That ONE difficult person

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Posted by Preshy7

i picked out my bm dresses aug 20th!
all my girls got theirs except one- fsil (fh bro's wife)

after asking her repeatedly to get it - with no emails back- no apology- no reassuring promises, and fh asking her to get it - and her apologizing to him and saying she will send her deposit in- i have now SENT THE DEPOSIT IN MYSELF

please tell me why people are like this

w t f

i am having horrible work day and i have to deal with this!! anyone else have that one difficult person?

thanks for letting me vent

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I think you are an absolute angel for sending in her deposit!! After all the ignored emails and failed attempts to reach her by you and FI, I would have sent her one last email asking her to step down from being a BM. Since she can't seem to find time to get measured and leave a deposit she's obviously too busy for the job. As far as I'm concerned it's really rude of her to be doing this. Your BMs are supposed to help keep you sane, not make things more difficult for you. Sorry, I think I just had a little vent there myself! I just really can't take people like that.

Good luck!!

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

Yes! The flower girls mother, FH's sister! Arggg! Getting a dress for this girl is the most difficult ordeal for no reason! First I picked out a dress and its too expensive, so she says she wants to look in a thrift store. I finally find one for $42!! 42 dollars! Do you think you could get a dress much cheaper than that? She doesn't want to order it now because she thinks the kid will grow too much. Fine. But then she says I should send her a pic of the dress so they can look around and find something similar! WHAT?!? No, I pick out the dress, its my wedding!

ETA: Do I sound like a bridezilla?

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No! Your FSIL sounds like a P.I.T.A!! You are 100% correct. This is your wedding and no, your FG should not wear a dress from a thrift store. $42 is not a lot for a FG dress. Heck I saw ones that were over $200! She should count her blessings you found the dress you did!

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Posted by Jennie0898

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Posted by Preshy7

i picked out my bm dresses aug 20th!
all my girls got theirs except one- fsil (fh bro's wife)

after asking her repeatedly to get it - with no emails back- no apology- no reassuring promises, and fh asking her to get it - and her apologizing to him and saying she will send her deposit in- i have now SENT THE DEPOSIT IN MYSELF

please tell me why people are like this

w t f

i am having horrible work day and i have to deal with this!! anyone else have that one difficult person?

thanks for letting me vent

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I think you are an absolute angel for sending in her deposit!! After all the ignored emails and failed attempts to reach her by you and FI, I would have sent her one last email asking her to step down from being a BM. Since she can't seem to find time to get measured and leave a deposit she's obviously too busy for the job. As far as I'm concerned it's really rude of her to be doing this. Your BMs are supposed to help keep you sane, not make things more difficult for you. Sorry, I think I just had a little vent there myself! I just really can't take people like that.

Good luck!!

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I LOVE YOU FOR THAT NOTE!
UGH THATS HOW I FEEL BUT I CANT EXACTLY ASK HER TO STEP DOWN WHEN ITS MY FH BROTHERS WIFE- AND FH BROTHER IS HIS BEST MAN.

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Posted by Preshy7

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Posted by Jennie0898

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Posted by Preshy7

i picked out my bm dresses aug 20th!
all my girls got theirs except one- fsil (fh bro's wife)

after asking her repeatedly to get it - with no emails back- no apology- no reassuring promises, and fh asking her to get it - and her apologizing to him and saying she will send her deposit in- i have now SENT THE DEPOSIT IN MYSELF

please tell me why people are like this

w t f

i am having horrible work day and i have to deal with this!! anyone else have that one difficult person?

thanks for letting me vent

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I think you are an absolute angel for sending in her deposit!! After all the ignored emails and failed attempts to reach her by you and FI, I would have sent her one last email asking her to step down from being a BM. Since she can't seem to find time to get measured and leave a deposit she's obviously too busy for the job. As far as I'm concerned it's really rude of her to be doing this. Your BMs are supposed to help keep you sane, not make things more difficult for you. Sorry, I think I just had a little vent there myself! I just really can't take people like that.

Good luck!!

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I LOVE YOU FOR THAT NOTE!
UGH THATS HOW I FEEL BUT I CANT EXACTLY ASK HER TO STEP DOWN WHEN ITS MY FH BROTHERS WIFE- AND FH BROTHER IS HIS BEST MAN.

