SWR: Just need to vent sorry guys!!! LONG

Well yesterday FH was talking to me about the wedding cause he knows I am obsessed. Well I think I hurt his feelings a little cause I am just so tired of everything.

I told him 'well you are not around to help me with anything and I can't get everything done when you want it done!' I was just in a bad mood cause of family issues and stressed with school, work and planning a wedding without FH.

Now we did get alot done when he was home but I still need to do alot. And it bothers me when he acts as if I need to get things done by his time schedule lol and I feel bad as well because I know he can't be here since he is stationed in Japan. So we had a long convo about how he would give up anything to be home and with me and family etc. And it is hard for him not only me with him being in Japan! And I completely understand it is hard on both of us.

But I think I just get tired of seeing couples together doing things- hugging, kissing, shopping, going to movies. Its only nice a couple times when I go tot eh movies with my sisters haha I want to DO THINGS with FH!! I want to have a normal relationship! I can't wait until he gets home I need just a simple hug from him and I can't even get that. And sometimes I am so uspet that when I see couples I think to myself oh come on there is no need to kiss or hug or whatever haha I act like a crotchedy old lady But in all seriously I just can't wait until FH comes home and we can finally have a normal relationship. And I think after 3 years of dealing with a long distance relationship I could handle one more but IT'S HARD!!! UGHH I don't wish this on any of you....

so everyone just give your FH a hug and kiss because you can and dont take your time with him for granted!!!

awwww

its understandable the way you feel and the way you reacted to him.

i know i have no idea how you feel but i do kno that you are strong and probably have one of the strongest bonds to have a loving long distance relationship. just hang on and keep your head up. maybe give the wedding plannin a lil break..

I feel you completely! FH is in Sweden which isn’t as far as Japan, but it may as well be a different planet as far as I’m concerned. I get so jealous that so many ladies get to go home to their FH or spend time with them on the weekends. This is why I’m rearing to move to Sweden NOW but then I start worrying about how I’ll make money…and so on and so on

Anyway, for you:

yeah i had this issue the other day too. he wants to be more involved and i think i don't involve him enough. so he's going to be so involved that he won't want to be.

but yes i agree about the big hug & kiss thing

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Posted by KitWisdom

I feel you completely! FH is in Sweden which isn’t as far as Japan, but it may as well be a different planet as far as I’m concerned. I get so jealous that so many ladies get to go home to their FH or spend time with them on the weekends. This is why I’m rearing to move to Sweden NOW but then I start worrying about how I’ll make money…and so on and so on

Anyway, for you:

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thank you and here are some for you


Doesn't it stink i hate seeing couples sometimes haaha sorry i sound so mean but its just hard at times. and yea i wish i could just gohome to FH. I seriously would move to Japan in a second if i could haha

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Posted by Jesses Girl

awwww

its understandable the way you feel and the way you reacted to him.

i know i have no idea how you feel but i do kno that you are strong and probably have one of the strongest bonds to have a loving long distance relationship. just hang on and keep your head up. maybe give the wedding plannin a lil break..

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thanks!!! i know you said that once before to me and it made me feel so good and so much better knowing that yes i am making it through this and if we can we can do anything and ti def makes our love so much stronger!!! thanks again you def made me feel better!!!!

Aww, I'm sorry you can't see your Fh. It sounds like everything is just getting to be too much. Try and chill out and take your time with things. Feel better

awe, Catie!!!!

I'm sending you lots of hugs!!! and, if you need someone to do thngs with, I'd be happy to come along. I'll even hold hands with you (but I draw the line there, lol)

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Posted by yelley77

awe, Catie!!!!

I'm sending you lots of hugs!!! and, if you need someone to do thngs with, I'd be happy to come along. I'll even hold hands with you (but I draw the line there, lol)

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haha ok i guess holding hands is good enough!!!

Thanks Danielle...it's ***** it is so hard at times but then again i look at how fast this summer went and see that in a month we will have been engaged for a year!! CRAZY! So I know time is going to fly and he will be home before I know it.

thanks again though i might have to take you up on your offer!!

I can't even begin to know how this is for you, I now feel so guilty that I yell at FH for working so many hours that I don't get to see him that much..

But I have to say that you guys must have one strong relationship to be able to do this time and time again, only true love would be able to handle such a difficult time for the both of you. I pray that your FH gets leave early to be able to come back to you sooner!!

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Posted by futuremrspalomino

I can't even begin to know how this is for you, I now feel so guilty that I yell at FH for working so many hours that I don't get to see him that much..

But I have to say that you guys must have one strong relationship to be able to do this time and time again, only true love would be able to handle such a difficult time for the both of you. I pray that your FH gets leave early to be able to come back to you sooner!!

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yeah i am hoping he gets leave early as well one can hope haha

but thank you for your kind words!! and please dont feel guilty i just wanted to tell everyone that sometimes it could be worse than you know not seeing fh for a whole week- try going through a whole year!!! haha And just wanted to tell everyone to give fh a hug and kiss for me (well not from me but you know from you because i asked haha) because it stinks not being able to do it whenever you want!! And i am jealous haha it is hard as i am seeing but i'll make it through i have such wonderful LIW girls and hteir support!!!

