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thanks for the advice girls!

Im a Pepper Posted:

thanks for the advice girls!

removed. thanks all!!

lonal Posted:

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If she said no boxed gifts, you could get something from her registry and have it delivered to her house. If your giving money, I would say at least $200. It also depneds on what day it is and where.

Im a Pepper Posted:

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Maria31 Posted:

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I'd say at least $200 but maybe more if it's a Saturday night

Im a Pepper Posted:

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Autumn08 Posted:

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I don't think the day really should determine the gift you give. The guideline I was told to go by was to cover your plate about $100 pp. This does not mean you have to cover your plate so to speak. And it doesn't mean you have to give more if it's a Saturday IMO.

If you can't afford more than that then you should only give what you are comfortable giving.

If you are not attending, you can give a smaller gift.

And on a side note, the invitation did seem to scream cash only which is way tacky.
lonal Posted:

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I don't mean to sound rude but do you definitly want to go? YOui have to travel there and she's not even a close friend.

Im a Pepper Posted:

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FutureMrsLV Posted:

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I woul dbe a ***** and give a boxed gift just because the invitation screamed cash haha.... you seem like your not thrilled about going
if you have to travel and dont tink shes coming to your wedding if you dont totally WANT to go then maybe decline on the invite...
Papillon25 Posted:

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maybe you should just skip it and send $50 or $100.......

sounds like your friend is hosting a fund raiser, never heard of telling people to give you money on an invitation!
sweetdoublenn Posted:

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You deft want to cover the plate. I would say the amt would be $200. If it's what you can afford drop it to a $100. But the going rate is $200.

Good Luck!
Maria31 Posted:

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Posted by Papillon25

maybe you should just skip it and send $50 or $100.......

sounds like your friend is hosting a fund raiser, never heard of telling people to give you money on an invitation!


I agree. If she's not a close friend and you're not thrilled about going (which it doesn't sound like you are)... just skip it and send a smaller amount. GL!
Im a Pepper Posted:

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Im a Pepper Posted:

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Autumn08 Posted:

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Wow everything is wrong on all levels and it just keeps getting worse!

PegaLega Posted:

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If you are 'uncomfortable' about going I wouldnt go and send a gift. And at that point the amount doesnt matter, we received alot of gifts from people who RSVPed no and was shocked regardless of the amount, Some gave more and some gave less-but regardless they sent a gift even tho they didnt come.

I had people who DID NOT travel to my wedding, bring their BFs and only give 150 and less....didnt even cover their plate BUT I understood the situation that they were in.
Im a Pepper Posted:

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bluegreen08 Posted:

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Given the fact that you will be travelling and she's not a close friend, I'd say $200 is a nice gift.

However, with the inconvenience of the trip and the fact that you are strapped for $$$ (+ the cost of round trip gas $$) I'd suggest RSVPing 'no' and sending a smaller gift like $75 or maybe even $100.

You could possibly buy her something nice on sale from Fortunoff or Macys or Crate & Barrel nd then ship it to her but if they are planning to move to CA it really would be an inconvenience to them (even if they are tacky about informing you).

Whatever you feel comfortable with.

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