The baby question

pauladanielle Posted: Mar 27, 2012 02:23 PM

The baby question

I'm young, and I will just be finishing college when I tie the knot. Even so, family members (especially the ones on FH's side), think it's appropriate to keep asking when we will be giving them grandchildren/nieces/nephews etc and are offended when we say we don't plan on it any time soon. I get the question - why get married if you aren't ready to start a family? - all the time all of a sudden. Does anyone else seem to be getting that same pressure?

net267 Posted: Mar 27, 2012 02:32 PM

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Marriage is not about having kids but having a life with each other. If kids is what you want then great but do it in your own time.
For me, I'll be just shy of 35 before I walk down the isle and have only recently talked of having children. I will still be in no rush once we are married. If its in the cards it will happen.
Don't let people pressure your decisions. I just smile and nod!

KDNY133 Posted: Mar 27, 2012 02:55 PM

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I started a family before i was ready to get married I wouldn't sweat it....I think its more excitement on there part. I used to get asked that question about kids when i was single

Bride2012 Posted: Mar 27, 2012 02:56 PM

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I found it very rude!!! I get a lot of pressure as well. A co-worker even told me my biological clock is ticking and I'm not even married. Like really?!? One its no ones business but yours and your fh and two there is no time line you have to follow. People have kids before marriage. Just keep doing what you are doing and keep responses short, sweet and change the subject quick. I plan to go back to school before I think about kids. People get married all the time and don't have kids.

chrissie0121 Posted: Mar 27, 2012 02:59 PM

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I used to get asked this question, up until my sister in law just told us she was expecting! So now it is no pressure on us, which is good thing for nice. Since I want to enjoy married life and travel and do things together before we settle down to start a family!

cdh2672 Posted: Mar 27, 2012 03:14 PM

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It's inevitable that people will ask, esp right after you get married.... I'm not looking forward to that question LOL. I'll just say 'if it happens, you'll be the first to know' and smile lol

pauladanielle Posted: Mar 27, 2012 03:51 PM

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Posted by cdh2672

It's inevitable that people will ask, esp right after you get married.... I'm not looking forward to that question LOL. I'll just say 'if it happens, you'll be the first to know' and smile lol

LOL!

Thanks everyone. I'm just excited to start a life with my fiance and I'm glad that I'm not the only one. One big commitment at a time! :P

barbeik005 Posted: Mar 27, 2012 05:06 PM

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Yep - I'm 25 years old! My Mom had 3 kids by the time she was 24. I keep getting 'when I was your age, I had 3 kids' Ugh.

queenofhaerts Posted: Mar 27, 2012 06:07 PM

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I'm pretty sure my family is avoiding the question because they don't want to hear a certain answer.lol. I'm the oldest of my siblings...I'm pretty sure my parents want to hold off on being grandparents for a while. Good thing, because like many of you I want to enjoy being married and travel for a few years!

JuneBug86 Posted: Mar 27, 2012 06:45 PM

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Family members always have something to ask about, when my Fiance and I were still dating the question was 'when are you guys getting married?' ALL THE TIME...Now that we're actually engaged, the question is 'So when are you going to have kids?' We just shrug it off, it's our lives and if it happens it happens but for now we're just enjoying each other, so don't let anyone pressure you.

pinkbunny Posted: Mar 27, 2012 07:08 PM

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I agree... It is easier just to laugh it off.

We were always asked... when are you getting engaged. We get engaged, then its when are you getting married. When we get married it will be...so when are you having kids. Then you have a kid....so when is the next one coming?

FH and I both still live at home. I would like my OWN space with just FH and I for a while!

tara5533 Posted: Mar 27, 2012 08:42 PM

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Its a question that everybody ask lol I am going to start to try and have kids right after we get married

ChristineNorah Posted: Mar 27, 2012 09:59 PM

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It seems to be a very popular and highly inappropriate question. I personally would never ask someone a question like that. I tell people who won't stop asking that I am barren. That usually takes care of it.

Bride2Be78 Posted: Mar 27, 2012 10:09 PM

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Ughhh people are so rude. People have already started with are you going to start a family right away. Let us get married first. Geez! LOL

hisbride2012 Posted: Mar 27, 2012 11:27 PM

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If you have the money for starting a family, then hey great!

kattus Posted: Mar 28, 2012 06:29 AM

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Around the time i got engaged, a family friend asked WHEN we wanted kids, and I said 'oh, we're not going to have them,' to which she responded 'I'm so sorry to hear that!'

futuremorasse Posted: Mar 28, 2012 09:50 AM

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The only person bugging me about this one is my 10 year old sister! She wants to be an aunt so bad. Everyone else that has asked had agreed that we should enjoy married life for a while.