thank you's

lyss0908 Posted: Sep 16, 2008 03:15 PM

thank you's

If you have received a check along with an RSVp what is the proper etiquette for sending a than you? Do I send a thank you before the wedding or after??

thenewmrsharrington Posted: Sep 16, 2008 03:16 PM

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i would send a thank you right away.

TrueLoveIn2008 Posted: Sep 16, 2008 03:22 PM

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I got two checks with NO rsvps. One written out to mr. and mrs. XXX - so we can't cash it until after the wedding, which i am sure s u cks for their bank statement but not my fault. I assumed I would thank them later - but they are not people we know at ALL (people FILs said we had to invite but who wouldn't come) so I guess a thank you now, without sending one later with a pic, is ok, right??

lyss0908 Posted: Sep 16, 2008 03:27 PM

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i guess so. I guess I will send one now and maybe one with a pic after the wedding. The main reason I ask is one of the checks is from one of the owners of my company. We deposited it into our joint account. FH signed it since it was for Mr & Mrs.

missexcited Posted: Sep 16, 2008 03:29 PM

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send a thank you now. and then send the 'official' thank you that you would send to everyone else later.

FutureMrs.T Posted: Sep 16, 2008 03:34 PM

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We will be holding all checks until after the wedding to deposit/cash. However, we will send a thank you card when we receive a check with a no response and then follow through with a regular thank you once we deposit the $$

bluegreen08 Posted: Sep 16, 2008 03:37 PM

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we sent out thank yous right away, easy to send them promptly and it eased the burden after the wedding. i'm done with all of my thank yous except for one (have to find out DH's boss's wife's name), or vendors and our no-gifts who I'm waiting longer for.

As far as depositing, my bank (BOA) let us endorse them by having DH write (pay to the order of me, signing it, and then I signed the back). Not sure if that really fixes the problem, but we were able to deposit everything before I legally changed my name. Of course, we didnt know this until one week before the wedding

lyss0908 Posted: Sep 16, 2008 03:42 PM

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so weird, the bank didn't give us a problem even though it was written out to Mr & Mrs.

bluegreen08 Posted: Sep 16, 2008 03:45 PM

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Posted by lyss0908

so weird, the bank didn't give us a problem even though it was written out to Mr & Mrs.

the bank here was fine with DH signing the check over to me (back when the account was just in my name) even though it was 'mr & mrs' or 'jennifer and scott ____' -- you'd think they would need both of us to sign it over, but the money is in our acct so it worked

i guess we deposited so many that the bank didnt even give us a problem withthe one we worried about 'mr and mrs samuel ____' (samuel is DH's middle name -- an older relative must have read the invitation wrong)