the NERVE... family vent...

so about 2 years ago my cousin (3rd or 4th cousin) got married. we arent close but we were friendly when we were kids and see each other and are generally friendly at larger family functions. she DID NOT invite me to her wedding. HOWEVER, she DID invite my mom and my grandma, who i lived with at the time. i really felt bad about it since all of the other cousins were invited, and 1 was even in her wedding party. i wanted my mom to not go but having no morales she insisted that she HAD to take my grandma (my uncle easily couldve taken her)...

anyway fast fwd to now and its my wedding. i am nice enough to actually invite her whole family including her and her now husband. so i sent STDs about a month ago. i sent one to her moms house for 'and family' since they were informal and i didnt have enough for everyone. her mom actually has the audacity to call my cousin (who happens to be in my bridal party) and ask if i had the right address for her daughter since she didnt receive her own.. to make matters worse my BM cousin lies and says it got lost in the mail even though she KNEW i didnt send her one.. so then the aunt calls MY mom (although I am sure that it was for 'other reasons') and asks the same thing. so MY MOM lies to the aunt also saying it got lost in the mail.

what is wrong with people?!
#1 - aunt should have called ME
#2 - ok fine maybe my BM cousin was not the right person to tell aunt the truth but MY MOM didnt have to lie

why do people lie?? i want to call the aunt tomorrow and tell her the truth - that i ran out and since i wasnt important enough to be invited to her daughters wedding - she wasnt important enough to receive her own STD even though she IS invited to my wedding...
it disgusts me...
this is my first family-related wedding vent ever - and i hope its my last

weddings bring out the worst in people... and the most frustrating!! i am sorry this is happening. the only thing i could think of is she called your mom because if your cousin wasn't invited, she didn't want to assume anything and offend you??

I'm sorry, but what a$$es. Sorry!!!

How Fustrating!!! I swear, sometimes family can be so annoying!!! Sorry you have to deal with this!!! Here's a

ugh!! i just wish my mom didnt LIE! that makes it that much worse.. i know the rest of my fam gave her grief when she didnt invite me to the wedding so you think she would get the point.. she was invited to my engagement party AND the STD said AND FAMILY so she knew she was invited to the wedding. but this really makes me want to UNINVITE THEM ALL!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree...i dont like when people lie to try and cover something up as if they have something to be ashamed of. Your mother should of told her the truth and stood up for you by telling her well since my daughter was not even invited to her wedding my daughter decided to save her invitations and send one per family. And if they dont like it too bad. If anything your Aunt should feel ashamed that her and her daughter didnt invite you! People are ridiculous

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Posted by FlowerBride

ugh!! i just wish my mom didnt LIE! that makes it that much worse.. i know the rest of my fam gave her grief when she didnt invite me to the wedding so you think she would get the point.. she was invited to my engagement party AND the STD said AND FAMILY so she knew she was invited to the wedding. but this really makes me want to UNINVITE THEM ALL!!!!!!!!!!!

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and rightfully so!!! Maybe you can tell your aunt that the STD got lost in the mail the same way your invite to your cousins wedding got lost in the mail!!!

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Posted by diva7531

So sorry you are going thru this. F&$K your cousin, I hate when people get mightier than thou. Try to let it go unless Aunt or cousin don't, then be polite as possible. Then after you have all your envelopes at the wedding turn and say 'Oh, I'm so sorry again about the STD, must have gotten lost in the mail, just like my invite to your wedding!'

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I just wrote the same thing!!!!!!!!

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Posted by MimiMcG

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Posted by FlowerBride

ugh!! i just wish my mom didnt LIE! that makes it that much worse.. i know the rest of my fam gave her grief when she didnt invite me to the wedding so you think she would get the point.. she was invited to my engagement party AND the STD said AND FAMILY so she knew she was invited to the wedding. but this really makes me want to UNINVITE THEM ALL!!!!!!!!!!!

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and rightfully so!!! Maybe you can tell your aunt that the STD got lost in the mail the same way your invite to your cousins wedding got lost in the mail!!!

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thanks for making me laugh about this -
i really need that!!

that is some serious audacity! so what she thinks its okay for you to not get invited to her daughter's wedding but you are obligated to invite her to yours? arghhh totally feel for you hun!

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Posted by diva7531

So sorry you are going thru this. F&$K your cousin, I hate when people get mightier than thou. Try to let it go unless Aunt or cousin don't, then be polite as possible. Then after you have all your envelopes at the wedding turn and say 'Oh, I'm so sorry again about the STD, must have gotten lost in the mail, just like my invite to your wedding!'

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I was going to say the same thing! LOL

i would call the aunt and let her know that you didn't send her one. Just say you didn't think it was necessary. And leave it at that.

people have some nerve!

I am so sorry--unfortunately, weddings bring out the worst in people.

Your mom shouldn't have lied though and told your aunt the truth--it was a great excuse to confront the situation. I know that we didn't invite one of FH's first cousins because he did not invite him to his own wedding (but invited his dad and other family). When he found out, his dad was honest and told them.