if I were as skinny as those girls then he wouldn't need 5 lap dances and he wouldn't want to go to a strip club. THat's whats really bothering me.
Posted by Mikeysgirl
I know he's not really a pervert. The thing that bothers me the most is that it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him. I feel like if my boobs were as big as those girls and if I were as skinny as those girls then he wouldn't need 5 lap dances and he wouldn't want to go to a strip club. THat's whats really bothering me.
Honestly I dont think its that bad...trust me im so not into the stripper deal but if my hubby was too go...if all his guys got him 1 or 2..they add up!! Dont feel you are marrying a pervert...its all good!!!
You have nothing to worry about. He didn't propose to any of the girls who gave him lap dances. He wants to marry you - spend his life with you. FH says that lap dances 'aren't even sexy' - 'It's just a guy thing'.
Posted by chellynyc
Posted by Mikeysgirl
He did go with 5 friends and he says everyone was buying each other lap dances. You're right I need to get the 'images' out of my head! I wish I never told him it was ok for him to go!
His friend would have dragged him there anyway.
