FH and I have been fighting a lot over money lately. Really bad fights. Since he is out of work and I am not getting paid for the next couple of weeks because schools closed we are really strapped for cash. We think we are going to have to postpone the wedding and what's worse is break the lease we have and individually move home. I'm devastated. I just don't know what to do or say.
MrsC2010
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im so sorry you are having a rough time. i know money can add a lot of stress but both you of you just have to remember how much you love each other!
postponing the wedding would stink but wouldn't be the end of the world if you had to do it...
as for moving...would one of your parents let both of you live there so you can at least stay together? I know before my sister got married her and her now husband moved into my moms basement for a little...maybe u could check with ur parents?!
GR2010
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I am sorry you're going through this... money is like the #1 thing couples fight over, so you are not alone there. Pushing back the wedding is always an idea and it's not a bad one. It doesn't mean you're not getting married, it's just giving you more time. And who wouldn't want more time to save for their wedding!?!? If you pushed it off 6 months you could get married in August when school is out!!
Hang in there. These things have a way of working themselves out.
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thats very sad to hear, im so sorry... i was in a similar situation not too long ago so i can relate to feeling pretty down in the dumps. but think about the good side-you guys can get back on your feet, save even more $$, and have an even better wedding!!! try to stay positive...
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I'm sorry. Give it time, he'll find work and you'll be fine! We were in a similar situation recently and things are finally working out just like everyone told us they would!
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angelatp
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So sorry to hear, I really hope things work out
mrsdraskin2009
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I am sure everything will work out...stay positive
DaniandKen2010
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BREATHE..I know its easier said than done but you have to breathe. I got laid off in Jan and got a new job in June so I understand the money fights. If you have to postpone, postpone, you are not cancelling. We are slowly catching up on bills and even with a late 2010 wedding I am still worried on how we are going to pay for everything.
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Stay positive. Make the decision that's best for you collectively. Money is the worse thing to fight about...so sorry you guys are going through it.
futuremrsjc2010
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Awww im sorry to hear that :( Ive been going through a similar situation as well. Hang in there, im sure things will get better for you guys
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You have to think positive and stay strong and don't let this interfere with your feelings and let you guys get into a fight over it.....
If you have to move back with your parents, it isn't that bad at all, trust me.....FH and I don't live together and it isn't that bad - we actually REALLY look foward to moving in after we get married....
Everything will totally work out and you guys will look back and realize that no matter what, you guys will always stick it through!!!
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im really sorry to hear this. just be there for eachtoerh and make the decisions that are best for you LONG TERM. you plan to be together forever...so take things one day at a time and think about when things get better
if you ever need to talk let me know
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We went through this too. FH didn't find a job until July 2009. What helped us is that we set a date and if he didn't find a job by _________ date. We agreed to postphone the wedding until October 2010.
It's important that both of you are on the same page, and that you both have a plan.
When FH wasn't working I didn't book any vendors unless he was able to give me half of the deposit. It's still that way, we made a plan that each vendor be split down the middle. Until we're married this is how we work it. I'm superstitious and you never know what's going to happen... and we didn't want to bring any resentment into the relationship about one of us putting more money into the wedding over the other. It's what works FOR US.
We both live at home, and it KILLS us... but it enables us to save money for the wedding, and for security for an apartment, but it does make us enjoy our weekends that much more.
Just relax... sit down with each other when you're NOT arguing and make a plan. It'll all work out in the end, you both love each other and want to make this work.
Im so sorry you are going through this, money can cause alot of strain in relationships whether planning a wedding or not. And being out of a job I can only imagnine how much more stressful that can make things. Pushing the wedding back won't be the worst thing in the world trust me you would rather that then be fighting constantly and stressed constantly.
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i am so sorry to hear about that! I really hope things work out for you guys!...
Katlyco
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Although planning a wedding is fun it can be VERY stressful. I've learned this first hand as well, especially when it comes to saving money. There were times where I was afraid because we were fighting SOOOO MUCH, but things calmed down and we were able to figure out a system.
It's going to be hard work to save the money but you will and you will have a beautiful wedding! You and FH have to work as a team, not agaisnt eachother.
HTH!!
Feel better girl
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Jna2010
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sorry youre going through this, it is very straining on a relationship, what about something part time to just get the monet flowing? like waitressing, babysitting, bartending, working in a store ANYTHING?
postponing isnt all that bad ya know, theres no rush to get married i know it s u c k s cuz youve been planning it and all but sometimes its just not viable
