Thank You's Question...

Hey girls...yes after 65 days of being married I am only now starting our Thank You's

I waited awhile, trying to deal with everything that was going on...but I realize now that no matter what the outcome our guests certainly need to be thanked...


So here is my question:

We had SEVERAL guests, in particular, my Husband's immediate family who gave absolutely NO gift whatsoever, not even a card that just said congratulations....so do I send a Thank you to those guests who gave nothing?? Please let me know. Thanks!

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I think you should your Thanking them for sharing your special day with you. JMO

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I think since they technically have a year to give a gift you should send them a thank you. Just thank them for spending the day with you.

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I agree - you have to send them a thank you for at least attending.

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Ok that is what I thought...I just wanted to make sure... Thanks so much!!

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I dont agree - I think that is horrible if they didnt give you a gift - Until they do I wouldnt give them a card -Unless it is someone that actually told you they could' nt give a gift for whatever reason

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From Emily Post's website:

Who needs a thank you note?

Anyone who gives you an engagement, shower or wedding gift, even if you have thanked them in person. Individual notes should be written to people who contributed to a group gift.

Anyone who gives a gift of money: cash, checks, contributions to savings accounts and donations to charities. Mentioning the amount is optional, but it does let the person know the correct amount was received. You should mention what you plan to do with the money.

Your attendants. A warm personal note attached to your gifts to your attendants will let them know how much you appreciate their efforts and support on your behalf.

Anyone who hosted a party or shower for you. Ideally these notes should be written within two days of the event. Each host or hostess should be thanked individually with a note and a thank you gift.

People who house or entertain your wedding guests. A note and a small gift should be sent to anyone who houses or entertains out-of-town wedding guests.

People who do kindnesses for you. The neighbor who accepts delivery of your gifts when you are at work; the cousin who supervises the parking at the reception – anyone who assists you before, during or after your wedding.

Suppliers and vendors. You don’t have to write everyone you hire for services, but anyone who exceeds your expectations will appreciate a courteous note of thanks.

Your parents or whoever is hosting your wedding.

http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/etiquette/postings/wedding_thankyous.htm

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What kind of thank you's are you getting? Or did you get?

I really have my heart set on a card that is a print of a picture of us from the day. Then everyone gets their own photo of us from then as a keepsake. A little egoist of me, but it's what I want...

I agree with the others who said you should send them thank you's even if you haven't received anything from them. They spend your wedding day with you, bringing you love and support. I would thank them for being there to share your special day. (Maybe I'll feel different after the fact, but I'm not really thinking about the gifts when I think about the worth of the wedding.)

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i really wouldn't feel bad about not getting them out yet. i've been married for 94 days and i haven't sent mine yet. i am still choosing pictures and stuff like that and i want to send a thank you with a picture.

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wow how can you show up without a gift.. wow im not surprised people are f&*^ing wierd.. but yes i agree you still have to send them a thank you .. saying thank you for sharing our special day

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I know the economy is bad, but I personally would never NOT give a gift. At minimum I would have given a card with a note stating that a gift was on the way if I couldnt afford it at the time of the wedding ......

As someone noted above you do have a year so hopefully the non-gift givers are just procrastinators.

I would thank them for sharing in your day, gift or not, without guests all the blood, sweat and tears we put into our weddings would be kind of pointless right?


GL

if you still feel salty just thank them last LOL

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Posted by littlepixie12

From Emily Post's website:

Who needs a thank you note?

Anyone who gives you an engagement, shower or wedding gift, even if you have thanked them in person. Individual notes should be written to people who contributed to a group gift.

Anyone who gives a gift of money: cash, checks, contributions to savings accounts and donations to charities. Mentioning the amount is optional, but it does let the person know the correct amount was received. You should mention what you plan to do with the money.

Your attendants. A warm personal note attached to your gifts to your attendants will let them know how much you appreciate their efforts and support on your behalf.

Anyone who hosted a party or shower for you. Ideally these notes should be written within two days of the event. Each host or hostess should be thanked individually with a note and a thank you gift.

People who house or entertain your wedding guests. A note and a small gift should be sent to anyone who houses or entertains out-of-town wedding guests.

People who do kindnesses for you. The neighbor who accepts delivery of your gifts when you are at work; the cousin who supervises the parking at the reception – anyone who assists you before, during or after your wedding.

Suppliers and vendors. You don’t have to write everyone you hire for services, but anyone who exceeds your expectations will appreciate a courteous note of thanks.

Your parents or whoever is hosting your wedding.

http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/etiquette/postings/wedding_thankyous.htm

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This is great advice! Thank you my love! You always pull through! MWAH!

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Posted by Jsquared279

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Posted by littlepixie12

From Emily Post's website:

Who needs a thank you note?

Anyone who gives you an engagement, shower or wedding gift, even if you have thanked them in person. Individual notes should be written to people who contributed to a group gift.

Anyone who gives a gift of money: cash, checks, contributions to savings accounts and donations to charities. Mentioning the amount is optional, but it does let the person know the correct amount was received. You should mention what you plan to do with the money.

Your attendants. A warm personal note attached to your gifts to your attendants will let them know how much you appreciate their efforts and support on your behalf.

Anyone who hosted a party or shower for you. Ideally these notes should be written within two days of the event. Each host or hostess should be thanked individually with a note and a thank you gift.

People who house or entertain your wedding guests. A note and a small gift should be sent to anyone who houses or entertains out-of-town wedding guests.

People who do kindnesses for you. The neighbor who accepts delivery of your gifts when you are at work; the cousin who supervises the parking at the reception – anyone who assists you before, during or after your wedding.

Suppliers and vendors. You don’t have to write everyone you hire for services, but anyone who exceeds your expectations will appreciate a courteous note of thanks.

Your parents or whoever is hosting your wedding.

http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/etiquette/postings/wedding_thankyous.htm

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This is great advice! Thank you my love! You always pull through! MWAH!

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Anything for you Jess!!!