sorry about all these stupid questions i'm asking. but would really like to get your opinions!
i'll have 6 people in the bridal party - 1 MOH, 1 BM, 2 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen.
1 of the 3 girls that i had in mind had turned down the request because this is her 3rd time being a bridesmaid, which i totally understand and she'll continue to be a big helper.
now, the only other girl i have in mind is TALL. she's a very very good friend and i would love to have her in my bridal party (i was her MOH). but FH and i are only 5'2.... and she's 5'10.
and for the groomsmen - 2 are about 5'7, 5'8, the 3rd one is about 5'10, 5'11 as well...
do u think the pictures will come out weird?? should i??? or shouldn't i??????
Bebalina
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i dont think her height should matter.
Fh and I are both tall, but one of our GM is 6'9' and i dont care, he's our friend and his height makes no difference to me.
nylibride
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If my sister had considered what you're talking about , I wouldn't have made the cut for her wedding. My mom is 5' and my sister 5' 3'' and I'm about 5'9'' Yes, I'm much taller, but I'm also really pleased she chose our relationship over aesthetics.
Maybe I'm being a bit sensitive b/c I'm tall, but what do you think would happen if you posted 'all of my other bridesmaids are really thin and one is really heavy--should I still ask her' or did the same thing with skin color. I just can't see how you can actually be considering NOT having this person b/c she'll mess up your pictures (in your opinion) with her different height. Really?!?!
nferrandi
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I actually think it's really shallow to even bring that up. You were this girls MOH and you're concerned about her being too tall?!
isuser
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sorry girls, you girls are right!!!!
i much rather have her be in my bridal party and anyone else!
yes yes, it's shallow...... and i guess it's the first sign of me turning into a bridezilla.... i have to stop thinking about mememememememememeee....
thanks for the kick in the head!!!!!
nylibride
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sorry, not trying to harsh, just honest....
isuser
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no no no!! THANK YOU!! i want honest objective opinions and that's why i come to this board!!!
and it does happen that when i'm soooo concern about MEEEEEEE .... everything is about MEEEEEE i start to lose sight on things that are truly important!!
i do appreciate the wakeup call!!
nferrandi
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I wasn't trying to be mean either, but I'm glad you now see that it wasn't very nice to penalize her for her height. In fact, at my wedding there was about a 5 inch height difference between my MOH and the BM. My sister was the MOH (she's 5'10'' without shoes and she wore about 3 inch heels) and our BM was DH's twin brother (he's 5'8'') We would never had done it any other way.
Marcie
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All my girls were all different heights. Starting off at 5'2'' going to 6' (and that isn't even with their shoes). I didn't really think about the height difference due to the fact that I am 5'2'' and my DH is 6'4' (actually 6'4' and a half - but who counting). I would be worried about it.
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Posted by isuser
now, the only other girl i have in mind is TALL. she's a very very good friend and i would love to have her in my bridal party (i was her MOH). but FH and i are only 5'2.... and she's 5'10.
Let's see, you were her MOH and she didn't have a problem with your (lack of) height, right? How did her pictures look?
teacherwheart
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I don't really want to get involved but feel it necessary. I am tall and have was a tall BM with all much shorter BM ( I am 6 and all 5 other BM were 5'5 and under plus I am Spanish and all other Bm were Irish) and not to sound conceited because I am not but I looked damn good height or no height and my friend who got married was so happy to have me there she didnt give a flying fig how tall I was or how much darker I was. Yes it is very obvious in pictures but my being in her BM wasnt about looks but about friendship and respect for our friendship. Sorry, ugghhhh....
