I don't know if anyone else is going through this, but all of my friends just got engaged and are getting married this year! It's a really hard time for my FI and I financially as we can't even afford our own wedding, and I'm starting to stress. I will be a BM in two of the weddings this summer and my wedding is this summer as well. I'm just nervous b/c I had my bridesmaids order their dresses through netbride so they could save and the dresses cost them a total of $146. I'm nervous that I will have to pay $300 for their BM dresses for their weddings. Also I live in San Diego, so my FI and I have to keep flying back to NY all summer for their weddings which costs $800 each trip. We have 4 weddings in NY this year. That's $3200 just in flights alone! And I'm not even counting the bridal showers in NY. I'm also invited to 3 other weddings on top of that. One girl from work has invited me to her engagement party, shower and wedding already and I am not even that good of friends with her. She is not even invited to my wedding. I can't afford this all at once. I'm really stressing out about this. I hope this doesn't make me a bad person.
Sassyz75
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Just because you are invited to things doesn't mean you have to go. If you don't attend you can send a smaller gift... It happened to me too- we all got married around the same time.
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I am stressing too. We have at least 4 weddings between now and Sept- plus two more when we get back from our HM. Luckily we are not in any of them. Can we afford this? No. But your friend's only get married once and next year we will have so much more $$ when we dont have to pay for all of this. Maybe you can see if some of the showers can occur when you are going to be in NY for something else. I am also trying to be considerate about BM dress price but I know when it is my friend's turn they will make me pay $300.
OctBride03
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FH & I have 9 weddings this year, granted we do not have to take any flights to get there, I can totally relate to your stress...
Are there any you can just say no to???
Nikki10-12-03
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Trust me I know about not having the money for any extras! Cant you explain to your friend how tight the $ is now? Hopefully she is in the same $ situation as most of us are and will understand.
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I already know that I cannot not attend my friends wedding April 26 in NY. I am planning on sending gifts for her bridal shower and wedding. What is the etiquette for gifts? Basically what should I spend for a gift for a wedding that I am not attending?
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octbride03--9 weddings this year!!! wow!
we only have 1 wedding this summer before ours...but next year we have 5 weddings to go to (so far)...
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I have 4 weddings to go to in 3 months, but luckily I am not in any of them, I do feel bad for some of my BM though becasue they are in more than one. I would suggest maybe not goign to all of them if you can't afford it, or maybe you can go alone to some, so you can save on airfare.
Buttafli1277
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This is definately the year for weddings. I have one just about every month starting in April. Plus the showers, and I'm also a BM in one of the weddings. It does get expensive, especially when you planning your own wedding.
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One of my colleagues did this with all her friends. It may sound cheesy or whatever you want to call it but if I had 9+ weddings to attend in one year, I would have considered it myself. They have a huge group of friends and all of them were getting married a month apart. Literally. So they all agreed since they were all attending each others wedding's what is the use of giving each other cash when it would be returned to them eventually. So they simply exchanged a gift that the couple could use at the honeymoon. Everyone agreed and was true to their word. Just a thought.
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We had 1 year in my family that almost all of my cousins got married-it was crazy, lucky for me I was young broke, so nobody expected much. I know that some of them that were in eachothers BPs decided that their gifts to eachother would be being in eachothers wedding & helping with showers & stuff. Maybe you can have a discussion with some of the other couples about this. They are probably concerned too.