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Awww thanks! I still think you should ask her to step down... put to her sympathetically... Say something like... Look it seems like you really busy and I understand, so if you want to step down I totally understand... then pat her on the head, kick her in the A$$ and send her on her way!!

Sorry you are going through that. That was one of many reasons we left siblings and their spouses out of the BP. They cause more grief, anxiety, drama and problems than non-blood related people. Sorry if this bugs people, but every family has their own stories.

As far as that ONE difficult person? Id have to say it is ME. I make things too hard for myself and get unnecessarily worked up over things I should NOT get worked up about. I dont get BRIDEZILLA-ish, rather I am reasonable and not belligerent. BUT I get anxious and nervous and I can't handle it sometimes. There is too much on my head planning this day.

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Posted by Jennie0898

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Posted by Preshy7

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Posted by Jennie0898

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Posted by Preshy7

i picked out my bm dresses aug 20th!
all my girls got theirs except one- fsil (fh bro's wife)

after asking her repeatedly to get it - with no emails back- no apology- no reassuring promises, and fh asking her to get it - and her apologizing to him and saying she will send her deposit in- i have now SENT THE DEPOSIT IN MYSELF

please tell me why people are like this

w t f

i am having horrible work day and i have to deal with this!! anyone else have that one difficult person?

thanks for letting me vent

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I think you are an absolute angel for sending in her deposit!! After all the ignored emails and failed attempts to reach her by you and FI, I would have sent her one last email asking her to step down from being a BM. Since she can't seem to find time to get measured and leave a deposit she's obviously too busy for the job. As far as I'm concerned it's really rude of her to be doing this. Your BMs are supposed to help keep you sane, not make things more difficult for you. Sorry, I think I just had a little vent there myself! I just really can't take people like that.

Good luck!!

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I LOVE YOU FOR THAT NOTE!
UGH THATS HOW I FEEL BUT I CANT EXACTLY ASK HER TO STEP DOWN WHEN ITS MY FH BROTHERS WIFE- AND FH BROTHER IS HIS BEST MAN.

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Awww thanks! I still think you should ask her to step down... put to her sympathetically... Say something like... Look it seems like you really busy and I understand, so if you want to step down I totally understand... then pat her on the head, kick her in the A$$ and send her on her way!!

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Very well said!!!

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Posted by MrsFelix

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Posted by Jennie0898

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Posted by Preshy7

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Posted by Jennie0898

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Posted by Preshy7

i picked out my bm dresses aug 20th!
all my girls got theirs except one- fsil (fh bro's wife)

after asking her repeatedly to get it - with no emails back- no apology- no reassuring promises, and fh asking her to get it - and her apologizing to him and saying she will send her deposit in- i have now SENT THE DEPOSIT IN MYSELF

please tell me why people are like this

w t f

i am having horrible work day and i have to deal with this!! anyone else have that one difficult person?

thanks for letting me vent

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I think you are an absolute angel for sending in her deposit!! After all the ignored emails and failed attempts to reach her by you and FI, I would have sent her one last email asking her to step down from being a BM. Since she can't seem to find time to get measured and leave a deposit she's obviously too busy for the job. As far as I'm concerned it's really rude of her to be doing this. Your BMs are supposed to help keep you sane, not make things more difficult for you. Sorry, I think I just had a little vent there myself! I just really can't take people like that.

Good luck!!

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I LOVE YOU FOR THAT NOTE!
UGH THATS HOW I FEEL BUT I CANT EXACTLY ASK HER TO STEP DOWN WHEN ITS MY FH BROTHERS WIFE- AND FH BROTHER IS HIS BEST MAN.

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Awww thanks! I still think you should ask her to step down... put to her sympathetically... Say something like... Look it seems like you really busy and I understand, so if you want to step down I totally understand... then pat her on the head, kick her in the A$$ and send her on her way!!

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Very well said!!!

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Thanks! I just really have a hard time with difficult people... Especially when it's family. Not to mention, this girl's married, so she knows what it's like.

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Posted by Jennie0898

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Posted by Preshy7

i picked out my bm dresses aug 20th!
all my girls got theirs except one- fsil (fh bro's wife)

after asking her repeatedly to get it - with no emails back- no apology- no reassuring promises, and fh asking her to get it - and her apologizing to him and saying she will send her deposit in- i have now SENT THE DEPOSIT IN MYSELF

please tell me why people are like this

w t f

i am having horrible work day and i have to deal with this!! anyone else have that one difficult person?

thanks for letting me vent

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I think you are an absolute angel for sending in her deposit!! After all the ignored emails and failed attempts to reach her by you and FI, I would have sent her one last email asking her to step down from being a BM. Since she can't seem to find time to get measured and leave a deposit she's obviously too busy for the job. As far as I'm concerned it's really rude of her to be doing this. Your BMs are supposed to help keep you sane, not make things more difficult for you. Sorry, I think I just had a little vent there myself! I just really can't take people like that.

