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How to Get Sexually Fit
Try making these seven simple life changes and watch your sex drive skyrocket.

by Hank C.K. Wuh, M.D., and Mei Mei Fox

1. Add erotic eats to your diet.
Eating a balanced diet gives your body the raw material it needs to function at its peak, sexually and otherwise. Choosing healthful foods is good for your heart and, in turn, for your circulation, which benefits genital arousal, among other bodily functions. Try these sex-boosting snacks: Apricots have high levels of vitamins A and magnesium, which are reputed to contribute to fertility. Broccoli allegedly enhances sexual sensation because of its high vitamin A, C, B5 and niacin content. Potatoes contain vitamin B5, which is essential to sex hormone production.

2. Check out these sex-stimulating supplements.
- Ginkgo biloba optimizes sexual pleasure by relaxing muscles and increasing blood flow. Daily dose: 50 milligrams.
- Ginseng increases energy and stimulates sexual desire. Daily dose: 100 milligrams.
- Kava kava eases stress without the drowse-inducing side effects of sedatives. Daily dose: 60 milligrams.
Note: Consult your physician before taking any supplements.

3. Beware of these libido-stoppers.
Some prescription drugs, such as antidepressants, can interfere with sexual functioning. Talk to your doctor if you take medication on a regular basis, in particular, drugs such as antihypertensives, which can cause erectile and ejaculatory dysfunction in men as well as dampen desire in women; asthma meds, which can cause ******l dryness; or birth-control pills, which can result in ******l dryness and a lagging libido. Recreational drugs such as nicotine and alcohol — and even caffeine — can seriously compromise your sex life, especially when taken on a regular basis

How to Get Sexually Fit
Try making these seven simple life changes and watch your sex drive skyrocket.
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4. Arouse your senses every day.
Stimulating all of your senses with nonsexual massage, aromatic candles and even some fantasizing not only puts you in the mood for lovemaking but can also rev up your physiology. Add these elements to your life, whether or not you have a partner.

5. Make exercise sexy.
Working out improves cardiovascular health, boosts energy, reduces stress and makes you feel good about yourself — all of which can make you a better lover. Fitness fact: Exercise also triggers the release of endorphins, the same brain chemicals that are released when we fall in love.

6. Consider sleep essential.
It's easy to cut back on z's when life gets hectic. But the truth is, if you're not well rested, you won't have great sex. If you have trouble drifting off, avoid midday catnaps and caffeine pick-me-ups — they interfere with your ability to establish a healthy snooze routine.

7. Banish stress from the bedroom.
Ironically, when we're stressed, we often don't make time for sex, despite the fact that sex is a great stress-reliever. Anxiety can decrease our ability to experience pleasure and can also shut down our libido, which is why it's important to integrate basic stress-reducing methods such as meditation, deep breathing, yoga or tai chi into your weekly routine.

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Laid-back Lady
Being a no-fuss woman is OK some of the time — it's good to be comfortable with your true colors — but it can lead to relationship ruts. No one expects you to be in a sexual frenzy 24/7, but think about exerting a little more energy when it comes to your physical relationship. We bet that the minute you take some initiative, your sleepy sex life will wake up. Read on for revitalizing tips!

You scored 3 out of 7

1. You two have a special evening planned. You:
The LIVELY LOVER answer: a. Shave your legs, freshen up with your favorite scented soap and matching fragrance, and slip into something sexy.
You answered: a

Let's face it, most evenings we busy women are in T-shirt and shower-the-next-morning mode. But if you really want to boost the erotic energy in your relationship, show your partner that you've primped and prepared for a night of passion. Appeal to all of your guy's senses. A clean, sweet-smelling body, a clingy blouse and, most important, an 'I care' attitude are all seductive invitations. Show your partner that you really want him by playing music, lighting candles or feeding him a favorite dessert. There's nothing more sexy and irresistible than seeing the person you love really, really wanting you.

2. When you're feeling hot and bothered, you:
The LIVELY LOVER answer: c. Kiss him in the kitchen, pull him down on the sofa or otherwise let him know that you want him.
You answered: d

We all know it's easier to start fooling around when you're both horizontal. But it's not half as fun or exciting for your partner as being seduced and surprised, experiencing your mutual attraction in spontaneous and anticipation-building ways. Remember how you worked up to sex at the beginning of your relationship: planning a candlelit dinner, taking off your shoes and gently massaging his foot with your own, or kissing passionately in a packed bar. That was part of the reason you couldn't get each other off your minds. Don't take the lazy woman's way out. If you warm things up before you crawl under the covers, what happens in the privacy of your bedroom is sure to be hot, hot, hot.

