teens and dates (my FMIL strikes again!)

Ronkonkomonga Posted: Jul 18, 2005 11:20 PM

teens and dates (my FMIL strikes again!)

For the teens on your guest lists - are you inviting them with dates?

I guess my FMIL is having prom - envy or something, because she wants to invite the teenagers with dates. She keeps drilling my FH with comments like - no one will dance with out dates. I usually pull him aside and tell him its not a square dance - and therefore teenagers don't require dates.

Just curious what other LIW ladies are doing.

lmykolyn12305 Posted: Jul 18, 2005 11:27 PM

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i am not inviting them with guest..

WedHead Posted: Jul 18, 2005 11:28 PM

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No way. Not to sound materialistic but there is no way they'll know to cover their dates. Plus, I'm probably having 10-15 teens, there's no way they are bringing a date - I never got invited with a date when I was a teen.

slwh2005 Posted: Jul 18, 2005 11:30 PM

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I'm not inviting any teens, but if I did invite any I don't think I would invite them with a guest.

Dooodles Posted: Jul 18, 2005 11:32 PM

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I am with you and the other ladies on this issue. I was NEVER invited with a guest to a wedding when I was a teenager.
And teenagers dance with each other!

Soccer_Girl Posted: Jul 18, 2005 11:46 PM

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She is joking, right? Teenagers with dates? That's crazy!

N.Y.bride Posted: Jul 19, 2005 08:00 AM

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no way! I dont even think I invited anyone under 19.

DebsNY Posted: Jul 19, 2005 08:03 AM

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Nope. No dates for the teens.

McSulllivan Posted: Jul 19, 2005 08:06 AM

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No dates for teens!!

Sweetpea130000 Posted: Jul 19, 2005 08:21 AM

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No dates for teens.

Though I was invited as a date when I was a teen b/c I was with the guy for 1.5 years at the time of the wedding.

brooklynbridezilla Posted: Jul 19, 2005 08:24 AM

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I agree with you- this is a wedding, not a prom. Tell her if she wants them to bring dates, she can pay for them.

romameansamor Posted: Jul 19, 2005 08:41 AM

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My cut off was high school - in high school - No Date

Out of high school - ok

tanielle5k Posted: Jul 19, 2005 08:43 AM

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no dates.

The one exception I made is for my brother (15) and his girlfriend, because she is practically part of the family.

Ang&Rich Posted: Jul 19, 2005 09:23 AM

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We invited anyone over 18 with a guest - surprisingly many have RSVP'd as a yes but with no guest. Go figure.

LovelyL Posted: Jul 19, 2005 09:29 AM

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I would not invite dates for teens.

JPC1125 Posted: Jul 19, 2005 09:34 AM

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See Im torn b/c I was invited as FH's date to his aunts wedding back when we were Jrs in High School. I was honored to be able to be with him and was even included in the pictures.

My deciding factor woudl be is they are dating...not necessarily just a date for the wedding but I would have to already have been aware of the bf/gf

Ronkonkomonga Posted: Jul 19, 2005 09:50 AM

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thanks ladies - my FMIL did say she would pay for it - but its the control part that I don't like. We are paying for most - just to retain control. She is extremely nice - but very controling, and she gets excited easily - so everyone gives in to her because thats just how it goes. She gave me her list of people to invite before we were engaged, and it caused a lot of problems between me and them and me and FH. But she didn't see that - she just knew that she doesn't want to hurt other peoples feelings - teens included.

Since then I have completly left her out of planning. Just recently I gave her an inch - we took her to get the tuxedos, and I went over the rehersal dinner stuff... and she started to take the mile - suggesting that teens have dates for dancing (keep in mind the caliber of the teens she is inviting is, well, questionable - I just don't want them passed out on the floor of the bathroom - like they did last christmas in the FMIL's house) Then she suggested that since my church is being difficult, we switch to her church (keep in mind - the invites are ordered) because she 'has connections.' ......with who? God???

thanks again - no teen dates!

pinkstar025 Posted: Jul 19, 2005 10:46 AM

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GOOD FOR YOU!

We're doing the same!

Jennie0898 Posted: Jul 19, 2005 10:53 AM

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Posted by Ronkonkomonga

Then she suggested that since my church is being difficult, we switch to her church (keep in mind - the invites are ordered) because she 'has connections.' ......with who? God???

thanks again - no teen dates!

she 'has connections.' ......with who? God??? That's KILLING me!!!

Stand your ground with this woman!! No teen dates!!

Pmpkn087 Posted: Jul 19, 2005 11:22 AM

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If they are older (17-20) and I know they have a girl friend, I am writing 'and guest'

I know that when I was 18, I was going out with FH and if I didn't get an invite that said 'and guest' I would have been upset.