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Posted by futuremrspalomino

I can't even begin to know how this is for you, I now feel so guilty that I yell at FH for working so many hours that I don't get to see him that much..

But I have to say that you guys must have one strong relationship to be able to do this time and time again, only true love would be able to handle such a difficult time for the both of you. I pray that your FH gets leave early to be able to come back to you sooner!!

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yeah i am hoping he gets leave early as well one can hope haha

but thank you for your kind words!! and please dont feel guilty i just wanted to tell everyone that sometimes it could be worse than you know not seeing fh for a whole week- try going through a whole year!!! haha And just wanted to tell everyone to give fh a hug and kiss for me (well not from me but you know from you because i asked haha) because it stinks not being able to do it whenever you want!! And i am jealous haha it is hard as i am seeing but i'll make it through i have such wonderful LIW girls and hteir support!!!

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It will defiantly get better for you both, because you both deserve it sooo much, and years down the road this won't matter because he'll be home all the time! actually may I ask if this is his last tour?

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Posted by futuremrspalomino

I can't even begin to know how this is for you, I now feel so guilty that I yell at FH for working so many hours that I don't get to see him that much..

But I have to say that you guys must have one strong relationship to be able to do this time and time again, only true love would be able to handle such a difficult time for the both of you. I pray that your FH gets leave early to be able to come back to you sooner!!

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yeah i am hoping he gets leave early as well one can hope haha

but thank you for your kind words!! and please dont feel guilty i just wanted to tell everyone that sometimes it could be worse than you know not seeing fh for a whole week- try going through a whole year!!! haha And just wanted to tell everyone to give fh a hug and kiss for me (well not from me but you know from you because i asked haha) because it stinks not being able to do it whenever you want!! And i am jealous haha it is hard as i am seeing but i'll make it through i have such wonderful LIW girls and hteir support!!!

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It will defiantly get better for you both, because you both deserve it sooo much, and years down the road this won't matter because he'll be home all the time! actually may I ask if this is his last tour?

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yeah that is what i am waiting for...to look back onthis experience together and see how well we made it through!!!

yeah he has just this year left. so July 25th 2008 he is done with active duty!! but has 3 years inactive duty which hopefully means nothing haha but he will prob stay in the reserves. but he is even thinking about re-inlisting as a recruiter so he can stay here on LI but be active duty ughhh MEN!! haha

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Posted by futuremrspalomino

I can't even begin to know how this is for you, I now feel so guilty that I yell at FH for working so many hours that I don't get to see him that much..

But I have to say that you guys must have one strong relationship to be able to do this time and time again, only true love would be able to handle such a difficult time for the both of you. I pray that your FH gets leave early to be able to come back to you sooner!!

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yeah i am hoping he gets leave early as well one can hope haha

but thank you for your kind words!! and please dont feel guilty i just wanted to tell everyone that sometimes it could be worse than you know not seeing fh for a whole week- try going through a whole year!!! haha And just wanted to tell everyone to give fh a hug and kiss for me (well not from me but you know from you because i asked haha) because it stinks not being able to do it whenever you want!! And i am jealous haha it is hard as i am seeing but i'll make it through i have such wonderful LIW girls and hteir support!!!

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It will defiantly get better for you both, because you both deserve it sooo much, and years down the road this won't matter because he'll be home all the time! actually may I ask if this is his last tour?

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yeah that is what i am waiting for...to look back onthis experience together and see how well we made it through!!!

yeah he has just this year left. so July 25th 2008 he is done with active duty!! but has 3 years inactive duty which hopefully means nothing haha but he will prob stay in the reserves. but he is even thinking about re-inlisting as a recruiter so he can stay here on LI but be active duty ughhh MEN!! haha

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Ohh good he comes home like 2 months before the wedding! Well tell him that he can only be active if he goes to nice places, so you can travel with him lol .. But hopefully he will be able to do the recruiting if thats what he wants, and hopefully they won't need him anywhere else!

Awe! I'm so sorry you're feeling this way! I know its not the same thing as FH being in the military, but my FH and I were long distance for 4 years of college. I was always so jealous of my friends who had boyfriends on campus...I know that feeling- you feel bad because you are feeling like that, but you're not. I will say I think that time apart made both of us appreciate our relationship so much more. You guys will be all set once he comes home! I can't wait for you!!!!! Good luck with school and everything too! In the meantime, you can vent to us!!!

I kind of know how you feel.
My brother is in the Navy and is currently out to sea for 9 months.
I can't imagine how much tougher it must be for you to have FH gone for so long.
Keep your head up and remember that no matter where he is or what he is doing you are always on his mind!
God Bless You Both!

Catie I'm soooo sorry!!! I'm sure it can be very overwhelming trying to get wedding things done by yourself. I know you want your FH back now but just think he will be back soon and you will be with him always!!!


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