Thank you notes

I remember recently reading a thread about thank-you notes for people that aren't coming but sent a gift, what about people that are coming and sent a gift before the wedding. Should I send the thank-you note now or wait until after the wedding. Thanks for your help!

Thank you notes

It depends if you are planning to include a photo from the wedding in your thank-you notes. If you want to send a picture, than you should wait. If no picture and you have time, go ahead and send them out before the wedding, as soon as the gifts arrive. It will be one less thing for you to worry about after the honeymoon! Just remember to keep a very accurate list of which thank-you's have been sent and which haven't.

Thank you notes - related question

Also, for those who sent gifts before the wedding, what if the gift is a check? Is it proper to wait until after the wedding to deposit? Kinda like the shower gift rule I heard that you are not supposed to use anything until after the wedding (however, FI tore right into alot of stuff anyway :) )

Thank you notes - related question

If the person sends the check a couple of months ahead of time, I don't think it would be reasonable to hold on to it until after the wedding. You should deposit it.

Thank you notes - related question

No its only a couple of weeks away! If it was a couple of months, I wouldn't want to mess up someone's check book :)

Deposit it right away...

For the simple reason that you don't want the gift-giver to think that you never received the check (I had this happen b/c we weren't able to deposit until 1 and 1/2 weeks after we returned from honeymoon). We had some guests call us to confirm that we received it. So, I would make sure that it's deposited in a savings acct, and doesn't get spent right away - but, do it as soon as possible and then send the thank-you as soon as possible, too! Good luck!

What the ettiquette books say...

According to the ettiqutte books, if the gift (check or object) arrives more than 2 weeks before the wedding then you should send the note right away. If it is less than 2 weeks before, then you can wait until after the wedding. All notes should be sent promptly after the wedding - within about 4 weeks if you can, and no more than 3 months. If you are having a HUGE wedding, say 500 guests, then sometimes a preprinted acknowledgment card is used, stating the receipt of the gift and that a personal thank you will be forthcoming soon. If you are sending a picture thank you, then send a thank you beforehand for the gift, and send the picture after, thanking them for attending and you could mention the gift again.

Ok next question...... :-)

How do we deposit a check that is made out to Mr. & Mrs. Smith? We each have our own accounts, mine of course in my maiden name cause I'm not married yet. Help! Do I hold this one?