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Posted by StaceYums81
what do u write in those thank u cards??
AWKWARD!!
How someone has the nerve to attend a wedding and not even give ANYTHING as a gift is beyond my understanding. Personally I wouldnt even send a thank you to those people. 'Thank you' for what? For making me waste $ on your cheap ***? And now making me waste $ on postage? People like that don't deserve to be thanked. JMO!!
Posted by Lil OC
How someone has the nerve to attend a wedding and not even give ANYTHING as a gift is beyond my understanding. Personally I wouldnt even send a thank you to those people. 'Thank you' for what? For making me waste $ on your cheap ***? And now making me waste $ on postage? People like that don't deserve to be thanked. JMO!!
Posted by Lil OC
How someone has the nerve to attend a wedding and not even give ANYTHING as a gift is beyond my understanding. Personally I wouldnt even send a thank you to those people. 'Thank you' for what? For making me waste $ on your cheap ***? And now making me waste $ on postage? People like that don't deserve to be thanked. JMO!!
Posted by lissylissa
Posted by Lil OC
How someone has the nerve to attend a wedding and not even give ANYTHING as a gift is beyond my understanding. Personally I wouldnt even send a thank you to those people. 'Thank you' for what? For making me waste $ on your cheap ***? And now making me waste $ on postage? People like that don't deserve to be thanked. JMO!!
im totally writing this if ppl dont give us a gift i love it![]()
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Just thank them for 'sharing your special day'. I have a few people who I know will not be able to give a gift. We have many out of town guests who are spending a fortune to attend, and my Aunt is going to house sit for us while we are on our HM, which is her gift to us.
Posted by JLWSJC
I agree completely with what Sandra did, that's exactly what I would do.
As an aside, I personally feel like if someone was important enough to be invited to your wedding, they deserve being given the benefit of the doubt if they didn't bring a gift. Maybe they forgot it at home, maybe they are waiting for their next paycheck to be able to afford it, maybe they're still looking for the right item, maybe they have stuff going on and just couldn't do it for some reason you don't know about.
I would never do it on purpose, and I haven't, but as a guest, I would hope that a friend or family member would give me the benefit of the doubt if I couldn't bring a gift for some reason. It's expensive to attend someone's wedding!!
This just reminds me of the argument I have with FH all the time about 'making back' the money we're spending on the wedding in gifts. I personally think you shouldn't EXPECT anything from people, and that you're throwing a celebration. There shouldn't be any expectation attached to it except to share the day and the occasion with people and people will do what they can for you. We put so much emphasis on money in NY and on LI particularly... people aren't allowed to just bring a token, they have to 'cover their plate', and I think that's BS. Spend what you can afford, I don't think it's fair to expect guests to pay for your wedding.
Maybe it's naive, but I still think people deserve a thank you for making the effort to share your day.
Vent over.
Posted by Clover23
Posted by JLWSJC
I agree completely with what Sandra did, that's exactly what I would do.
As an aside, I personally feel like if someone was important enough to be invited to your wedding, they deserve being given the benefit of the doubt if they didn't bring a gift. Maybe they forgot it at home, maybe they are waiting for their next paycheck to be able to afford it, maybe they're still looking for the right item, maybe they have stuff going on and just couldn't do it for some reason you don't know about.
I would never do it on purpose, and I haven't, but as a guest, I would hope that a friend or family member would give me the benefit of the doubt if I couldn't bring a gift for some reason. It's expensive to attend someone's wedding!!
This just reminds me of the argument I have with FH all the time about 'making back' the money we're spending on the wedding in gifts. I personally think you shouldn't EXPECT anything from people, and that you're throwing a celebration. There shouldn't be any expectation attached to it except to share the day and the occasion with people and people will do what they can for you. We put so much emphasis on money in NY and on LI particularly... people aren't allowed to just bring a token, they have to 'cover their plate', and I think that's BS. Spend what you can afford, I don't think it's fair to expect guests to pay for your wedding.
