Stupid thing to be sad about, but i am

AeroJenn Posted: Dec 28, 2006 03:49 PM

Stupid thing to be sad about, but i am

Heres a little background: My BP is all in college and the only time that our breaks coincide is winter break (which we're on now). Since they go to school all over the place and the only time I planned on coming home from school was this break (from now til the wedding I'll be in CT) I was fairly certian that my shower would be sometime between dec. 20th and January 14th.

Anyway....nothing is coming off my registry (yes...im a peeker) and no one is really making sure that i dont make plans on a specific day. From what I understand, my FMIL isnt even certain of WHERE its being hosted. So, I can reasonably say that my shower will most likely NOT be this winter. I'm so disappointed. partly because my grandma (who moved to Florida) was home for xmas and I was really hoping if they did it this winter break, my grandma would be able to make it to my shower. BUT, if its not this break, so wont be able to comeback again before the wedding I know this is so stupid to be upset over and its suppose to be a surpirse so i should shut up and let things happen on their own...but im disappointed and also kind of worried that if its not within the next week, i might not be available to come home whatever weekend they do plan it for.

Okay, sorry for the stupid vent. Thanks for listening girls.

vmystique33 Posted: Dec 28, 2006 03:55 PM

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I would be upset also so dont feel stupid

MattandTricia07 Posted: Dec 28, 2006 03:55 PM

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sorry you are disappointed but I would feel the same way.

Summer842 Posted: Dec 28, 2006 04:10 PM

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I'm sure everything will work out...

Yecala27 Posted: Dec 28, 2006 04:13 PM

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Don't feel bad. I think they know but they don't want to say nothing to you to make it a surprise.

hunnybunnyxoxo Posted: Dec 28, 2006 04:32 PM

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dont feel stupid!! and really, dont feel bad!
trust in your bp and family!

I am sure they are all working it out!! Its prob. still too early. I would try not to peak at the registry. just let things be. and the best part is that you will most likely be 100% surprised! you ahve no clue when it will be!

try not to give it much thought.

MF9282 Posted: Dec 28, 2006 04:54 PM

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I would be sad also. My granny lives in FL. I want her here so bad it won't be the same w/o her. don't feel stupid!!!!

TLC1018 Posted: Dec 28, 2006 09:02 PM

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well i hope everything works out for you...

Future Mrs. Posted: Dec 28, 2006 09:03 PM

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you're not being stupid....I understand.

Don't worry....you're day will come.....sooner than you think!

SAMORY Posted: Dec 28, 2006 09:05 PM

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You still have time. They're trying to through you off. Don't worry.

cmrcmr0430 Posted: Dec 28, 2006 09:06 PM

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AAWWEE!! I would be upset...But, I am sure, because your wedding is in June, they may have it March or April, Right? I am getting married in May, I want to be surprised, but I kinda figured probably around March or April will be my Shower. I really hope that your Grandma will be able to come no matter when it is.... Don't worry, everything will work out...

PegaLega Posted: Dec 29, 2006 12:11 AM

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aw its ok for you to be upset, it stinks when you get excited for something and it doesnt happen

SoulMates422 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 08:05 AM

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awww dont worry it will somehow work itself out!

soon2bmrsVPT Posted: Dec 30, 2006 08:23 AM

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that is a completely understandable reason as to why you are upset. I am 100% with you and think you are justified in feeling this way. No one can tell you your feelings are wrong ... I'm sorry things don't look too lovely right now.. Chin up- they may surprise you!

diva7531 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 08:27 AM

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'If you build it up, it will fall down!' I was waiting for my baby shower 5yrs ago, doing the same thing peeking at the registry. And low and behold she surprised me. I didn't think I could be surprised, but I was. And everything worked out great. Decide whether or not you want to be surprised and if you do promise yourself that you won't peek anymore. You never know what your friends can pull off, they might have decided this time was too obvious, maybe your gram is going to fly back up, maybe they will have it near your school. I'm just starting this proccess myself but with being in school and having a weding in 6months (Congrats, BTW) you have a ton of things on your mind. You have no control over this one thing, so let it happen.

mrsh2b Posted: Dec 30, 2006 08:58 AM

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I bet they have something up their sleeve....don't worry about it! STOP PEEKING!!!! Maybe they are doing this to drive you nuts! LOL I'm sure it'll work out.

Future Mrs. Posted: Dec 30, 2006 09:02 AM

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this reminds me of my best friend who got married the same time as you.....we were all just really young....she was the first bride of all of us, and none of us knew what we were doing.
Being a young bride has its benefits.....but people just don't know what they're doing and how to pull it off so that it is a surprised, but doesn't cause angst.
Be patient! Your day will definitely come........I am sure they have something up their sleeve.

jenn122397 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 09:39 AM

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well i see your wedding is June, what about spring or winter break? maybe everyone planned to come back again for just a weekend.

jenafee Posted: Dec 30, 2006 11:18 AM

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Posted by diva7531

'If you build it up, it will fall down!' I was waiting for my baby shower 5yrs ago, doing the same thing peeking at the registry. And low and behold she surprised me. I didn't think I could be surprised, but I was. And everything worked out great. Decide whether or not you want to be surprised and if you do promise yourself that you won't peek anymore. You never know what your friends can pull off, they might have decided this time was too obvious, maybe your gram is going to fly back up, maybe they will have it near your school. I'm just starting this proccess myself but with being in school and having a weding in 6months (Congrats, BTW) you have a ton of things on your mind. You have no control over this one thing, so let it happen.

She totally has a point. I know exactly where you're coming from, but none of my friends are in college like yours are. My mom and grandma both live in FL and I feel how the heck are they going to pull this one off. Just have a little faith and don't worry if its not coming up between now and Jan 14th! There's always spring break and that time after finals in May. No one says your bridal shower has to be 2-5 months before the wedding...can't it happen within a few weeks? Chin up and don't worry... eventually it'll happen. Have you spoke with your own mom about it or with your MOH? Did you have to give them a list of all the women you want to invite?
Congrats on getting married and you'll get a kick a$$ shower like you deserve!!

HTH