soooooo... if a guest attended the wedding and did not give a gift, do i still give them a thank you card? and if they do, what do you actually say on the card?
(mind you, this particular guest is local - did not have to travel from a far to attend our wedding.)
halfbaked
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Yes, still send one. Say 'Thanks for coming out and celebrating with us.'
ourwedding9510
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Yes, you are supposed to send a thank you card. they still came and celebrated with you.
'Thank you for coming to share in our special day! Hope you had a blast!'
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ditto....everyone gets a thank you, even if you just say something like 'thanks so much for sharing in our special day!'. ppl technically have a yr to send a gift so maybe they willl send one lol
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as the others said, you do still need to send a card .... HOWEVER, i didn't send cards to those that didn't gift me.
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Posted by jilliibabii
Yes, still send one. Say 'Thanks for coming out and celebrating with us.'
this!
ewecki825
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How do people go to a wedding and not give a gift?!?!?
Lisalana
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How do people go to a wedding and not give a gift?!?!?
i felt the same way! we had 5 NG's, including DH's millionaire boss. oh well!
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Posted by Lisalana
Posted by ewecki825
How do people go to a wedding and not give a gift?!?!?
i felt the same way! we had 5 NG's, including DH's millionaire boss. oh well!
It would be really hard for me to hold my tongue. I think you should send them a bill in the thank you card.
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People really don't give gifts??? I almost fainted when I read that! Any chance their envelope got lost or something?
Lisalana
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Posted by Lisalana
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How do people go to a wedding and not give a gift?!?!?
i felt the same way! we had 5 NG's, including DH's millionaire boss. oh well!
It would be really hard for me to hold my tongue. I think you should send them a bill in the thank you card.
LOL. I definitely didn't have fun writing that thank you card. I thanked them at my wedding, and since they didn't give a gift (for 2 attendees) shouldn't that be enough?
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A simple 'Thank you for coming & sharing our day!'
Someone did that at my son's christening.. I'm not the type to look for the gift but at least I want a card!! But of course the gift would be wonderful!!! lol
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Technically, you do not have to. Thank you notes are for people who provided you with a gift, or a service around that day. But it wouldn't be wrong to send a thank you if you wanted.
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Posted by Jesebelle
Technically, you do not have to. Thank you notes are for people who provided you with a gift, or a service around that day. But it wouldn't be wrong to send a thank you if you wanted.
I disagree. You don't invite people to a wedding because you WANT something- whether it's a gift or a service. You invite them because you want them there to celebrate with.
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Posted by Lisalana
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How do people go to a wedding and not give a gift?!?!?
i felt the same way! we had 5 NG's, including DH's millionaire boss. oh well!
It would be really hard for me to hold my tongue. I think you should send them a bill in the thank you card.
LOL. I definitely didn't have fun writing that thank you card. I thanked them at my wedding, and since they didn't give a gift (for 2 attendees) shouldn't that be enough?
oh man that's terrible!
maybe he's just being a millionaire and will wait a year to send you a gift? technically he has a year to send something. as bad as it sounds, rich people sometimes wait to make sure that the couple 'works out' before they invest money in them.
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Just say 'Thanks so much for being a part of our special day' or something to that effect.
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We have about 5 NGs as well....and we were equally shocked. However as previously stated, it is perfectly acceptable to send a gift within a year. But still, I just don't get it. I had the same question regarding TYs so THANKS for starting this post!!
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Posted by jilliibabii
Posted by Jesebelle
Technically, you do not have to. Thank you notes are for people who provided you with a gift, or a service around that day. But it wouldn't be wrong to send a thank you if you wanted.
I disagree. You don't invite people to a wedding because you WANT something- whether it's a gift or a service. You invite them because you want them there to celebrate with.
What about the people you didn't want there but you had to invite anyway....and they gave no gift?
I really thought we would have no non-gifters, but I was very shocked by who no gifted us:
the best man two of DH's GM/long time college friends DH's cousin, wife, and two kids!!! DH's former co-worker/GM
The one I'm most mad at is the GM/co-worker - not only did he not give a gift, he never returned his RSVP card, told DH that he AND his wife would DEFINITELY be there, shows up on wedding day solo with some lame excuse that she started a new job. On top of that, this same GM RSVPed Yes for two people for the Rehearsal Dinner and NONE of them showed - no excuse, no call, nothing.
This guy is not getting a thank you at all.
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FutureJOC
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definitely still send a thank you card. Everyone should get a thank you card that attended your wedding and those that didn't attend but sent a gift.
For your situation I would just write 'We wanted to thank you so much for attending our wedding and sharing in our special day' - or something along those lines.
