Theresa's not been posting today...........

Thanks Chippa. You would think I said that missmm was the cause of it. Some people

In the immortal words of Rodney King, 'Can't we all just get along'!!!!

If you do not like something that was posted it is so much easier to not comment!! Just ignore the post. Like my grandma tells me all the time,
'If you do not have something nice to to say, say nothing at all'.

Here is another good one I heard at church. My minister says that everythign that you say (or write) should be:

1. True
2. Helpful
3. Necessary

If it does not meet all 3 criteria it is wasted breath.

Crisco

Chipp: Maybe you are right and i do not know the whole situation. I know you are defending her. All i wanted to get across was that maybe she just needed a break...

As for me being rude to liz, in my post i said i do not want to start this whole stupid thing. Simply stating an opinion. You are both right that you can defend her all i am gettingat is that their is no need to tell people they offended her. Saying that does not do anything bc it happend already. No need to bring it up again.

Also, I really do not think i was the only rude one...
the only person I should here 'how dare you' from is my mother...

Ok let's fm if we need to continue this

Well, if the only person you should here 'how dare you' from is your Mother, then I could say the same about the comment ' you are getting a little out of control here' .
I only tried to say I would voice my opinion. I could bring it up if I choose. I only got rude after you told me I was out of control, which was uncalled for.

And no need to FM.

ok that's enough don't you think???

Fine its your opinion but ours is a fact. There are people on here who I think look for posts from T just so they can bash her and call her names.

There are people on here who get out of line and are downright mean to her.

Some of her posts even pull out people who never post on some boards. I am not naming names but I will tell you person A who rarely posts on a certain boards all of sudden started attacking T, then we never saw this person that board again.

There are people who are intentionally mean to her. Liz is making an obvious point to those individuals saying ok well because of you T isnt posting.

No names were posted but those people know who they are. Whether they are happy or not about there actions towards a fellow bride causing her to be so mad that she has now stopped posting really upstes me.

Its just a general observation. Just like when we post if someone has a new title, this is an observation that because of certain individuals Theresa has refussed to post.

I would like to chime in and say that I think its very sweet that you guys are standing up for your friend..I would definately do the same. And I dont know exactly what happend and I have to admit that sometimes T shocks me with some of her comments but I always take a step back and realize just because she is not like me, that doesnt make her bad in any way.

I hope she decides to come back on these boards cause when i come home from work at night, I look foward to her funny, honest posts that sometimes make me laught and to be honest, sometimes make me angry. But to me, that is the joy of these boards, being able to disagree elegantly.

So, T if you read this, true no one is going to agree with you all of the time but I dont think its fair that people post negatively about you wherever you may go..dont let them win, there are obviously people here who love and care about you and thats what matters!

And to those who have stuck up for her, more power to ya..you r wonderful friends!

ok...well i am sure she will like to see that the both of you care this much about her

I must say, when T first started posting, even I was a little shocked at her openness and honesty. But also amused. I enjoy her soo much. Once anyone gets to know her, they would see she is such a sweet caring person. So full of life, she always makes my day one way or another. I'm glad I got to know her.
I do hope she reads this post and comes back

I hope she comes back also i find her to be very intriguing

Liz, Chipp, I completely and totally agree with both of you. And thank you for saying something, because the next time this happens to her in a post I'm not going to keep my mouth shut for sake of peace.

I said this before a loooonnng time ago. When she posts, the etiquette police swoop in, and only for the sole purpose of bashing something she said for no other reason but to start with her. It's happened sooooo many times it's ridiculous. And then the very same people scream 'let's keep this off the boards!' when other people do this. They look for her posts, read them, and expect to not like something she says...if you don't like it, DON'T POST, and everyone just needs to start PRACTICING WHAT THEY PREACH.

Theresa is a spitfire, and that's what gives this board life, and she's the same person off this board as she is on it. And like I said a long time ago, we are all having very different and distinct weddings, we all lead very different lives, and with the exception of the engagement rings on our fingers (and even those are different), there might not be a lot we have in common. I will be ****ed if I am going to insult anyone's wedding choices, anyone's idea of what is proper...and I will be ****ed if I am going to let girls on this site get attacked for any of it when they just don't deserve it.

Now I've said my peace. Thank you.

thanks mistyeyed

I think it is a shame that many brides on here feel that they have to take breaks b/c they are being attacked. This board is for us to help one another and we should all learn - what is the phrase- you attract more bees with honey.... I hope that Theresa and any other bride who has left due to negative comments will feel comfortable coming back soon - We really need each other to bounce ideas off of and to helps us relieve the stress of planning not use the boards to make more stress for ourselves

Thanks Misty

I have to say that the only reason I noticed Theresa hadn't been posting was because by the end of the day there wasn't any major drama.

Until this thread was started....

And I suppose you're staying out of the drama by posting that comment..............