3. In the past month you've:
The LIVELY LOVER answer: d. All of the above.
You answered: a

You don't need to become a porn aficionado or a regular at the local sex shop to be a lively lover — simply open up your mind to new ideas. Most human beings are thrilled by variety; a new pose or toy or a scene from an X-rated movie can go a long way toward turning up the heat in your relationship. Even if some of the new things you think of end up making you two uncomfortable or uncontrollably giggly, your partner is sure to love the idea that you were thinking about your sex life and fantasizing about fun things for the two of you to try. If your partner is a bit of a prude, ease into the new, more daring you, by, say, using a flavored lubricant or initiating lovemaking in the middle of the day, when he least expects it.

4. When making love, you are:
The LIVELY LOVER answer: a. Happy to be on top, even though it's more work and your body is in full view.
You answered: b

Come on, build up those muscles and take on different, more challenging sexual positions! It's definitely hard to be on top if you have weak thighs and get out of breath easily, but what does that tell you? You need to get fitter! (P.S.: Sex is a great workout.) Are you worried that he'll see your tummy if you are on top? Don't be. He's excited by the act, not focused on your so-called flaws (unless he's a jerk). Don't be so lazy — or self-conscious — that you deprive yourself and your guy of visual thrills and a change of pace. Variety is at the heart of any enduring relationship, so make yourself go outside your comfort zone sometimes. You'll be pleasantly surprised by how good it makes you two feel.

5. During sex, you:
The LIVELY LOVER answer: d. Wow him with your bold, sexy moves and make sure you both get satisfied.
You answered: d

Just being present is not enough, ladies! The more active a role you take in your lovemaking, the more turned on he's going to be. And the more excited he is, the more excited you'll be. (It's a great sexy circle, isn't it?) Sure it's easy, and often enjoyable, to lie back and be taken and titillated by your lover, but it's not always fair — and can quickly get tired. He needs your touch and enthusiasm too. And sometimes, he needs you to start the action, so he doesn't feel as if you're lukewarm about sex. Does he always have to ask for oral sex? Why not sneak up on him post-shower and give him what he craves? Also, next time he's huffing and puffing above you, shimmy yourself on top and let him gaze at you serenely from below. (Bonus: You burn more calories up there!) The bottom line is to be an equal partner with him in everything, and that doesn't end at the bedroom door.

6. When you perform oral sex, you:
The LIVELY LOVER answer: c. Sometimes linger for 10 minutes — or as long as it takes to make him 'happy.'
You answered: c

News flash: Men love oral sex. If you oblige him only once in a blue moon, going at it for just a few minutes here and there, you've got a deprived guy on your hands. Why are you cutting your time short? Do you not enjoy yourself? Do you feel demeaned? Are you withholding love? If so, it's worth thinking about why your emotions regarding this act are so negative. It could be that you are unsure of your technique. If so, here's a tip: Touch him with your hand first. Get him close to orgasm, then go oral on him. This way, you won't have to work as long. Or alternate between using your hand and your mouth, finally switching to just your mouth when he's close to orgasm. Oral sex should be something that brings you even closer together, a building block of your intimacy. The key to feeling good about sex is to give and take equally.

7. If your partner gets frisky in the wee hours of the night, you:
The LIVELY LOVER answer: a. Are pleasantly surprised and usually join right in.
You answered: b

What's the big deal about missing a bit of shut-eye if the trade-off is engaging in some hot sex with your mate? So you're half asleep. So you may not quite remember the details in the a.m. That doesn't matter. What matters is that you care enough about your partner to be accessible and loving, to give him what he wants and needs. If he can wake you up in the middle of the night — and you love it — it's a great sign of connection and attraction. Of course, sometimes you're just too out of it to connect. But if you often get angry or annoyed with your lover's advances, you need to make a better effort to respond kindly. Your rebuttals could be a sign that you have a bigger problem on your hands than laziness — and you may want to think about ways to address your relationship issues. In a healthy relationship, both partners should have more or less compatible sex drives — and feel happy to have sex most of the time.

Laid-back Lady
Being a no-fuss woman is OK some of the time — it's good to be comfortable with your true colors — but it can lead to relationship ruts. No one expects you to be in a sexual frenzy 24/7, but think about exerting a little more energy when it comes to your physical relationship. We bet that the minute you take some initiative, your sleepy sex life will wake up. Read on for revitalizing tips!

You scored 5 out of 7

Lively Lover!
You are a sexual energy bar that keeps your partner (and yourself) feeling satisfied! You aren't afraid to take initiative, say yes to your partner's suggestions or try something new — even if it's in the middle of the night. Keep that attitude and your partner will sing your praises forever!

Lively Lover!
You are a sexual energy bar that keeps your partner (and yourself) feeling satisfied! You aren't afraid to take initiative, say yes to your partner's suggestions or try something new — even if it's in the middle of the night. Keep that attitude and your partner will sing your praises forever! Read on for more insight on being a good lover.

You scored 6 out of 7

Dani seems like you and I take the same route, lying on our backs