Good luck!!

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i have to agree. it seems by sending in the deposit you are doing a lot of bending for your 'future' family. i am not sure what i would do - because it is not YOUR SIL but rather FH's SIL - its like a foreign territory - your not sure of the boundaries. i just hope FH's family realizes what a big person you are and appreciates you.

good luck!!!

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Posted by mtdr1106

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Posted by Jennie0898

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Posted by Preshy7

i picked out my bm dresses aug 20th!
all my girls got theirs except one- fsil (fh bro's wife)

after asking her repeatedly to get it - with no emails back- no apology- no reassuring promises, and fh asking her to get it - and her apologizing to him and saying she will send her deposit in- i have now SENT THE DEPOSIT IN MYSELF

please tell me why people are like this

w t f

i am having horrible work day and i have to deal with this!! anyone else have that one difficult person?

thanks for letting me vent

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I think you are an absolute angel for sending in her deposit!! After all the ignored emails and failed attempts to reach her by you and FI, I would have sent her one last email asking her to step down from being a BM. Since she can't seem to find time to get measured and leave a deposit she's obviously too busy for the job. As far as I'm concerned it's really rude of her to be doing this. Your BMs are supposed to help keep you sane, not make things more difficult for you. Sorry, I think I just had a little vent there myself! I just really can't take people like that.

Good luck!!

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i have to agree. it seems by sending in the deposit you are doing a lot of bending for your 'future' family. i am not sure what i would do - because it is not YOUR SIL but rather FH's SIL - its like a foreign territory - your not sure of the boundaries. i just hope FH's family realizes what a big person you are and appreciates you.

good luck!!!

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hes good - he told me to send it in and he gave me the money for it- he knows im getting upset.

i spoke to him today to tell him the bridal salon received my overnighted check. he said she send the money on satuday.

naturally i called the salon. they did receive MY check- but not hers (of course not)
anyway, its just annoying.

he said she was waitting to lose weight- but makes no sense- why not at least TELL me that

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Posted by Preshy7

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Posted by mtdr1106

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Posted by Jennie0898

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Posted by Preshy7

i picked out my bm dresses aug 20th!
all my girls got theirs except one- fsil (fh bro's wife)

after asking her repeatedly to get it - with no emails back- no apology- no reassuring promises, and fh asking her to get it - and her apologizing to him and saying she will send her deposit in- i have now SENT THE DEPOSIT IN MYSELF

please tell me why people are like this

w t f

i am having horrible work day and i have to deal with this!! anyone else have that one difficult person?

thanks for letting me vent

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I think you are an absolute angel for sending in her deposit!! After all the ignored emails and failed attempts to reach her by you and FI, I would have sent her one last email asking her to step down from being a BM. Since she can't seem to find time to get measured and leave a deposit she's obviously too busy for the job. As far as I'm concerned it's really rude of her to be doing this. Your BMs are supposed to help keep you sane, not make things more difficult for you. Sorry, I think I just had a little vent there myself! I just really can't take people like that.

Good luck!!

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i have to agree. it seems by sending in the deposit you are doing a lot of bending for your 'future' family. i am not sure what i would do - because it is not YOUR SIL but rather FH's SIL - its like a foreign territory - your not sure of the boundaries. i just hope FH's family realizes what a big person you are and appreciates you.

good luck!!!

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hes good - he told me to send it in and he gave me the money for it- he knows im getting upset.

i spoke to him today to tell him the bridal salon received my overnighted check. he said she send the money on satuday.

naturally i called the salon. they did receive MY check- but not hers (of course not)
anyway, its just annoying.

he said she was waitting to lose weight- but makes no sense- why not at least TELL me that

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Sounds like a really cr@py excuse to me. As I said before... You are an angel for sending that money!!! And kudos to FI for understanding and giving you the money for her.

thanks!! by the way, i got engaged same date as you (from your website) and were both using the same flowers people

i also love you dress