OMG! All I can think about it the past 2 weeks has been money. My brother is getting married 3 months before us and he is having a destination wedding in Key West. $400 a piece to fly and then $300 to stay in the hotel. THEN we have to stuff the envelope. THEN we have three OTHER weddings before us and we still have to find a way to pay for ours!!! I AM VERY OVERWHELMED!!!
Soon2BeMrsD
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im sorry your so overwhelmed thats a lot to handle!! take a breath and youll get through it!
glinda_goodwitch
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I'm sorry! But you still have time before his wedding and yours. You can put a little bit away from your paychecks each week and it will help a lot towards the destination wedding.
SunBride07
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I COMPLETELY understand!! It seems like money and budgeting is all I think about ....I wish money grew on trees
LaurenluvsTJ
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yea.... the money thing is definitely stressful... I know exactly what you mean
kissy27
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It is definately overwhelming!!!! It always seems that you get hit hard just when you need the $$! I know it is hard to handle, but I am sure you will do fine!! Don't stress over it much, it makes things worse!!!
MissyB
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Wow, that is alot to spend before yours but try not to stress
justshir
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i'm so sorry to hear of your financial woes. it's been about 1.5yrs since our wedding and we're still trying really hard to save money here and there. like eating at home often. skip shopping. going to less social functions. anything we can to have zero debt. we award ourselves every now and then for a job well done, tho don't worry! it'll only get easier.
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I'm sorry! I can also completely relate since all I think about is money since I got engaged. I set myself on a very strict budget, even mapping out which months I had to adjust based on other things going on (i.e. my best friend is getting married in 2 weeks so I know that in Feb I can put X dollars less towards our own wedding fund). It has been extremely difficult but I keep telling myself it will all work out, because I know eventually it will. Somehow this wedding will get paid for and I know yours will too!
FM if you ever want to chat. I completely understand!
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I'm in the same boat as u trust me. Ever since I got engaged all i keep thinking about is 'how are we ever gonna be able to pay for all of this'? My FH tells me not to worry and it'll all work out in the end but that doesn't seem to help me much. We're on a strict budget and I've mapped out our savings plan right up until the month before our wedding so everything is under control but it's human nature to worry. Just relax, take a step back and realize that everything will be ok...HTH
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TWIN!!! I feel your pain. FI and I spoke for hours last night about how money (and the lack thereof) has really become a cause for stress. But...I think there is light at the end of this tunnel. Can you go to hotels.com or cheaptickets.com to see if there is better offers? I can give you the name of my travel agent. let me know
nov06
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I hear ya! I only have 1 wedding before mine but I'm in it so I know I'll need some extra $$ for that and not to mention a bunch of baby showers and christenings coming up. Everything will work out in the end though. Try not to over stress about it.
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You are not alone. FH and I have eight weddings before ours and FH is in three of them. We have 21 mths. until our wedding so there could be more weddings before us that aren't planned as of yet.
I'm stressing too but I'm just trying to take it day by day - the way I'm thinking is it would be worse if we weren't invited anywhere because that would mean we didn't have great friends and families.
Somone once told me that when your planning a wedding and are going to other wedding's as a guest just think of it as a savings plan because that person will just give you the same money back at your wedding - at least I hope!!
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I am sorry you are stressing over this! It is so stressful and I totally understand what you are feeling. MY FH and I have 3 weddings before ours (he is in 2 of the BP's and I am in 1 of them) and we have the bachelor and bachelorette party for each, plus we are paying for our own wedding, plus all of our other bills, but it will work out. Somehow you always end up ok in the end. It will be tight, but you will get through it.
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I can relate... me and FH are on an extremely strict budget... it is crazy... and it still all doesnt add up... plus 7 weddings prior... 2 out of country...
But somehow we will manage I am sure...
are any of you paying for some of your wedding with 0% credit cards?
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you could wait to 'stuff' the envelope until after your wedding. It's not unheard of to give a gift a while later. This may help ease your stress. I would tell your brother that all of the expenses over the next few months will make it a hardship and explain apologetically that their wedding gift will come sometime soon after the wedding.
You may not be able to work this out with any of your friends who are getting married before you but think about giving a gift after.
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i completely understand how you feel....it stinks, but in the end i think everything always works out.
jcdesignz
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here's a suggestion - you cant do anything about the expense of the wedding that you have to go to --- but you can suggest to your friends and brother what my DH and i did the year we got married.
we, like you guys had seven wedding plus ours in a 16 month span --- so we talked to all of our friends and we wiped the slate clean - why hand 300 to a couple in april for them to hand it back to us in may ----
it worked out great - every one thought it was a great idea and we were able to go to the weddings money free and more stress fee - sure we still had to pay for BM dresses and tuxes and stuff to be in the bridal party - but not the 300 each time,...