Maybe it's naive, but I still think people deserve a thank you for making the effort to share your day.
Vent over.
Very well said.
You have to send a thank you, as much as it may be painful!
Posted by JLWSJC
I agree completely with what Sandra did, that's exactly what I would do.
As an aside, I personally feel like if someone was important enough to be invited to your wedding, they deserve being given the benefit of the doubt if they didn't bring a gift. Maybe they forgot it at home, maybe they are waiting for their next paycheck to be able to afford it, maybe they're still looking for the right item, maybe they have stuff going on and just couldn't do it for some reason you don't know about.
I would never do it on purpose, and I haven't, but as a guest, I would hope that a friend or family member would give me the benefit of the doubt if I couldn't bring a gift for some reason. It's expensive to attend someone's wedding!!
This just reminds me of the argument I have with FH all the time about 'making back' the money we're spending on the wedding in gifts. I personally think you shouldn't EXPECT anything from people, and that you're throwing a celebration. There shouldn't be any expectation attached to it except to share the day and the occasion with people and people will do what they can for you. We put so much emphasis on money in NY and on LI particularly... people aren't allowed to just bring a token, they have to 'cover their plate', and I think that's BS. Spend what you can afford, I don't think it's fair to expect guests to pay for your wedding.
Maybe it's naive, but I still think people deserve a thank you for making the effort to share your day.
Vent over.
I would definitely send a thank you card anyway. Just thank them for being there to share in your day. Maybe they'll send you something later and just didn't have the money to give you anything at the time and were embarassed to say anything.
Posted by JLWSJC
I agree completely with what Sandra did, that's exactly what I would do.
As an aside, I personally feel like if someone was important enough to be invited to your wedding, they deserve being given the benefit of the doubt if they didn't bring a gift. Maybe they forgot it at home, maybe they are waiting for their next paycheck to be able to afford it, maybe they're still looking for the right item, maybe they have stuff going on and just couldn't do it for some reason you don't know about.
I would never do it on purpose, and I haven't, but as a guest, I would hope that a friend or family member would give me the benefit of the doubt if I couldn't bring a gift for some reason. It's expensive to attend someone's wedding!!
This just reminds me of the argument I have with FH all the time about 'making back' the money we're spending on the wedding in gifts. I personally think you shouldn't EXPECT anything from people, and that you're throwing a celebration. There shouldn't be any expectation attached to it except to share the day and the occasion with people and people will do what they can for you. We put so much emphasis on money in NY and on LI particularly... people aren't allowed to just bring a token, they have to 'cover their plate', and I think that's BS. Spend what you can afford, I don't think it's fair to expect guests to pay for your wedding.
Maybe it's naive, but I still think people deserve a thank you for making the effort to share your day.
Vent over.
Posted by JLWSJC
I agree completely with what Sandra did, that's exactly what I would do.
As an aside, I personally feel like if someone was important enough to be invited to your wedding, they deserve being given the benefit of the doubt if they didn't bring a gift. Maybe they forgot it at home, maybe they are waiting for their next paycheck to be able to afford it, maybe they're still looking for the right item, maybe they have stuff going on and just couldn't do it for some reason you don't know about.
I would never do it on purpose, and I haven't, but as a guest, I would hope that a friend or family member would give me the benefit of the doubt if I couldn't bring a gift for some reason. It's expensive to attend someone's wedding!!
This just reminds me of the argument I have with FH all the time about 'making back' the money we're spending on the wedding in gifts. I personally think you shouldn't EXPECT anything from people, and that you're throwing a celebration. There shouldn't be any expectation attached to it except to share the day and the occasion with people and people will do what they can for you. We put so much emphasis on money in NY and on LI particularly... people aren't allowed to just bring a token, they have to 'cover their plate', and I think that's BS. Spend what you can afford, I don't think it's fair to expect guests to pay for your wedding.
Maybe it's naive, but I still think people deserve a thank you for making the effort to share your day.
Vent over.
