tell me im not crazyy for feeling this way

so as the drama slowly continues, i know itll never go away


fh is a hugeeeeeeeee boater, he loves the boats, the water, hed live on the boat if id let him haha-- problem is that the boats his parents, and after recent events i wouldnt go there if you paid me too- but i noticed today he was upset and i know its bc he wants to go by the boat- so i told him to go if he wanted too, and he said, no im not choosing you over the boat- and i said you dont have to choose, i just wont go, and its not me saying if i dont go, you cant either, i just need a different level of respect in my life, and im not given it there-- and he went on to say that it wouldnt b the same without me... and i understand girls, i feel terrible that i know hes stuck between me and them and the boat

and its like, theres parts of me that feel terrible and dont want him to choose- but gosh, these crazy ppl--- its like the other half of me is like helllooo pick me, choose me, stay with me

and than i realize its his parents, and how terrible of a situation hes in--- so i told him to go ( and i thought i was oging to vomit as i said it-- simply thinking about how terrible this woman has been to me in the past few weeks, knowing that im the woman her son is marrying in 217 days)

am i crazy--- i wish the feelings would go away, i wish i didnt care what he did, or if he talked to thme, but gosh i do

am i a terrible person? these feelnigs are terriblee

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Posted by J79

can i get a cliffs note version of whats going on? i think i vaguely have an idea. you were living with your fh's mom and she freaked out that you wanted to move out and held your stuff hostage? so you don't get along with his family?

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cliffnote version:
fh parents are crazy controlling
i lived there with him for aboth 2 years
on her last fit last weekend i decieded enough was enough and started to pack
in packing she decieded i wasnt getting the rest of my stuff and taking her baby away and changed the locks on me and FSIL who moved out the same day i did as well with my FBIL- needless to say, from day one, its just been the no ones good enough for her babies, craziness, shes never made it so that eeryone could get along, too much jealousy, sad actually

thats the easiest way i can describe the complete drama shes made my life into

OMG. what does your FH do? he's totally caught in the middle.

I have a similiar sitiuation with FH stuck in the middle of situations. me not getting along with is sister although it has been better. he's also stuck btw his divorced parents.

not easy

Honestly I think you are doing the right thing in telling him that he can continue to boat if he wants. That is the right thing to do.

However, I DO NOT think that FH should be boating ANYWHERE with the people that are essentially holding your stuff hostage. Until his mom lets you have his stuff, really he shouldn't be doing jack sh!t with them.

Getting off my box now.

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Posted by MissingLI

Honestly I think you are doing the right thing in telling him that he can continue to boat if he wants. That is the right thing to do.

However, I DO NOT think that FH should be boating ANYWHERE with the people that are essentially holding your stuff hostage. Until his mom lets you have his stuff, really he shouldn't be doing jack sh!t with them.

Getting off my box now.

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yea no i got my stuff back last night, after threatening the cops would be there today without it

his stuffs all there, but im sure they wont hold his stuff hostage


im just so hurt by these ppl, that im torn, bc i know i should tell him to see his family, but the otherpart of me is like how could u want too, look at the things they did and said to me?

ladies, i wish this on no one really, i dont know how much more i can handle with all of this

and i can only imagine how hard theyve made this on him

its just terrible,absolutely terrible

You're not crazy, I think it's totally normal given the circumstances. But try really hard to mean it when you tell him to go... but at the same time, I think it's important that you stand your ground to or your whole life forever will be crazy. You're doing a really good job being strong and staying with it right now.

But they're his family. It's hard to do that, you know? You're a good woman for telling him to go, be the best woman by making sure he knows you mean it, even if it hurts you some. That's what love is.