Tell me if this is RIGHT!!!

My FH and I just started looking for places for our wedding. Well, his grandma said she will give us money toward our wedding. Which of course is great. But, one day she is giving us money than the next she is not. I just want to know if she is or not so I can plan accordingly within my budget. I don't think that is too wrong. Anyway, I just spoke to my FI and he tells me that grandma will give us money but wants a say and pick out the place with us. Well, I'm upset and don't need added stress. I argued with FI and told him that I'd rather pay for my own wedding if its going to be such a hassle. I want to enjoy planning my day not just show up to my own wedding. I'm stressed and needed to vent. It's the beginning or craziness.........

Don't let her control your day. You will be able to do this on your own. Make your wedding day everything YOU and FI want it to be!

you should plan on not getting her money. Have your wedding in a place you can afford. Then, if she wants to give you a special gift you can get something you wanted but couldn't afford before.

It's not fair that she's offering you money and then not, etc. and, you should pick the place you want. not his grandma.

I agree with you that her money is not worth the hassle of letting her control the wedding. It's your day!!!

Welcome to our world.

Your diplomacy skills are about to be sharpened girl. It can be frustrating, but for the sake of your own sanity, let go of the anger. Then thank grandma ever so sweetly for her kind offer. Plan your wedding as though she won't be giving you any money. Then if she does, it's gravy.

Other people (especially financial contributors) feel that they have a right to turn it into their dream. Don't let it happen.

Even if you are on a budet (aren't we all) you can plan a fabulous wedding.

I agree with you pay for what you want and dont let anyone make your decisions because they decided to help pay for the wedding