Stupid Ex Friend...

The d-bag from yesterday just won't let it go.

I write him a nice email (as many of you said, I was Waaaaaaay to nice). And then I get that as a response. I was offended because I really didn't think I did any of the disrespecting at all. One friend out of our little circle still talks to him. And he called me today and asked if I had calmed down (my facebook said otherwise...heh, oops?).

Anyway, the d-bag calls my friend and tells him if I don't take his reply down from my notes he's going to call the police and sue me for defamation of character. Um, can he really do that? I didn't mention his name. Can we say guilty much? My friend had told him not involve him, and actually told him 'don't fight with a bride, you will lose' (good man!). I didn't display his address or names. He then sends me this in my personal email because I blocked him on Fb:

'If you do not removed the contents of your profile I will take legal action. You need serious help.'

Seriously, this kid has a screw loose and from what I understand (cuz this is how badly I've been out of the loop) I'm not the only friend he 'told off' for no reason. But this email is a little creepy to me, and I seriously hope he doesn't find a way to ruin my wedding.

wow, that's insane!

i don't think he can do anything legally since, as you said, you didn't mention his name .... but i'm no lawyer so i have no idea.

right, which is why LIW has issues with our badmouthing vendors (and mentioning names) - they don't want us to get sued ...

wait your situation doesn't make sense - how could you possibly get sued over having a post with a story of what happened .... he can't prove that the story is about him!!!!

He probably can't, but on the flipside, airing dirty laundry on the internet never leads to anything good and doesn't help either party involved at all, so removing it would probably be in your best interest all around.

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched

He probably can't, but on the flipside, airing dirty laundry on the internet never leads to anything good and doesn't help either party involved at all, so removing it would probably be in your best interest all around.

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The funny thing is, I posted around 8pm I took it down around 11:30 last night because Fh asked me too (that and I also calmed down so I was like 'yes dear I will delete everything). So this kid waited until 2pm today to email me about it? Of course it doesn't make sense. From what I hear he hasn't been making much sense at all.

Basically, I said this:::

I sent an email to a friend:

MY thing

And this is what I got back:

his thing.

I ended with:

Get over yourself.

+++ the end.

then just ignore him if it's already down anyhow.

sounds liek this kid's a real catch

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

then just ignore him if it's already down anyhow.

sounds liek this kid's a real catch

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oh yea, hes a ladies man.

sorry but i think it was extremely immature for you to post that on fb in the first place. i would ask you to take it down as well but he can't take legal action against you since his name was not on there.

eta: i just went back and reread your post from yesterday and i would be extremely mad if i were him. first of all, he hadn't responded yet so you shouldn't have said anything to him until the issue really arose (in his letter he says he had decided to come solo anyway). and second, by posting his response all of your friends will know who wrote it by the things he says (bryan is the new him, so and so won't treat me well, etc.). sorry if i'm being mean but i was in the whole +1 situation with a lot of my friends too and i think you're the one in the wrong here.

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Posted by brittndave

sorry but i think it was extremely immature for you to post that on fb in the first place. i would ask you to take it down as well but he can't take legal action against you since his name was not on there.

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ITA.

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Posted by brittndave

sorry but i think it was extremely immature for you to post that on fb in the first place. i would ask you to take it down as well but he can't take legal action against you since his name was not on there.

eta: i just went back and reread your post from yesterday and i would be extremely mad if i were him. first of all, he hadn't responded yet so you shouldn't have said anything to him until the issue really arose (in his letter he says he had decided to come solo anyway). and second, by posting his response all of your friends will know who wrote it by the things he says (bryan is the new him, so and so won't treat me well, etc.). sorry if i'm being mean but i was in the whole +1 situation with a lot of my friends too and i think you're the one in the wrong here.

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Yea, ok then.

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Posted by jhines4684

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Posted by brittndave

sorry but i think it was extremely immature for you to post that on fb in the first place. i would ask you to take it down as well but he can't take legal action against you since his name was not on there.

eta: i just went back and reread your post from yesterday and i would be extremely mad if i were him. first of all, he hadn't responded yet so you shouldn't have said anything to him until the issue really arose (in his letter he says he had decided to come solo anyway). and second, by posting his response all of your friends will know who wrote it by the things he says (bryan is the new him, so and so won't treat me well, etc.). sorry if i'm being mean but i was in the whole +1 situation with a lot of my friends too and i think you're the one in the wrong here.

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Yea, ok then.

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you're the one that asked for people's opinions i can give you an example to support my opinion if you'd like.

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Posted by brittndave

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Posted by jhines4684

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Posted by brittndave

sorry but i think it was extremely immature for you to post that on fb in the first place. i would ask you to take it down as well but he can't take legal action against you since his name was not on there.

eta: i just went back and reread your post from yesterday and i would be extremely mad if i were him. first of all, he hadn't responded yet so you shouldn't have said anything to him until the issue really arose (in his letter he says he had decided to come solo anyway). and second, by posting his response all of your friends will know who wrote it by the things he says (bryan is the new him, so and so won't treat me well, etc.). sorry if i'm being mean but i was in the whole +1 situation with a lot of my friends too and i think you're the one in the wrong here.

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Yea, ok then.

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you're the one that asked for people's opinions i can give you an example to support my opinion if you'd like.

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Well I didn't want to post a 10 page background on the kid and I'm sure if you knew him you would have not blamed me a 100%. was a wrong to blow a lid and act like a 18 year old? you bet.If you don't think that deep down I don't think to myself I was wrong to even post this then I'm sorry you feel that way.